I'm in need of a very polite way to tell my mother in-law that she doesn't need to worry about how much the wedding costs. My FI and I are covering half and my mom and dad are covering the other half. His parents are not paying for anything, nor have they offered. In fact, the were down right bothered by the fact that FI was contributing anything at all...I don't want to be a jerk but I also don't want them counting the money we spend...