I am completely lost...
I don't have close friends and the only family member I am close with just backed out as MOH due to money issues. I've read some of the other posts about ask people you could call at 3am to help you bury a body... well she was the only person I could think of but she's not an option now. I have sisters but they live in Oklahoma (and I'm in Iowa) and I don't think they will actually come to the wedding so I haven't asked them. I just don't know what to do... any suggestions to get my brain unstuck and thinking in the right direction would be greatly appreciated!!!
Re: Not close to anyone.... Bridal Party Problems
Can she not get off from work? (understandable)
Or were you expecting her to pay for things (dress, shoes, hair/makeup, travel, parties for you) that aren't in her budget?
Agree with previous - why can't the MOH afford it? Is it that she can't afford to get to the wedding at all, even as a guest, or is it that you're asking her to buy things that she can't afford? If you really want her there, you can offer to pay for her attire so that she can still participate - or, since she was your only BM anyway, you can let her just wear whatever dress she already has laying around (maybe a black or tan one, so that you can get flowers in your colors to match).
If it's that she can't afford to go to the wedding at all, because the travel is expensive, or she has to work, there's not much you can do. It sounds like you don't want anyone else, and in this case it is completely fine to not have a bridal party.
I hadn't asked her to buy anything so far. I don't even have dresses picked out or anything (not even mine). I asked if she would still be my MOH if I paid for the dress, hair, etc... and she hasn't given me an answer yet, so I'm hoping she says yes. Thank You to everyone for their pearls of wisdom so far!!!
Thank goodness- I thought I was the only one!! I literally left a wedding one night and on the car ride home with my fiance (we weren't engaged yet) I bust out in tears because I only have one close friend and I no one will care about my wedding, and I wish I had the 8 best friends that the bride that night had. I literally had a nervous breakdown and was jealous of her friendships. Now that I am engaged, I've got my one best friend as MOH and she goes to medical school in the freakin Caribbean so she's not here to plan any of it with me. It's sad but nothing you can do except cherish that one friend to death and move on with life lol
You should do anything possible like paying so that she can be in it, but as your best friend she should also be willing to do anything to be a part of it- like my friend paying $1,000 to fly home from the Caribbean because she loves me that much and knows she's all I've got!