Help!! I did not ask my FH's SIL to be a bridesmaid but asked her to a reading instead - she initially agreed and was excited. She then stopped speaking to us, refused to attend Thanksgiving, and has been refusing the attend the wedding. After hearing how hurt she was my FH offered for her to be a groomswomen - she refused. I reached out to her explaining that I had chosen my bridal party for a reason and that I had not intended to hurt her feelings - she responded saying it was an insult to be asked to do a reading and preceded to bring a whole bunch of family drama into it - that does not involve me and happened long before my FH and I were even dating. I told her it was unfair to be using my wedding to "take a stand" against other family members and that her behavior was selfish and hurtful... after a week or so she then called a apologized to my FH and asked to be a groomswomen (I think she realized I was not going to bend and ask her to be a bridesmaid despite her acting like a petulant child)... she has yet to apologize to me - my family/friends are very upset with her behavior... I am having a hard time moving past this and now my FH wants me to pick out her dress!!! I had already made the appointment for hair and make-up (which are optional) - but I really can't fathom spending the day with her after all the stress and drama she created, especially without even an apology... Would it be terrible for me to not include her and to have him pick out her dress???