Even before we got engaged, my fiance and I had discussed one day paying for our own wedding with whatever help our families could manage. Then, last night, his family freaked out because they found out that my parents were not paying for the entire thing. They don't feel that they should have to contribute, and they also don't see why my fiance should spend any of his money on the wedding either. This is "the bride's family's event". They say he should basically get his tux and show up. To make it all worse, he even put me on the phone with his step-mom to have her explain this all to me herself. And when I explained that my parents had paid for their own wedding 30 years ago and that I was not raised to expect tens of thousands of dollars from them for my wedding, she said "well didn't your parents plan for this when they had a daughter? What were they thinking?
I am so outraged! First of all, I don't think it is his family's business. Second of all, it's very presumptuous to assume my parents should pay. That's not how I was raised, and it's not how any of my married friends planned their wedding. To make it all worse, his side is nearly much larger than mine because it seems like his divorced parents are playing the "I have to have more people than my ex" game.
Am I right to be seriously angry at his family (and at him for not standing up for me)? Does anyone really believe it is the sole responsibility of the bride's family anymore??