Facebook Announcement

psychbabe314 · November 2013

I know I have seen it on one of the boards before but I cannot find it,
Do you put your engagement announcement on FB?
Do you call everyone important and then put it on FB?
Do you just not put it on FB at all?

BF and I were talking about it the other night.

CASK85 · November 2013

We called our parents and texted our friends the night it happened. The next morning we put it on facebook. I did not post a picture of my ring because I tend to think it is tacky, but to each their own.

loves2shop4shoes · November 2013

We called everyone that was important immediately after getting engaged (ie. BEST friends, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents.)

THEN we put it on Facebook.

I also posted some pics of my ring on FB. And some people rudely messaged me to let me know how obnoxious they thought that was.

Bottom line is you'll never please everyone. Do what will be considerate to the people you care about most. Then do what you want.

CLoGreenEyes · November 2013

I agree with Shoes. I would tell the people most important to me - parents, best friends, etc. - and make sure my SO did the same. Then after a few days or however long that took, we could put stuff on FB. I personally love seeing photos of people's rings, engagement, etc., so that wouldn't bother me, but some people can be sensitive to that. I think photos are whatever you're comfortable with.

minskat30 · November 2013

We didn't share it with anyone until the day after (we were too busy celebrating). That said, my parents and sister knew it was happening that evening since H had called them to ask for their blessing (my Mom, who can't keep any secrets from me went suspiciously MIA the week before our proposal). We called our parents the day after (actually they called us to make sure I said "yes") and I sent out an email to close family/friends. I don't care for social media websites other than this one so no Facebook update for me (or Facebook profile for that matter).

[Deleted User] · November 2013

Once FI and I got engaged, we called everyone in our family (parents, siblings, grandparents, etc...) then we called and texted most of our friends.

We didn't post anything until the next day after we got home since we were staying over night somewhere. We wanted to make sure that our close friends and family all knew.

I posted a status first that FI and I were engaged and so did he. I didn't post a picture of my ring until later on in the day because we were pretty busy the following day.

radleyboo · November 2013

We waited until we told close friends, family, our kids, and our ex-spouses, out of respect. Then we just changed our relationship status. I did post one picture of my ring. To each their own.

buddysmom80 · November 2013

We were just talking about this this past weekend. BF and I decided to just lock-down our privacy settings on FB since his mom is on there and she doesn't hold back and we wouldn't want people to find out that way (people who are special to us, obvs) also my aunt is the same way. So once we tell all the important people in our life either in person, Skype, over the phone or text, we'll just update our relationship staus or whatever on FB.

Also I'd like to note, I didn't bring up this conversation, BF did which was kind of expected but um, where's my pony??????

On another note, I wouldn't post my ring on FB, I have a lot of judgy friends who would probably make comments about the size, shape, style, whatever just to be catty bitches. The people who I know would be supportive and positive I would send them a picture.

psychbabe314 · November 2013

@buddysmom80 - I brought up this conversation because of all the engagement talk with him lately. I know he was a little hurt when I didn't update my FB relationship status right after we started dating.

buddysmom80 · November 2013

psychbabe314 said:

@buddysmom80 - I brought up this conversation because of all the engagement talk with him lately. I know he was a little hurt when I didn't update my FB relationship status right after we started dating.

True story: BF wanted to update our FB relationship status thing in like March (we started dating in January), I was like "whoa, slow down there" and when I got back from a 3 week trip with my parents, he sent another request while we were out day-drinking and I updated it then.

cu97tiger · November 2013

@buddysmom80 - um, that list better include ME!

We called the important people (parents, my sister, a couple close friends). An hour later, DH put it on FB, even though I'd told him we should wait in case we had forgotten anyone important. Turns out he was worried about someone spoiling the surprise engagement party that was planned for later, so he put it on FB as insurance. Also, he announced it by putting a picture of the ring on my finger with the caption 'she said yes!'

Then, I proceeded to spend the next eight months posting pictures of my ring on its many adventures (at a MLB game! Making dinner at home! At my birthday dinner (with my name on the menu!)! At the top of a mountain! At a bowling alley! With the Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center!). I'm sure some people were uber-annoyed by it. I got a kick out of it, and was perfectly content to post the last one the night of our wedding (with it's new 'partner,' the wedding band).

doubleSS07 · November 2013

We also text and called all the important people in our lives before posting anything on FB. I changed my status and posted a picture of me with my left hand up but it was far enough away that you cound't see ring detail. I actually got crap from people for NOT posting my ring.

Hummingbird125 · November 2013

@Buddysmom80 - I'd better get a pic of your ring when you get it!!!

I don't mind seeing ring pics on Facebook, but I'd much prefer a picture of the couple WITH the ring. I've seen so many engagements all over FB lately, and I think it is so cute to see the couple right after it happened - that beats a photo of a ring on a disembodied hand, any day.

As for me, I would definitely call all of my important people first, before posting anything on FB. I found out one of my best friends was engaged via her relationship status changing on Facebook, and I was upset she didn't let me know personally. (She claims she tried to call me, but I didn't have any missed calls, so.....)

Peaseblossom55 · November 2013

We were in the Bahamas, so we called my parents real quick ( even though they knew it was going to happen lol) FI's parents were already there and knew. We did a general facebook announcement after that.

bethsmiles · November 2013

I hate finding out that people are engaged through facebook. It's so incredibly impersonal! I already told BF that when he proposes we are waiting at least a couple weeks to change facebook statuses so that I have time to call or text everyone. But all of my friends list is family, good friends, or people I see at least once a week so it should be fairly easy to spread the news to everyone who would see it on facebook.

psychbabe314 · November 2013

bethsmiles said:

I hate finding out that people are engaged through facebook. It's so incredibly impersonal! I already told BF that when he proposes we are waiting at least a couple weeks to change facebook statuses so that I have time to call or text everyone. But all of my friends list is family, good friends, or people I see at least once a week so it should be fairly easy to spread the news to everyone who would see it on facebook.

Most of the people I don't see hardly ever. They all live too far away, or I have lost touch with. I think I have an idea of who I would like to call to announce our engagement too. They are people I keep in fairly consistent contact with, or family members.

blabla89 · November 2013

Hummingbird125 said:

@Buddysmom80 - I'd better get a pic of your ring when you get it!!!

I don't mind seeing ring pics on Facebook, but I'd much prefer a picture of the couple WITH the ring. I've seen so many engagements all over FB lately, and I think it is so cute to see the couple right after it happened - that beats a photo of a ring on a disembodied hand, any day.

As for me, I would definitely call all of my important people first, before posting anything on FB. I found out one of my best friends was engaged via her relationship status changing on Facebook, and I was upset she didn't let me know personally. (She claims she tried to call me, but I didn't have any missed calls, so.....)

Exactly. I'm not a fan of the close-up "look how big/fancy/expensive my ring is" posts that occasionally creep into my news feed (usually from girls I didn't like in high school...) but there are classy ways to show it off. I personally like the smiling with her hand on his chest pose.

psychbabe314 · November 2013

lalalaurita said:

Hummingbird125 said:

@Buddysmom80 - I'd better get a pic of your ring when you get it!!!

I don't mind seeing ring pics on Facebook, but I'd much prefer a picture of the couple WITH the ring. I've seen so many engagements all over FB lately, and I think it is so cute to see the couple right after it happened - that beats a photo of a ring on a disembodied hand, any day.

As for me, I would definitely call all of my important people first, before posting anything on FB. I found out one of my best friends was engaged via her relationship status changing on Facebook, and I was upset she didn't let me know personally. (She claims she tried to call me, but I didn't have any missed calls, so.....)

Exactly. I'm not a fan of the close-up "look how big/fancy/expensive my ring is" posts that occasionally creep into my news feed (usually from girls I didn't like in high school...) but there are classy ways to show it off. I personally like the smiling with her hand on his chest pose.

Now... Wouldn't something like that usually be sent out with an official engagement announcement? Or is FB considered the "official" announcement?

cu97tiger · November 2013

lalalaurita said:

Hummingbird125 said:

@Buddysmom80 - I'd better get a pic of your ring when you get it!!!

I don't mind seeing ring pics on Facebook, but I'd much prefer a picture of the couple WITH the ring. I've seen so many engagements all over FB lately, and I think it is so cute to see the couple right after it happened - that beats a photo of a ring on a disembodied hand, any day.

As for me, I would definitely call all of my important people first, before posting anything on FB. I found out one of my best friends was engaged via her relationship status changing on Facebook, and I was upset she didn't let me know personally. (She claims she tried to call me, but I didn't have any missed calls, so.....)

Exactly. I'm not a fan of the close-up "look how big/fancy/expensive my ring is" posts that occasionally creep into my news feed (usually from girls I didn't like in high school...) but there are classy ways to show it off. I personally like the smiling with her hand on his chest pose.

Since I don't know you, I'm taking this personally, considering I just said that I posted several (dozen) pictures of my ring. It doesn't have a damn thing to do with how big it was (< 0.50 carats), fancy (well, I guess it's fancy, since it's pretty different from most e-rings), nor expensive (NOYB).

If you didn't like those girls in high school. Maybe you should stop being FB friends with them.

And since you like these pictures so much:

loves2shop4shoes · November 2013

This is an unpopular opinion, but I can't understand people that are like, "Posting pics of your E-ring is tacky."

Ummm... perhaps posting specifics like, "This is my 1.0 ct E color VS2 cushion cut engagement ring that my DH paid $X amount for," is tacky. But posting a few pictures of your ring itself is just showing your excitement.

I think a lot of women have reactions to your ring pictures out of jealousy because either 1) they are not engaged and are bitter or 2) they are insecure about their own ring.

Just my very unpopular .02.

minskat30 · November 2013

cu97tiger said:

@buddysmom80 - um, that list better include ME!

We called the important people (parents, my sister, a couple close friends). An hour later, DH put it on FB, even though I'd told him we should wait in case we had forgotten anyone important. Turns out he was worried about someone spoiling the surprise engagement party that was planned for later, so he put it on FB as insurance. Also, he announced it by putting a picture of the ring on my finger with the caption 'she said yes!'

Then, I proceeded to spend the next eight months posting pictures of my ring on its many adventures (at a MLB game! Making dinner at home! At my birthday dinner (with my name on the menu!)! At the top of a mountain! At a bowling alley! With the Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center!). I'm sure some people were uber-annoyed by it. I got a kick out of it, and was perfectly content to post the last one the night of our wedding (with it's new 'partner,' the wedding band).

Ok, I think the pictures of your ring's adventures are really cute.

MobKaz · November 2013

cu97tiger said:

lalalaurita said:

Hummingbird125 said:

@Buddysmom80 - I'd better get a pic of your ring when you get it!!!

I don't mind seeing ring pics on Facebook, but I'd much prefer a picture of the couple WITH the ring. I've seen so many engagements all over FB lately, and I think it is so cute to see the couple right after it happened - that beats a photo of a ring on a disembodied hand, any day.

As for me, I would definitely call all of my important people first, before posting anything on FB. I found out one of my best friends was engaged via her relationship status changing on Facebook, and I was upset she didn't let me know personally. (She claims she tried to call me, but I didn't have any missed calls, so.....)

Exactly. I'm not a fan of the close-up "look how big/fancy/expensive my ring is" posts that occasionally creep into my news feed (usually from girls I didn't like in high school...) but there are classy ways to show it off. I personally like the smiling with her hand on his chest pose.

Since I don't know you, I'm taking this personally, considering I just said that I posted several (dozen) pictures of my ring. It doesn't have a damn thing to do with how big it was (< 0.50 carats), fancy (well, I guess it's fancy, since it's pretty different from most e-rings), nor expensive (NOYB).

If you didn't like those girls in high school. Maybe you should stop being FB friends with them.

And since you like these pictures so much:

Geesh. Sensitive much? At least 3 posters prior to yours also mentioned they posted pictures of their ring. I am going to guess that your quick to light fuse of defensiveness came more from comments you received posting "Where's Waldo" type pictures of your ring throughout your engagement. That would be more than annoying to me; it borders on obnoxious and seems more akin to a high school mentality.

loves2shop4shoes · November 2013

mobkaz said:

cu97tiger said:

lalalaurita said:

Hummingbird125 said:

@Buddysmom80 - I'd better get a pic of your ring when you get it!!!

I don't mind seeing ring pics on Facebook, but I'd much prefer a picture of the couple WITH the ring. I've seen so many engagements all over FB lately, and I think it is so cute to see the couple right after it happened - that beats a photo of a ring on a disembodied hand, any day.

As for me, I would definitely call all of my important people first, before posting anything on FB. I found out one of my best friends was engaged via her relationship status changing on Facebook, and I was upset she didn't let me know personally. (She claims she tried to call me, but I didn't have any missed calls, so.....)

Exactly. I'm not a fan of the close-up "look how big/fancy/expensive my ring is" posts that occasionally creep into my news feed (usually from girls I didn't like in high school...) but there are classy ways to show it off. I personally like the smiling with her hand on his chest pose.

Since I don't know you, I'm taking this personally, considering I just said that I posted several (dozen) pictures of my ring. It doesn't have a damn thing to do with how big it was (< 0.50 carats), fancy (well, I guess it's fancy, since it's pretty different from most e-rings), nor expensive (NOYB).

If you didn't like those girls in high school. Maybe you should stop being FB friends with them.

And since you like these pictures so much:

Geesh. Sensitive much? At least 3 posters prior to yours also mentioned they posted pictures of their ring. I am going to guess that your quick to light fuse of defensiveness came more from comments you received posting "Where's Waldo" type pictures of your ring throughout your engagement. That would be more than annoying to me; it borders on obnoxious and seems more akin to a high school mentality.

Uhm.

Who the fuck are you? And how dare you talk to Tiger that way?

She is the antithesis of obnoxious and is hands DOWN the most mature, adult person on here.

And if you don't like her, please feel free to GTFO.

minskat30 · November 2013

I disagree @mobkaz but maybe I like Where's Waldo too much (hey, they were great to pass the time at the Dentist's office). To me it is like having a funny inside joke or a stuffed engagement turtle or something that you take pictures of in various locations. If that makes me young well, great, since I'm an old lady.

Swazzle · November 2013

H and I announced our engagement on FB a few hours after he proposed. We called our family and close friends beforehand.

I posted a picture of my ring because I just HAD to show off how big it is and how much money he obviously spent on it. :::insert eyeroll here:::

And FWIW, I loved @cu97tiger's traveling e-ring album on FB.

MobKaz · November 2013

minskat30 said:

I disagree @mobkaz but maybe I like Where's Waldo too much (hey, they were great to pass the time at the Dentist's office). To me it is like having a funny inside joke or a stuffed engagement turtle or something that you take pictures of in various locations. If that makes me young well, great, since I'm an old lady.

I appreciate that. But I just cannot wrap my head around the concept of creating infinitum posts about daily life events. Taking pictures of meals, posting how you woke up late, the fact that it's raining or snowing or sunny......seems all too unimportant and unnecessary.

cu97tiger · November 2013

mobkaz said:

cu97tiger said:

lalalaurita said:

Hummingbird125 said:

@Buddysmom80 - I'd better get a pic of your ring when you get it!!!

I don't mind seeing ring pics on Facebook, but I'd much prefer a picture of the couple WITH the ring. I've seen so many engagements all over FB lately, and I think it is so cute to see the couple right after it happened - that beats a photo of a ring on a disembodied hand, any day.

As for me, I would definitely call all of my important people first, before posting anything on FB. I found out one of my best friends was engaged via her relationship status changing on Facebook, and I was upset she didn't let me know personally. (She claims she tried to call me, but I didn't have any missed calls, so.....)

Exactly. I'm not a fan of the close-up "look how big/fancy/expensive my ring is" posts that occasionally creep into my news feed (usually from girls I didn't like in high school...) but there are classy ways to show it off. I personally like the smiling with her hand on his chest pose.

Since I don't know you, I'm taking this personally, considering I just said that I posted several (dozen) pictures of my ring. It doesn't have a damn thing to do with how big it was (< 0.50 carats), fancy (well, I guess it's fancy, since it's pretty different from most e-rings), nor expensive (NOYB).

If you didn't like those girls in high school. Maybe you should stop being FB friends with them.

And since you like these pictures so much:

Geesh. Sensitive much? At least 3 posters prior to yours also mentioned they posted pictures of their ring. I am going to guess that your quick to light fuse of defensiveness came more from comments you received posting "Where's Waldo" type pictures of your ring throughout your engagement. That would be more than annoying to me; it borders on obnoxious and seems more akin to a high school mentality.

minskat30 · November 2013

mobkaz said:

minskat30 said:

I disagree @mobkaz but maybe I like Where's Waldo too much (hey, they were great to pass the time at the Dentist's office). To me it is like having a funny inside joke or a stuffed engagement turtle or something that you take pictures of in various locations. If that makes me young well, great, since I'm an old lady.
I appreciate that. But I just cannot wrap my head around the concept of creating infinitum posts about daily life events. Taking pictures of meals, posting how you woke up late, the fact that it's raining or snowing or sunny......seems all too unimportant and unnecessary.

I think posting about everything in your life (what you ate, what time you woke up, etc.) is sort of silly unless it is themed base I guess (i.e., you are an aspiring chef so you post what you made for dinner that day, kind of thing). I think the traveling ring thing is cute because its something you can share with family now and share with kids too down the line and then also pass down the ring to future generations and have a story behind it. But I'm sentimental like that (ok, H would call me downright cheesy). God knows H and I documented our engagedment/wedding through "too many" photographers/videographers. Lots of people thought that was unneccessary and over the top but we love that we can share those stories with our kids one day (and they can tell us that we are old romantic, over-the-top farts).

audrewuh · November 2013

mobkaz said:

minskat30 said:

I disagree @mobkaz but maybe I like Where's Waldo too much (hey, they were great to pass the time at the Dentist's office). To me it is like having a funny inside joke or a stuffed engagement turtle or something that you take pictures of in various locations. If that makes me young well, great, since I'm an old lady.

I appreciate that. But I just cannot wrap my head around the concept of creating infinitum posts about daily life events. Taking pictures of meals, posting how you woke up late, the fact that it's raining or snowing or sunny......seems all too unimportant and unnecessary.

Okay, so you hate Facebook. And Twitter. And probably Instagram. I shouldn't even mention SnapChat to you for fear of losing my head in a snarky, judgy comment.

@cu97tiger, I'm a little shocked I've never seen this album. I'm going to search your FB now.

FWIW, FI proposed in front of my dad and his friends as well as two of our close friends. We called our parents and I *gasp* sent a picture of the ring to my closest friends. The best reaction was from one of my former students who texted back, "I like your manicure?"

Then we went to the bar and had a drink. To kill some time before dinner with friends, we ran to Target, one of our favorite pastimes. There, H took a picture of me holding my left hand up and we posted it on facebook, about two hours afterwards. My phone blew up the rest of the night and I still like going back and reading the comments on that picture when I've got the blues.

Pepper6 · November 2013

We called our parents and siblings, and then posted it on FB for everyone else. I do not like to talk on the phone and I'm not really all that close with the rest of my extended family, so FB is the only way we really keep in touch anyways.

I also posted a picture of my ring, if anyone was offended by it or thinks it's tacky, I don't really give a shit, they can unfriend me if it bothers them that much.

Hummingbird125 · November 2013

Whoa. That got a little out of hand up there....

Anyways, I'm surprised at people thinking ring pics are tacky! I mean, I guess I can understand where that comes from, but I occasionally post pictures of other things that cost money (i.e. New car, new shoes, new apartment), and don't think that's tacky, so I don't really get it. I don't think most people do it to show off how big/expensive a ring is, they're just excited and happy, and the ring is a part of their proposal. As a not-engaged-yet, single-only-three-years-ago, seeing-ring-pics-all-over-facebook woman, I don't mind seeing them whatsoever. It makes me happy that others are happy.

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