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climbingsingle · November 2013

doeydo said:

1. I dislike and don't understand the reason for having a renewal. Even if it is a mile stone anniversary or they have been through something or one of them is/was ill. When they made the original vows, it was supposed to be for the rest of their lives, no matter what they went through together. Were those original vows somehow not good enough?

I get what you're saying. I personally don't see it as the first vows weren't good enough. I see it more as "I said these vows XX years ago and I still mean every word".

MrsAitch · November 2013

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me.

I hate newer homes and subdivisions, especially where all the homes look exactly the same. Even worse is when it's a subdivision in the middle of a cornfield...it's just beyond weird to me. You couldn't pay me to live in a place like that.

I'm not a fan of upgrading things and don't see why people feel the need to do it all the time. I'll keep my little iPhone 4 until it dies, I'm going to drive the same car for as long as possible, and I hope we never move out of our first home. I think it's more of a hassle to go out and shop for a new thing and then figure out how to use it.

I think stainless steel appliances are ugly and impractical. Hello, fingerprints. I don't see what the big to do is about granite countertops is either. Laminate is fine with me, and aesthetically I like butcher block, but that's not exactly a practical choice.

I like 1950s pink bathrooms. When we were house hunting we put an offer in on a 50s house that had one in tact and the realtor looked at me like I was crazy when I said I wouldn't change that bathroom at all. That house even had boomerang formica in the kitchen and a wall oven--I was so sad when we didn't get it.

I don't like clothes shopping. It's a chore to me and I hate spending money on something so silly.

tmclawchick · November 2013

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Another UO: I can't stand when people put backgrounds in their professional emails. Blue swirly sky, the notebook paper. Ugh.

Ew yes.

tmclawchick · November 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

I don't like guacamole or avacados.

I hate the charity projects that my department forces upon us and then guilts people in to participating in. I give to the causes I have ties to and don't need anyone to tell me how to spend my money.

Ugh. I was "persuaded" (as in my boss said "you're doing this") to chair our floor's charity drive -- it's a big office and all of the floors compete against each other. Whoever raises the most money gets a free breakfast of substandard bagels and maybe fruit. It's very awkward sending out reminder emails to people about giving money; the first 2 were alright but now it's week 4 and I just feel like people want me to go away. Awkward.

KeptInStitches · November 2013

Happy birthday, @chipmunk415!

southernbelle0915 · November 2013

MrsAitch said:

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me. Some people decide on long engagements to save up for the wedding they want, finish school, etc. I guess that's why long engagements don't bother me. Mine was 14 months and I almost wish it had been longer. It was fun being a finacee!

MrsAitch · November 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

MrsAitch said:

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me. Some people decide on long engagements to save up for the wedding they want, finish school, etc. I guess that's why long engagements don't bother me. Mine was 14 months and I almost wish it had been longer. It was fun being a finacee!

But there does come a point where I get eye-roll-y at a couple for a SUPER long engagement or being engaged with no plans to ever get married (like my MIL and her super awful mulleted on/off again fiance.)

You can save up for a wedding without being engaged and make it clear to your significant other that you don't want to become engaged without a clear plan for actually getting married sometime quickly after. So don't get engaged 2 years before you are going to graduate from college if you don't want to get married while you're in school--either get married sooner or hold off on your engagement.

Maybe I'm silly and old fashioned but I just feel like engagement should be a quick, fleeting time to plan a wedding and prepare for marriage, not something you do to upgrade your relationship status so your significant other is no longer "just your boyfriend/girlfriend." We need a modern day version of "going steady" I suppose--though I know many fraternity men who "pinned" their girlfriends, and this was seen as very significant, but if you're not both Greek or you're out of college, then you don't have that option.

Perhaps I'm just a bit biased because I know several people who have become engaged in order to upgrade their relationship status and were engaged for over a year before they even started thinking about when they might want to get married and begin planning. I know one couple who was engaged for over 3 years (and living together the entire time) before they just decided to go to the courthouse one morning and finally do it.

TL;DR Engaged is short for "engaged to be married;" it is not just a new/fancier relationship status to get people to take you more seriously.

vk2204 · November 2013

MrsAitch said:

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me.

I hate newer homes and subdivisions, especially where all the homes look exactly the same. Even worse is when it's a subdivision in the middle of a cornfield...it's just beyond weird to me. You couldn't pay me to live in a place like that.

I'm not a fan of upgrading things and don't see why people feel the need to do it all the time. I'll keep my little iPhone 4 until it dies, I'm going to drive the same car for as long as possible, and I hope we never move out of our first home. I think it's more of a hassle to go out and shop for a new thing and then figure out how to use it.

I think stainless steel appliances are ugly and impractical. Hello, fingerprints. I don't see what the big to do is about granite countertops is either. Laminate is fine with me, and aesthetically I like butcher block, but that's not exactly a practical choice.

I like 1950s pink bathrooms. When we were house hunting we put an offer in on a 50s house that had one in tact and the realtor looked at me like I was crazy when I said I wouldn't change that bathroom at all. That house even had boomerang formica in the kitchen and a wall oven--I was so sad when we didn't get it.

I don't like clothes shopping. It's a chore to me and I hate spending money on something so silly.

I got married exactly 2 years to the date we got engaged. For us it wasn't silly, it was what worked best for us. We didn't have to rush into any decisions and we were able to plan the wedding we wanted which we paid cash for, and buy our first home within 6 months of the wedding. We wanted to be (overly) financially stable and not be in debt for it.

climbingsingle · November 2013

I know a couple that's been engaged for 8 years with no current plans to marry. I don't really understand it - why even get engaged? But to each their own, I guess.

vk2204 · November 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

MrsAitch said:

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me. Some people decide on long engagements to save up for the wedding they want, finish school, etc. I guess that's why long engagements don't bother me. Mine was 14 months and I almost wish it had been longer. It was fun being a finacee!

But there does come a point where I get eye-roll-y at a couple for a SUPER long engagement or being engaged with no plans to ever get married (like my MIL and her super awful mulleted on/off again fiance.)

That is what I don't understand. Why do it if you don't have any realistic plans to actually get married?

vk2204 · November 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

vk2204 said:

alisonmarie658 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

MrsAitch said:

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me. Some people decide on long engagements to save up for the wedding they want, finish school, etc. I guess that's why long engagements don't bother me. Mine was 14 months and I almost wish it had been longer. It was fun being a finacee!

But there does come a point where I get eye-roll-y at a couple for a SUPER long engagement or being engaged with no plans to ever get married (like my MIL and her super awful mulleted on/off again fiance.)

That is what I don't understand. Why do it if you don't have any realistic plans to actually get married?
Seriously. Come talk to my MIL and knock some sense into her because this guy that she's been with FOR TWELVE YEARS is the freaking worst.

12 years?! That is crazy! People get engaged to eventually get married - engaged is not a relationship status lol.

vk2204 · November 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

vk2204 said:

alisonmarie658 said:

vk2204 said:

alisonmarie658 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

MrsAitch said:

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me. Some people decide on long engagements to save up for the wedding they want, finish school, etc. I guess that's why long engagements don't bother me. Mine was 14 months and I almost wish it had been longer. It was fun being a finacee!

But there does come a point where I get eye-roll-y at a couple for a SUPER long engagement or being engaged with no plans to ever get married (like my MIL and her super awful mulleted on/off again fiance.)

That is what I don't understand. Why do it if you don't have any realistic plans to actually get married?
Seriously. Come talk to my MIL and knock some sense into her because this guy that she's been with FOR TWELVE YEARS is the freaking worst.

12 years?! That is crazy! People get engaged to eventually get married - engaged is not a relationship status lol.
Yes. 12 years. She "broke up" with him less than a month before our wedding but then kept contact with him and now they are back together. He's super uneducated and dense. She could do so much better than him, but she has zero self esteem so she would rather be with a mullet headed ass hat than to be alone.

Yikes! Hopefully someone can knock some sense into her soon!

NYCBruin · November 2013

I agree that super long engagements with no plans to get married are silly. I just don't get them.

However, I think a one-year limit is also a bit harsh/silly. We will be engaged for 18 months. When we went to book our venue about a month after getting engaged, nearly half the Saturdays in the next year were booked. In some places you have to have a longer engagement if you want a certain venue/certain vendors. And if you're having a huge wedding, it can take more than a year to plan if you both work full time.

I would say I think it's silly to be engaged for more than a year and not have a date set.

arrippa · November 2013

I hate shrimp. I can not even look at the stuff without feeling nauseated.

WinstonsGirl · November 2013

I don't think over a year is too long. We waited about 15-16 months. We got engaged in Dec and wanted to get married in March (spring break cos I'm a teacher). We could have made it work easily enough for us, but we wanted to give our friends and family that extra year to plan and save up in case they wanted to come to Hawaii with us. If we didn't care about having guests, we would have done it that first year

KatWAG · November 2013

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I know a couple that's been engaged for 8 years with no current plans to marry. I don't really understand it - why even get engaged? But to each their own, I guess.

My dad has been engaged for 13-14 years. Honestly I have lost count. They have no plans to marry. They are perma- engaged.

Does anyone remember the seinfeld where George tries to make the case for only being engaged??

smalfrie19 · November 2013

MrsAitch said:

I really, really don't understand when people are engaged for over a year. My opinion is you're engaged because you want to get married so actually get married. Planning a wedding 2 years from now just seems silly to me.

---stuck in the box--

my engagement will be over two years, but not for lack of wanting to get married we got engaged in july of 2012 with plans to marry in may 2013 and then financial things happened and we pushed it out to sept 2013 and again financial shit happened so now we have finally set a date and things falling in place financially so we can have the wedding we want.

ETA: My UO - I also am a hater of cheesecake and guac/avocados. Thats all I got today.

monkeysip · November 2013

We were engaged two years. Originally we wanted to plan the wedding in a year, but we re-evaluated our finances and decided two years was better. It definitely wasn't just some attempt to upgrade our relationship. We had been dating for 8 1/2 years when he proposed (high school sweethearts), and everyone knew we'd get married eventually. But we wanted to have good jobs and be able to pay for the wedding/honeymoon/ etc. we wanted.

JCbride2015 · November 2013

Fi and I will have a 2.5 year engagement. We had to push our date back for financial reasons, and I think that was the more mature decision, rather than getting married earlier before we could really afford it. Shit happens.

UO: I dislike chocolate. Occasionally I'll eat chocolate if it's the only sweet thing around, but I just don't get the draw. And I really hate chocolate ice cream, chocolate cake, mocha anything.

PolarBearFitz · November 2013

FI and I have a 15 month engagement. I think I read somewhere the average engagement is 18 months so over a year isn't a big deal. Unless of course you are in the 10+ year permanent engagement for life scenario.

Anyway...

UO: I don't like Christmas music and get annoyed when it's played in every store I walk into for days on end. I also do not like the color pink and the fact that it is the only color for the girl version of things in a lot of places i.e. hunting, harley, etc.

ElcaB · November 2013

UO: I'm not really a big fan of Thanksgiving turkey. I've had some good ones, but that's never the thing I look forward to at Thanksgiving dinner. I don't like pumpkin pie, either.

True Blood is way overrated.

I like strapless sweetheart dresses, but I'm so tired of seeing them and wish there was a better selection of illusion neckline and dresses with sleeves that don't look like Kate Middleton's. (Can you tell I'm dress searching!?)

I think father/daughter dances are a little silly. No offense to anyone who opted to have one, but I just don't really get why it's like, "Look at me and my dad! We're dancing!"

CLI242009 · November 2013

ElcaB said:

I think father/daughter dances are a little silly. No offense to anyone who opted to have one, but I just don't really get why it's like, "Look at me and my dad! We're dancing!"

For some the first person a girl dances with/loves is her father. I have a lot of gal pals and cousins that say this "The first guy a girl loves is her father" (I know this isn't the case for everyone but this is a saying for the people I know). It's kind of like having one more sweet moment with your dad, especially if you're a daddy's girl, because you're going to go off and start a life (maybe a family) and have special moments that no longer include him.

Usually that's the reason why a daughter would like to dance with her father one more time because all of her "dances" will take place, starting that day, with her new husband. You get the idea I hope lol

ElcaB · November 2013

CLI242009 said:

ElcaB said:

I think father/daughter dances are a little silly. No offense to anyone who opted to have one, but I just don't really get why it's like, "Look at me and my dad! We're dancing!"

For some the first person a girl dances with/loves is her father. I have a lot of gal pals and cousins that say this "The first guy a girl loves is her father" (I know this isn't the case for everyone but this is a saying for the people I know). It's kind of like having one more sweet moment with your dad, especially if you're a daddy's girl, because you're going to go off and start a life (maybe a family) and have special moments that no longer include him.

Usually that's the reason why a daughter would like to dance with her father one more time because all of her "dances" will take place, starting that day, with her new husband. You get the idea I hope lol

Oh, I get it. For me, I'll definitely make sure my dad & I dance together, but it won't be spotlighted, if that makes sense. Instead of having everyone sit there and watch us as the DJ announced, "And now, for the father/daughter dance!", we'll just make it a point to dance together during a certain song

I know it's popular and I'm not overly-critical of any brides who opt to do it, just saying I'm not crazy about them.

lovesclimbing · November 2013

I hate pie with pastry crusts. Really really hate it. I have never liked pie crust and I have had crust made by excellent bakers. It's just so dry and there's so much of it.

I don't like fruit pies (mostly because of the crust.) But also because I am not a believer in fruit in desserts (with a few exceptions such as a topping on something else.). I want something yummy and sweet and rich and bad for me. Chocolate is best. My philosophy is that the more times the words chocolate, fudge, etc. appear in the name, the better. (I.e chocolate fudge cake with chocolate frosting. Three times in the name!!) If it's titled "death by chocolate," even better!!

I do like pies with graham cracker crusts.

bethsmiles · November 2013

ElcaB said:

CLI242009 said:

ElcaB said:

I think father/daughter dances are a little silly. No offense to anyone who opted to have one, but I just don't really get why it's like, "Look at me and my dad! We're dancing!"

For some the first person a girl dances with/loves is her father. I have a lot of gal pals and cousins that say this "The first guy a girl loves is her father" (I know this isn't the case for everyone but this is a saying for the people I know). It's kind of like having one more sweet moment with your dad, especially if you're a daddy's girl, because you're going to go off and start a life (maybe a family) and have special moments that no longer include him.

Usually that's the reason why a daughter would like to dance with her father one more time because all of her "dances" will take place, starting that day, with her new husband. You get the idea I hope lol

Oh, I get it. For me, I'll definitely make sure my dad & I dance together, but it won't be spotlighted, if that makes sense. Instead of having everyone sit there and watch us as the DJ announced, "And now, for the father/daughter dance!", we'll just make it a point to dance together during a certain song

I know it's popular and I'm not overly-critical of any brides who opt to do it, just saying I'm not crazy about them.

I've only been to one wedding where the father-daughter dance was one where everyone else sat and watched. At every other wedding I've been to the father-daughter dance is for all fathers and daughters at the wedding, it's more like a dedicated song than a spotlight dance.

ohannabelle · November 2013

I really hate hate hate crappy Christmas songs. Santa Baby makes me want to poke sharp objects in my ears. That maudlin stupid Christmas Shoes song makes me want to pour gasoline in my ears and light them on fire. What a bunch of saccharine vomit. What is the pleasure in listening to contrived, improbable fake ass badly written manufactured grief? Also, they are NOT Christmas "carols," they're Christmas songs. There's a difference.

monkeysip · November 2013

Ummm... what about "Baby its cold outside"? The official date-rape song of Christmas!

doeydo · November 2013

I absolutely hate Pandora charm bracelets. I think they are ugly and a waste of money.

misssunshine17 · November 2013

I absolutely hate Pandora charm bracelets. I think they are ugly and a waste of money.

**Stuck...

Completely agree!

vt&dt · November 2013

@ohannabelle I'm with you.... HATE the "Christmas Shoes" song so much. So so so so much. But when I've told people that before, they've looked at me like I'm Scrooge for not liking it and being moved to tears.

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