Why is it so hard to understand.....

cmelliott · September 2013

Maggie0829 said:

cmelliott said:

I have never come across a honeymoon registry but I will definitely know to stay away from them now, especially when it charges you a fee to give on it.

But you are perfectly fine asking for money through a gift card registry.

Yup. Mine doesn't charge a fee like a honeymoon registry.

daveANDkristen · September 2013

cmelliott said:

Oh, I'm here to stay now lol. I love me some good debate and I probably should be here to back up the poor people you attack. I just feel sorry for the others who come here asking simple questions and get bombarded with "how dare you, you're so rude, you should be ashamed".

IT'S A FUCKING ETIQUETTE FORUM.

The regs that you think are so mean? We got this way because of people like you who are looking for their rude ideas to be validated, rather than be informed of the proper etiquette. The "poor people we attack" should probably go pick up a Miss Manners book. Problem is, Miss Manners isn't going to have a back and forth conversation to help you further understand.

cmelliott · September 2013

daveANDkristen said:

cmelliott said:

Oh, I'm here to stay now lol. I love me some good debate and I probably should be here to back up the poor people you attack. I just feel sorry for the others who come here asking simple questions and get bombarded with "how dare you, you're so rude, you should be ashamed".

IT'S A FUCKING ETIQUETTE FORUM.

The regs that you think are so mean? We got this way because of people like you who are looking for their rude ideas to be validated, rather than be informed of the proper etiquette. The "poor people we attack" should probably go pick up a Miss Manners book. Problem is, Miss Manners isn't going to have a back and forth conversation to help you further understand.

Au contraire, there is no back and forth conversation. There is "how dare you, you should be ashamed, go out back and shoot yourself" sort of mentality here. You attack the poor newbies and make them feel like shit instead of politely explaining why it may be not good etiquette or how they should change it.

cowgirl8238 · September 2013

@cmelliot stop being a troll...between this posting and the tattoo cover ups I beginning to think the only reason you are on here is to start shit with others and turn around to play the victim card...not happening with me...

I suggest we all stop feeding her, lest we unleash the curse of the gremlins:

daveANDkristen · September 2013

cmelliott said:

Au contraire, there is no back and forth conversation. There is "how dare you, you should be ashamed, go out back and shoot yourself" sort of mentality here. You attack the poor newbies and make them feel like shit instead of politely explaining why it may be not good etiquette or how they should change it.

Au contraire, there is back and forth conversation, but none of it supports your opinion and is therefore "attacking" We were all newbies once, so obviously all newbies aren't made to feel like shit and run away crying. I explained WHY cash/gift card registries are rude and gift grabby, but you didn't like my answer. I didn't tell you to go out back and shoot yourself FFS. You obviously can't stand that you might be wrong about something and instead of trying to see it from the other side, you continue to defend your rude behavior.

cmelliott · September 2013

daveANDkristen said:

cmelliott said:

Au contraire, there is no back and forth conversation. There is "how dare you, you should be ashamed, go out back and shoot yourself" sort of mentality here. You attack the poor newbies and make them feel like shit instead of politely explaining why it may be not good etiquette or how they should change it.
Au contraire, there is back and forth conversation, but none of it supports your opinion and is therefore "attacking" We were all newbies once, so obviously all newbies aren't made to feel like shit and run away crying. I explained WHY cash/gift card registries are rude and gift grabby, but you didn't like my answer. I didn't tell you to go out back and shoot yourself FFS. You obviously can't stand that you might be wrong about something and instead of trying to see it from the other side, you continue to defend your rude behavior.

No, I completely get where you guys are coming from with the cash. I just see what you guys do to people on other forums And the first question I ever asked here I got attacked for multiple reasons that had nothing to do with my question. It was very offputting. I had to keep referring back to my actual question and one lonely, kind soul actually answered lol. Even in this forum, instead of explaining your case you just call me names or get angry that I disagree.

delujm0 · September 2013

ok back to the gift card registry...i guess i don't understand the point of this? if i wanted to get someone a gift card for a wedding gift, i would just get a gift card from one of the stores where they had a physical registry - because i'd assume that they'd be able to use that to complete their registry (i have sent gift cards like this as gifts for weddings that are out of town and i can't attend). i wouldn't just give someone a random gift card..i mean maybe i'd do a Visa or American Express one, but those are basically cash, and i'd rather write a check in that case.

i guess i just don't see why anyone would ever need one of these. in my opinion, the physical registry and cash are the only options, with a slight possibility of a gift card to one of the registry locations. Right?

cmelliott · September 2013

delujm0 said:

ok back to the gift card registry...i guess i don't understand the point of this? if i wanted to get someone a gift card for a wedding gift, i would just get a gift card from one of the stores where they had a physical registry - because i'd assume that they'd be able to use that to complete their registry (i have sent gift cards like this as gifts for weddings that are out of town and i can't attend). i wouldn't just give someone a random gift card..i mean maybe i'd do a Visa or American Express one, but those are basically cash, and i'd rather write a check in that case.

i guess i just don't see why anyone would ever need one of these. in my opinion, the physical registry and cash are the only options, with a slight possibility of a gift card to one of the registry locations. Right?

Good point of topic, we're actually having a conversation now. Well the reason I created a gift card registry was to add stores you can't register at, such as amazon. At least I don't think you can register there...lol Also it gives people a way to buy a gift card without having to trek to a store. This is why I did it.

daveANDkristen · September 2013

1. Yes, you can register on Amazon. It's pretty obvious if you go on their website.

2. I didn't understand your question in the Meal Cards thread, and I would assume I'm not the only one. Maybe everyone harped on your "vendors get chicken" thing because the question was confusing, IDK.

Maggie0829 · September 2013

@cmelliott - please go back to your "Meal Cards" thread and please point out where the hell anyone attacked you. No one attacked you. Did people ask questions about what you were doing? Sure, because honestly it didn't really make much sense. But no one attacked you.

cmelliott · September 2013

Maggie0829 said:

@cmelliott - please go back to your "Meal Cards" thread and please point out where the hell anyone attacked you. No one attacked you. Did people ask questions about what you were doing? Sure, because honestly it didn't really make much sense. But no one attacked you.

Everyone began treating me like I was rude and evil to give them chicken and also question my choice of having no assigned seating when the one question that I asked was whether I should include meal cards for them as well, didn't ask an opinion on food options or seating. I thought that question pretty straightforward lol.

Salsera29 · September 2013

@daveANDkristen I am very much enjoying your gratuitous use of the word "fuck" today. No sarcasm. Imagine the McDonald's jingle..."I'm lovin' it!"

cmelliott · September 2013

daveANDkristen said:

1. Yes, you can register on Amazon. It's pretty obvious if you go on their website.

2. I didn't understand your question in the Meal Cards thread, and I would assume I'm not the only one. Maybe everyone harped on your "vendors get chicken" thing because the question was confusing, IDK

there's an obvious wedding registry on amazon? Cause i could never find it. Can you show it to me?

misshart00 · September 2013

Okay, here's something funny about the Card Avenue registry. I was looking through the site to find the appeal. If you (general you who registers at this website) get an email that someone bought you something, don't expect to get it. In the less than 5 minutes I was on there, I accidentally "bought" someone a $200 gift card. It showed on their registry as bought, but it didn't ask me for any information; it didn't ask for me to register for the site; they have no information to get a gift card from me. It just redirects to the target (or whatever store) website and tells you to buy the card. I find this hilarious. Sorry poor couple who thinks theyre getting $200.

cmelliott · September 2013

misshart00 said:

Okay, here's something funny about the Card Avenue registry. I was looking through the site to find the appeal. If you (general you who registers at this website) get an email that someone bought you something, don't expect to get it. In the less than 5 minutes I was on there, I accidentally "bought" someone a $200 gift card. It showed on their registry as bought, but it didn't ask me for any information; it didn't ask for me to register for the site; they have no information to get a gift card from me. It just redirects to the target (or whatever store) website and tells you to buy the card. I find this hilarious. Sorry poor couple who thinks theyre getting $200.

Yes it direct you to the site and card avenue helps keep track of what's been bought where. it states directly on card avenue that you get redirected.

Salsera29 · September 2013

@cmelliot

http://www.amazon.com/gp/wedding/homepage?ie=UTF8&ref_=sd_allcat_wreg

There's 30 seconds of my life I will never get back. You're welcome.

delujm0 · September 2013

Let me flip this the other way: if i saw that someone had a gift card registry, and i was intending to give them a check, i would be like "ok well i guess they really want gift cards, so i'll give them that instead." That's, to me, a good non-etiquette-related reason to not do a gift card registry. Anyone in the world would prefer cash to a gift card. And, as i said, any guest that truly wanted to give a gift card (which would surely not be many people) would just give you one from one of your registry places, right?

I don't know many people that would give a gift card if they wouldn't give cash. There are two kinds of people: physical gift people and cash people. And i'd personally rather have the cash. a gift card registry seems like a sure-fire way to wind up with dozens of partially-used and unused gift cards laying around the house, which is the worst, instead of cold hard cash that you can use to buy anything you want at any time.

For some reason, i don't find the gift card registry as outright rude as the honeymoon registry is (i don't know why i feel this way), but i also have absolutely no idea why it exists. I can't really see any upside to having one.

climbingsingle · September 2013

http://www.amazon.com/gp/wedding/homepage/

Maggie0829 · September 2013

cmelliott said:

Maggie0829 said:

@cmelliott - please go back to your "Meal Cards" thread and please point out where the hell anyone attacked you. No one attacked you. Did people ask questions about what you were doing? Sure, because honestly it didn't really make much sense. But no one attacked you.

Everyone began treating me like I was rude and evil to give them chicken and also question my choice of having no assigned seating when the one question that I asked was whether I should include meal cards for them as well, didn't ask an opinion on food options or seating. I thought that question pretty straightforward lol.

Again I ask you to point out specific examples. We were confused as to why you wouldn't just ask which item they would prefer. We had no way of knowing that they had already said they were ok with chicken thus the questions.
With forums, as you are finding out, you may ask a question but you also provide other information in your posts. We as posters can only go off what you write. So we ask questions and comment on your entire post while still answering your question.
For example if I wrote a post about a friend of mine who has been being a pain in my ass because she always wears the color pink and that because of this I would like to kill her. And I ask "should I use a gun or an ax?" I am pretty positive that posters will reply with "You shouldn't kill her." "You are an idiot to want to kill someone over a color that she wears." Etc, etc. No one would respond with "Use the gun." They would comment on the fact that what I want to do is not a good idea.

So if you don't want other comments or opinions then I don't think forums are really for you.

NYCMercedes · September 2013

http://www.amazon.com/gp/wedding/homepage

Swazzle · September 2013

cmelliott said:

daveANDkristen said:

1. Yes, you can register on Amazon. It's pretty obvious if you go on their website.

2. I didn't understand your question in the Meal Cards thread, and I would assume I'm not the only one. Maybe everyone harped on your "vendors get chicken" thing because the question was confusing, IDK

there's an obvious wedding registry on amazon? Cause i could never find it. Can you show it to me?

http://www.amazon.com/gp/wedding/homepage

misshart00 · September 2013

I love how many people posted the amazon registry. And it's on a drop down on the home page. Not hard to find.

cowgirl8238 · September 2013

@misshart00 I was laughing at that myself...so easy to find it!

cmelliott · September 2013

this quoting is getting on my nerves lol. thank you all for the amazon registry. i'm so sorry salsera that it wore you out so much, maybe take a break afterwards? and @maggie, the point of my question had nothing to do with the choice of meal or not having assigned seating. it didn't bother me that people commented on that, it was annoying that not only did you attack me about not letting them have a choice, but you also DIDN'T EVEN ANSWER MY QUESTION. And if you would like me to go back and get specific examples I surely can.

Maggie0829 · September 2013

cmelliott said:

misshart00 said:

Okay, here's something funny about the Card Avenue registry. I was looking through the site to find the appeal. If you (general you who registers at this website) get an email that someone bought you something, don't expect to get it. In the less than 5 minutes I was on there, I accidentally "bought" someone a $200 gift card. It showed on their registry as bought, but it didn't ask me for any information; it didn't ask for me to register for the site; they have no information to get a gift card from me. It just redirects to the target (or whatever store) website and tells you to buy the card. I find this hilarious. Sorry poor couple who thinks theyre getting $200.

Yes it direct you to the site and card avenue helps keep track of what's been bought where. it states directly on card avenue that you get redirected.

This has to be the dumbest fucking registry on the face of the planet. It even beats out any HM registry as the dumbest thing ever.

daveANDkristen · September 2013

cmelliott said:

daveANDkristen said:

1. Yes, you can register on Amazon. It's pretty obvious if you go on their website.

2. I didn't understand your question in the Meal Cards thread, and I would assume I'm not the only one. Maybe everyone harped on your "vendors get chicken" thing because the question was confusing, IDK

there's an obvious wedding registry on amazon? Cause i could never find it. Can you show it to me?

Yes, on the home page, at the far right of the search bar, it says "Wish List" with a dropdown menu. Registries are among the options. They also have a Universal Registry feature, where you could link items from other websites, like if you really liked a handful of items from this store or that, but didn't want to create a whole registry there. They would appear on your Amazon registry and if someone wanted to purchase it they would be directed to the item on the store's own website.

cmelliott · September 2013

daveANDkristen said:

cmelliott said:

daveANDkristen said:

1. Yes, you can register on Amazon. It's pretty obvious if you go on their website.

2. I didn't understand your question in the Meal Cards thread, and I would assume I'm not the only one. Maybe everyone harped on your "vendors get chicken" thing because the question was confusing, IDK

there's an obvious wedding registry on amazon? Cause i could never find it. Can you show it to me?
Yes, on the home page, at the far right of the search bar, it says "Wish List" with a dropdown menu. Registries are among the options. They also have a Universal Registry feature, where you could link items from other websites, like if you really liked a handful of items from this store or that, but didn't want to create a whole registry there. They would appear on your Amazon registry and if someone wanted to purchase it they would be directed to the item on the store's own website.

thank you. this has to be one of the most helpful responses i've received out of this whole board.

daveANDkristen · September 2013

cmelliott said:

thank you. this has to be one of the most helpful responses i've received out of this whole board.

Believe it or not, I'm not always a raging bitch. There are lots of helpful people here, but yes, many of us are blunt. I understand that you were frustrated that no one addressed your actual question in the Meal Cards thread, but unfortunately you can't dictate how people respond or what they choose to respond to.

If someone tells you that they don't like what you're doing or think it's dumb, take it or leave it. If someone (or in the case of today, lots of people) are telling you that what you are doing is rude, inconsiderate, or poor etiquette, I would urge you to consider that they may be right.

cmelliott · September 2013

daveANDkristen said:

cmelliott said:

thank you. this has to be one of the most helpful responses i've received out of this whole board.

Believe it or not, I'm not always a raging bitch. There are lots of helpful people here, but yes, many of us are blunt. I understand that you were frustrated that no one addressed your actual question in the Meal Cards thread, but unfortunately you can't dictate how people respond or what they choose to respond to.

If someone tells you that they don't like what you're doing or think it's dumb, take it or leave it. If someone (or in the case of today, lots of people) are telling you that what you are doing is rude, inconsiderate, or poor etiquette, I would urge you to consider that they may be right.

there's a difference between blunt and rude. a lot of the "helpful" comments on here are just telling people "they're wrong". maybe offer a helpful solution? I don't see that being done too often. many people on here are just hateful and rude themselves.

ceceibson · September 2013

Why are you inviting people to your wedding who wouldn't know you don't need a gift card to Lowe's? We didn't register. It was not a first wedding for us, for one thing, and we were already living together. We frankly hoped people would give us nothing, and the vast majority did just that.

Those that did give us a gift gave us (1) a personal or decorative item that clearly reflected our personalities; (2) booze; (3) booze; (4) booze and

(5) gift cards to places like Home Depot and Lowe's [because our guests know we're always doing something to one of our homes] and local restaurants.

We didn't need a gift card registry to give our guests "options".

Why is it so hard to understand.....

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