I would side-eye all black. It really does rub me the wrong way. I'd rather see someone wear white or cream! I would be totally cool with a black skirt or a black dress accompanied a bright or sparkly wrap, colorful belt & accessories, and killer shoes. Or a black dress with a colored jacket or sweater.
I would NEVER wear all white to a wedding....the bride can have that color for the day. Black on the other hand, perfectly acceptable.
OP - I think the black dress is fine! Accessorize it or add in a bit of color with a wrap and you're good to go!
^Going for hyperbole there, just making the point that I *really* hate all black for women at weddings. A short cream or ivory dress that's obviously non-bridal would bother me less, but I consider both quite inappropriate, and that was my point.
I was a best woman in a wedding Columbus Day weekend and my dress was black. The dress is actually my favorite "bridesmaid" dress out of the 4 weddings I've been in. I got a ton of compliments on the dress. Definitely wouldn't judge someone wearing black at a wedding.
I would side-eye all black. It really does rub me the wrong way. I'd rather see someone wear white or cream!
I would be totally cool with a black skirt or a black dress accompanied a bright or sparkly wrap, colorful belt & accessories, and killer shoes. Or a black dress with a colored jacket or sweater.
I would NEVER wear all white to a wedding....the bride can have that color for the day. Black on the other hand, perfectly acceptable.
OP - I think the black dress is fine! Accessorize it or add in a bit of color with a wrap and you're good to go!
^Going for hyperbole there, just making the point that I *really* hate all black for women at weddings. A short cream or ivory dress that's obviously non-bridal would bother me less, but I consider both quite inappropriate, and that was my point.
Well, given that the poll says 9% would rather see any other color (than black) and 91% wouldn't think twice about it, I'm going to buy the dress. Yay!!
Also, @KatWAG - I had never heard of Bauble Bar. Wow! I think I feel like Littlefoot must have felt when he finally found the Great Valley!
IMO I think black dresses are very pretty. When looking at BM dresses, my FMIL tried on a dress for the wedding and one option was black and I absolutely loved it because it looked very eloquent on her.I am sure it would on many others as well.
If anyone can find a dressy dress that isn't black, I want to know. I just attended my high school reunion. I looked everywhere possible for a dinner dress and couldn't find anything other than black. It wasn't my first choice, but I needed a dress and that seems to be the only color they're making this year.
That dress is gorgeous!!!!! Personally I wear black a lot to weddings. I usually add some color pop (shoes/wrap/what-have-you) and then some nice sparkly jewerly and it always looks great. I say go for it
I love the dress! I just wore an LBD to a good friend's wedding in September (weekend after Labor Day). I accessorized with killer heels (also black, but who doesn't love good black pumps?), pretty jewellery, and kind of sexy hair.
I think the line of demarcation is whether the black dress is something you would wear to a funeral. If it IS -- then don't. If it's NOT -- then do it!
Also, I would side-eye the ever-loving crap out of someone who wore white/cream/ivory/ecru/eggshell or any other shade of white to a wedding. Hell no. That's the bride's colour, and you don't wear it.
I wore a black dress to a wedding in September too. I thought it was navy when I asked to borrow it, but it was clearly a cocktail dress and not a funeral gown. I paired it with a colorful belt and bag and nude pumps.
I think it would be weird to wear a black dress to a daytime wedding though.
I would side-eye all black. It really does rub me the wrong way. I'd rather see someone wear white or cream! I would be totally cool with a black skirt or a black dress accompanied a bright or sparkly wrap, colorful belt & accessories, and killer shoes. Or a black dress with a colored jacket or sweater.
I would NEVER wear all white to a wedding....the bride can have that color for the day. Black on the other hand, perfectly acceptable.
OP - I think the black dress is fine! Accessorize it or add in a bit of color with a wrap and you're good to go!
^Going for hyperbole there, just making the point that I *really* hate all black for women at weddings. A short cream or ivory dress that's obviously non-bridal would bother me less, but I consider both quite inappropriate, and that was my point.
This makes absolutely no sense to me.
^how does it make no sense to use the idea of wearing all-white, which we all understand is a huge no-no, to make the point that all black is equally inappropriate for a wedding? I am surprised at the number of people who recognize that white is *obviously* wrong (except possibly as a short dress, but even then questionable) but still think black is acceptable.
ETA: you don't wear all white, red or black because you don't want to take away from the happy occasion. Red is sexy and draws attention. Black is negative. White gives a positive vibe, but the bride is wearing it, so that should be respected for a day. This is a poll--IMO, all three, unbroken by other colors, are things I would side-eye the heck out of.
^how does it make no sense to use the idea of wearing all-white, which we all understand is a huge no-no, to make the point that all black is equally inappropriate for a wedding? I am
surprised at the number of people who recognize that white is *obviously* wrong (except possibly as
a short dress, but even then questionable) but still think black is acceptable.
ETA: you don't wear all white, red or black because you don't want to take away from the happy occasion. Red is sexy and draws attention. Black is negative. White gives a positive vibe, but the bride is wearing it, so that should be respected for a day. This is a poll--IMO, all three, unbroken by other colors, are things I would side-eye the heck out of.
Personally, I think all of these "rules" are completely ridiculous. They are colors, and I think some people spend waaaay too much time attributing emotional value to these colors especially when it comes to weddings.
The LBD is a timeless, classic, chic article of clothing. Unless the person wearing it pairs it with black gloves and a funeral veil, there's nothing to read into when a guest shows up to a wedding in one, other than this is the outfit she felt best in and felt was most appropriate.
It also shouldn't matter if a guest wears red to a wedding. I would never automatically assume that a guest wearing red is trying to draw attention away from the bride. . . typically I don't pay any attention to what anyone else is wearing unless they are half naked, their boobs or ass are hanging out- which is trashy no matter what color their outfit is, or they are wearing killer shoes or jewelry, because I love shoes and jewelry!
If brides are worried about people stealing their thunder, then I think they need to rethink their own attitudes; The point of getting married is not to be the center of everyone's attention for a day.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I guess every Indian bride ever is trying to be sexy and an attention-whore...
Exactly! I was partially thinking of all the gorgeous pictures of Hindu weddings I have seen when writing my post. . . where the bride and her guests wear reds, purples, blues, greens, etc.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
The point with wearing black is that you're not supposed to look like you're in mourning. Since you wouldn't eat a cocktail dress or gown to a funeral you're set.
PPs can have the opinion that they don't like them but black is perfectly within the bounds of proper etiquette.
First off, cute dress and great deal! Though, with that said, I'm not a fan of black dresses at a wedding, unless it is an evening wedding.
I was at a friend's wedding over 15 years ago and the biggest thing I remember about it is one of the guests wore a black, strapless cocktail dress to a mid-day wedding at a park. It was just so "off". And, yes, I feel like a terrible person that this is what I remember best about her wedding, lol.
First off, cute dress and great deal! Though, with that said, I'm not a fan of black dresses at a wedding, unless it is an evening wedding.
I was at a friend's wedding over 15 years ago and the biggest thing I remember about it is one of the guests wore a black, strapless cocktail dress to a mid-day wedding at a park. It was just so "off". And, yes, I feel like a terrible person that this is what I remember best about her wedding, lol.
Yes - they are both evening weddings. The one this weekend has the ceremony starting at 6pm and the reception at 7pm and the one in December has the ceremony at 5:00 (or 5:30 - I'd have to go back and look at the invite), then cocktail hour then reception.
I agree the outfit you witnessed would seem "off." A couple of years ago, some dear family friends of ours had a casual (yes, "rustic") outdoor wedding at a cider mill complete with barn reception. The girlfriend of the groom's brother/groomsman wore a strapless, SUPER short, satin tube dress that had a design like splatter paint and wore 5 inch stilettos (which she ended up taking off because they kept sinking into the grass - derrrr!). It was.... memorable.
If anyone can find a dressy dress that isn't black, I want to know. I just attended my high school reunion. I looked everywhere possible for a dinner dress and couldn't find anything other than black. It wasn't my first choice, but I needed a dress and that seems to be the only color they're making this year.
@alex3mom try rent the runway. It is one of my favorites.
Re: Wearing Black
^Going for hyperbole there, just making the point that I *really* hate all black for women at weddings. A short cream or ivory dress that's obviously non-bridal would bother me less, but I consider both quite inappropriate, and that was my point.
I was a best woman in a wedding Columbus Day weekend and my dress was black. The dress is actually my favorite "bridesmaid" dress out of the 4 weddings I've been in. I got a ton of compliments on the dress. Definitely wouldn't judge someone wearing black at a wedding.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
^how does it make no sense to use the idea of wearing all-white, which we all understand is a huge no-no, to make the point that all black is equally inappropriate for a wedding? I am
surprised at the number of people who recognize that white is *obviously* wrong (except possibly as
a short dress, but even then questionable) but still think black is acceptable.
ETA: you don't wear all white, red or black because you don't want to take away from the happy occasion. Red is sexy and draws attention. Black is negative. White gives a positive vibe, but the bride is wearing it, so that should be respected for a day. This is a poll--IMO, all three, unbroken by other colors, are things I would side-eye the heck out of.
The LBD is a timeless, classic, chic article of clothing. Unless the person wearing it pairs it with black gloves and a funeral veil, there's nothing to read into when a guest shows up to a wedding in one, other than this is the outfit she felt best in and felt was most appropriate.
It also shouldn't matter if a guest wears red to a wedding. I would never automatically assume that a guest wearing red is trying to draw attention away from the bride. . . typically I don't pay any attention to what anyone else is wearing unless they are half naked, their boobs or ass are hanging out- which is trashy no matter what color their outfit is, or they are wearing killer shoes or jewelry, because I love shoes and jewelry!
If brides are worried about people stealing their thunder, then I think they need to rethink their own attitudes; The point of getting married is not to be the center of everyone's attention for a day.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
PPs can have the opinion that they don't like them but black is perfectly within the bounds of proper etiquette.
First off, cute dress and great deal! Though, with that said, I'm not a fan of black dresses at a wedding, unless it is an evening wedding.
I was at a friend's wedding over 15 years ago and the biggest thing I remember about it is one of the guests wore a black, strapless cocktail dress to a mid-day wedding at a park. It was just so "off". And, yes, I feel like a terrible person that this is what I remember best about her wedding, lol.
@alex3mom try rent the runway. It is one of my favorites.