FH and I are planning our destination wedding for next September in Mexico. This is my second marriage (and wedding) and his first. We are not planning to have a BP. *IF* a certain few of our friends and family are able to come is it ok to ask them to stand up for us last minute? I don't want to ask anyone beforehand because I do not want anyone to feel pressured by BP "obligation" to make the trip if they can't afford to. Nor do I want them to plan any outings or parties if they're not able, I don't want to pick out dresses and all the other hoopla. If we just ask last minute does this upset any wedding etiquette I'm not aware of?