First off, I am hoping that this bride is not on this. But if she is and reads this, so be it.
I have a friend from college who I was pretty close with. She got engaged a year ago and waited a year to even pick a date. They chose May 30th 2014. I was asked to be a bridesmaids. I agreed.
Several weeks after she asked me to be in her wedding, My now fiance proposed (In August 2013). We wanted a spring wedding (for several factors) and didn't want to wait till 2015 so we chose April or May 2014. After taking different things into consideration we decided on May 18th 2014.
I did not ask her to be a bridesmaid for several reason, one being that knowing her wedding was 2 weeks later, that it would be a really busy time for her. I had planned on going to all her events (bridal parties etc even though the wedding is out of the state AND she lived out of the state at the time), and had even e-mailed her MOH about things I could help do and started a cute little pinterest book for her.
Once I told this bride about my wedding date, she was upset. She ended up telling me that "because it feels like you don't really care about me or my wedding at all. And yes, in your words, you are stealing my thunder, and it kind of feels like it's on purpose. I just don't feel like planning a wedding for less than 2 weeks before mine is something someone that is supposed to be a good friend of mine would do. I would understand if there was some reason that you absolutely had to do it as quickly as possible, but it didn't seem like that was the case. Like I said in our previous conversation, if the situation were reversed you know that someone doing this to you would upset you too. The weeks and days leading up to your wedding are usually the most stressful and I would like to have to ability to put all my extra energy into my own wedding not someone else's and I want you to have the same ability."
I am not sure what I should do. I told her to call me when she got a chance, and she never has. Should I just leave it be? or try and mend the friendship?