So I was just curious, cause yesterday was apparently baby day for me. I got to visit with my friend who had her baby last week (cute little thing) and then later my FI and I went to a party where there were seriously like 4 babies!! One of our friends was holding her 3mo daughter and joked "here get the fever!" gesturing to her daughter and I told her, "I held a week old today, and that didn't do it, nothing will." My FI and I are no where near kids, and I was just wondering if anyone is in the same boat, or if you are thinking of starting a family as soon as you say "I do." Don't get me wrong, I had a wonderful time holding the tiny human yesterday, but I enjoy holding other people's babies cause I don't have to do the hard work. My FI and I are just not ready to make room in our lives for children, and we are thinking that we will worry about it several years from now. And if we don't have children, we are okay with that too.
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@Kristen625 reading "tiny human" made me giggle for some reason!
I'm in the same boat as you...I'd like to spend sometime just the 2 of us (well, plus our puppy) for a few years before having a baby. I look at our friends who had a baby last year and I definitely want to wait, as much as I would love to have a family; they've been married 5 yeas now, had their first baby last year and while I know they wouldn't change that for the world they don't go out as much and hang out with us and I the early stages of post-baby they fought a lot. Plus there's things I know we want to do before having kids, like travel more and have a house of our own (which I know will take a while as my FI has spending issues *cough*cough*justgotthenewPS4butisstillkeepingthePS3*cough*cough*). Plus my FI needs more "practice" with taking care of our puppy before we have "tiny humans" for him to hold and clean up poop after lol!! Funny story: A few years ago our other friends had a baby, we went to their house after a month or so to see the little one. We kept trying to get my FI to hold the baby (he hates holding babies cuz he's afraid he'll drop it and "break it" lol), so my friend at one point just got up and said "I have to get his bottle, here hold him" and plopped the baby in my FI's lap; he then turns & looks at me with such a terrified face and says "It's not a puppy, I don't know what to do with it!"
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I'm really torn. Our initial thought was to have a honeymoon baby. As great as that sounds, I would like some married alone time with my hubby and perhaps do some traveling. So I'm not sure what to do.
FI will be 30 in a week (eek!!!) and I'll be 30 in March. I don't want to wait too long in case we have a hard time getting pregnant. It's always in the back of my mind since it took my parents 6 years to have me.
Ideally we would like 1 child. FSIL swears she's having kids but her husband is 47 and she said they're going to wait 5 more years. So if they don't have kids I don't think we should have just 1 but multiples also run on both sides of our families. I couldn't imagine being in my mid 30's chasing around 2 or 3 kids the same age. Or if we have 1 try for another and wind up with 2 or 3 more!
I'd also like to have more money in the bank. But I feel like if everyone waited for the "perfect" situation none of us would even be here lol