My F and I are getting married August 31st, 2014 and we can't be more excited! Something that has come up in recent discussions is having kids at the wedding. Our niece (she will be 2) is our flower girl and our nephew (he will be 5) is our ring bearer. So, obviously, they will be there. The only people we know with kids are close friends. My question is: Is it rude to have our niece and nephew at the wedding but to politely ask our friends to leave their kids at home? Or instead of addressing the invitation to "The Smith Family", word it as "Roger and Danielle Smith", leaving the kids completely out of the invitation altogether? I don't want to offend anyone but I also don't want kids screaming during the ceremony or running around like crazy during the reception.