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Postponing Wedding

LadyBelle11LadyBelle11 member
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Hello, all! I need some advice on the proper etiquette for informing people that we are postponing our wedding. We never sent save-the-dates; however, word of mouth has led everyone to know the original date. Since most people are traveling from out of town, we are worried that some people may have already made travel plans (the wedding was supposed to be in six months).

Also, we don't want people to get the wrong idea about why we are postponing. Is there any way to avoid the stigma that accompanies this choice? In discussions with close friends, they have all had the initial reaction of, "oh no, what happened?" Thanks for any insight you might be able to provide.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    When this happened to a friend of mine, they just mailed a note to everyone.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    Well, technially, if no one received a STDate, no one actually *knows* if they are invited and therefore no one should have made travel plans.

    However, you know your friends, and if they have, you have to tell them.

    If you have a new date, I would mail cards to people and say, 'The wedding of LadyBelle11 and FFI HAS been postponed to X date.'

    Otherwise, just mail cards or spread the news via word of mouth.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • freebread03freebread03 member
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    I postponed my wedding (but I had sent save the dates).  I called or emailed every single guest-it wasn't a big deal (and this was in June for an October wedding).
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  • deannagirlydeannagirly member
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    I would just send it by word of mouth if you haven't sent anything out actually announcing your wedding date. Just let people know, and people will let people know. Same way it got out in the first place.
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    scribe95 said:
    To me they know this through word of mouth and that is how the postponement should be handled as well. I would find it very odd to get a note about a postponement on a wedding I never got a STD or invitation for.
    This.  If no written communication went out about the wedding, don't send it now to communicate a change.  Call people.  Let your parents spread the word to family.  Same way people found out about the wedding date.
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  • LadyBelle11LadyBelle11 member
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    Thanks, ladies. My fiance's mother is big on etiquette, and I just wanted to make sure I didn't offend.
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