When did you know he or she was the one?

Re: When did you know he or she was the one?

• JCbride2015 member

  

  January 2014

  Aw, I like this thread.

  
  

  I'ma tell you ladies a secret not even Fi knows.  We met very randomly when I was 15 and he was 17.  I wasn't looking for a bf.  He knocked on my friend's door and I remember having an overwhelming feeling that something important was about to happen and I should remember that moment.

  
  

  I don't tell that story because it sounds crazy to say you "knew" at 15.  But I did.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  
  

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• smalfrie19 member

  

  January 2014

  I know every time I have one of my crazy lady break downs and he still hasn't packed his things.

  

  
  

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• kns1988 member

  

  January 2014

  That's really sweet! I can definitely relate to that. My FI was actually my first crush when I was 9. We were childhood friends and we lost contact until college. I tracked him down again

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• bethsmiles member

  

  January 2014

  I knew when I took him home to meet my family at Thanksgiving. It was our last night there and everyone else had already gone to bed. We were cuddling on the couch watching a movie and I remember being so content and happy and thinking that I couldn't imagine wanting anyone else.
  

  
  

  
  

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• MrsDeRuyter87 member

  

  January 2014

  First of all OP your story is AMAZING! My H and I knew each other and were close friends for about 5 years before we started "hanging" out. I always thought he was cute and would be an amazing boyfriend but I always thought he was off limits because I dated one of his friends. About 3 years ago we started seeing eachother more and more. He asked me to go to a family party with him so we could hang out on the lake and go boating and tubing. I spent the day with him and his parents and siblings and aunt and uncle and cousins. I remember at one point we were all sitting around the kitchen and everyone was talking and I looked at him and thought, "I am going to marry this guy, I want this for the rest of my life." 2 weeks later he officially asked me to be his girlfriend and the rest is history!

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• jdluvr06 member

  

  January 2014

  It was very random for me. We were out one day shopping and we were laughing about something and it just kind of hit me that he was the one.

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2014

  When we were long distance and he missed his flight to come see me for Christmas, so he went and bought a GPS and then drove all night from VA to TX to make it in time for Christmas.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• EverAfer member

  

  January 2014

  My FH and I were great friends before we realized we had feelings for each other. One summer, I dated this guy and we broke up a week before a good friend's wedding. So I asked FI to come instead, and he rearranged his schedule and skipped work to come (he knew he had feelings for me then). He was so awesome, he knew no one but had a great time with everyone and everyone liked him.
  
  We finally started dating months after that. And I think I knew on our second date. But the deal was sealed, literally, when my dad was diagnosed with cancer and he stood by our family through all of it. The crazy part was we both got a call from our moms right before a date night. Both dads were going to the same ER, and our families (except for dads) met in the hospital during visits. So we didn't even plan the parents meeting part, it just happened.
  
  After that, with all of the hospital visits and worry, we knew if we can get through this together, everything else will be easy.

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• sarahufl member

  

  January 2014

  When I found out my dad had cancer about 3 weeks into our relationship. He left work in the middle of the day, came over with food in his hand including a variety of sodas and pies (so I would have choices). He didn't make me talk or tell me everything would be better. Just sat here for hours while I cried/slept/watched Law & Order. I can be a *special* person to try and comfort and I don't like to be babied. So the fact that he managed me so well went really far.

  
  

  After that, we had a rough couple years- my cousin died of cancer, my dad's cancer went away, then came back (plus 2 different types on top of the initial diagnosis), my sister had 2 miscarriages. And he is always there. 

  
  

  I knew on our first date that he would be there for the good, but he has continued to prove over and over again that he will equally be there for the bad.

  
  

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• MrsDeRuyter87 member

  

  January 2014

  These are all making me so emotional I love it!

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• Cookie Pusher member

  

  January 2014

  I knew the first time I woke up in his bed and didn't immediately want to run back to my place, which is what I normally did. I really REALLY knew when I out-drank him, and he didn't throw a fit like most guys I know would have (he's very proud of his Irish tolerance lol).

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• Drewsgirl31 member

  

  January 2014

  I met him in EMT class in jan of 08 and we came study buddies, I went into a ditch the first Friday in March and he came to give me and my daughter a ride home from work and when we got there I invited him up to study and have dinner, that night something clicked and we realized we wanted to be more than friends. I knew he was the one when he surprised me with dinner at my favorite Italian place and we both said the "L" word. Our whole relationship has been fast and backwards lol he never went home after that weekend he drove us home, we moved into a house in April and have been together ever since celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary in June, brought a little boy into our lives 2 years ago and bought our first home a few months ago!

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• jenna8984 member

  

  January 2014

  I had 2 previous long term relationships and for some reason with both of those I always had a weird gut feeling that they were just not the one. A year went by with FI and I realized I never got that feeling, it was the opposite feeling of holy crap, this really is the one! 

  Also, I was in a similar accident where he needed to bathe me, dress me, administer an IV in my arm and he was a freakin champ and handled the situation way better than I did (I was so frustrated and pissy pants about the whole thing). 

  
  

  Honestly, I can see why some of my friends are divorced now...I think they had that bad gut feeling that I had with ex's but they probably just thought they were being silly and overlooked it. I'm so glad I listened to it! 

                                                                   

  
  

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• hikebikebemerry member

  

  January 2014

  Firstly, I love this thread!! The first time I met FI, I knew there was something special about him, he just made me smile. I knew that he was the one when he opened up to me about how his father's death, and how he really felt- which he had never been able to get off of his chest. It's not necessarily that he confided in me, but I just felt so deeply connected to him, that I realized what a special connection that we had.

  

  
  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  January 2014

  I knew within a few days.   I was/am "old".  I don't know, I just knew without him doing anything "special".   We met on a drunken night, suppose to be a one night stand that ended badly, but less than 24 hours it was meant to be.  A few days later he said "I'm going to marry you".  A few weeks later his mom wanted to send down her diamond.   Now this is a woman who as not met me yet but as she said it was the way he spoke about me, not like he ever spoke about other that made her know  I was the one.     

  
  

  7 or so months later we were engaged, 15 months after that we were married.   5+ years after the wedding we are going strong.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• fre3doms member

  

  January 2014

  I knew when he sent me a wonderful e-mail asking me out and basically saying he planned on marrying me. He was in the Navy and we had met in person but then communicated via Facebook and e-mail. Our first phone call was after that with him asking "Will you be my girlfriend?"
  
  Then a week later when he cancelled plans, flew 2000 miles and drove 200 miles just to take me on our first date. When we hugged and held hands the first time I knew I could be with him forever. The fact he took me grocery shopping on our first date also confirmed again how sweet and caring he was.
  
  
  

  
  

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• Teddy917 member

  

  January 2014

  Now mine sounds lame. We went on an activity with the other young single adults in our church and he helped me become better at bowling. A month or so later, I told him I loved him and that moment was his "she's the one" moment. Apparently he liked that I went for what I wanted instead of hoping and waiting for it. Which is funny since my mom (who is very sexist btw) told me that the man must always be the one to make the first move, men prefer meek woman who don't take control of what they want, etc. So when I came home that day (still lived with my parents then), I told her about what had happened and said that I guess some men prefer strong women. She told me that I must've pressured him into saying it, men feel obligated to say "I love you" after the woman says it, etc. she said because I said "I love you first", our relationship wouldn't last. Well, guess who's eating her words.

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• CLI242009 member

  

  January 2014

  The day we met face to face for the first time. (Known him since 2004, fell for him in 2008) He came out 2/4/2009 to CA so we could meet. The moment I was in his arms I knew he was my guy. The rest they say is history.
  

  

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• pumpkinsandturkeys member

  

  January 2014

  I knew on a random day, when I looked around his house and suddenly realized that it felt more like home to me than my apartment (or my parents' house), and realized that I desperately wanted to have kids with him. I looked into his eyes and had to turn and hide the fact that I wanted to cry because it was then that I realized how much I love him. There was nothing that either of us did or said that prompted it -- it was just a perfect, overwhelming moment.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• MrsDeRuyter87 member

  

  January 2014

  pumpkinsandturkeys said:

  I knew on a random day, when I looked around his house and suddenly realized that it felt more like home to me than my apartment (or my parents' house), and realized that I desperately wanted to have kids with him. I looked into his eyes and had to turn and hide the fact that I wanted to cry because it was then that I realized how much I love him. There was nothing that either of us did or said that prompted it -- it was just a perfect, overwhelming moment.

  I wish I could love this x100 because that's so IT!
  

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• pinkcow13 member

  

  January 2014

  It was very early on into our relationship, in college. Like, not even a month in. One night we stayed up the whole entire night. We played with the Ouija board in the lounge, in the middle of the night by ourselves, went on a walk around campus, watched the sunrise, talked, went to breakfast in the caf, before going to sleep at like 8am. I just knew that if a guy could do the creepy things I liked with me, and could stay up with me all night just talking and hanging out, that he was the one. BTW, love this thread

                               

  

  
  

   

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  January 2014

  I don't know about "the one" but I definitely had a "this guy's different, in a good way" feeling. I'd had a rough day at work and was sitting on his couch venting away. He'd turned his entire body towards me, and leaned forward, just listening. At some point I said something like, "Sorry to keep going off like this." And he goes, "Oh no- keep going. I'm listening."

  
  

  ...A man... listening? Like really listening? Wow!

  
  

  Ten or eleven months after we met we were at a charity party and he flat out said, "So I've been thinking a lot lately about planning an event like this, like our wedding." And we had a conversation about getting married and it was the most natural feeling, like it was right. Four months later we were officially engaged. 

  He always make me laugh, and our relationship feels easy. He's just... the one. 

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• HaileyDancingbear member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  ETA: I haven't shared this on TK before, because I was sure people would judge me, but after seeing how non-jugemental posters are being towards each other on this thread, I'll share.  He's the first and only man I've ever dated.  People always ask me why I never thought about playing the field, seeing other people to see what it's like,  what if I'm missing out on something, etc, and the truth is that once I started dating FI, I never wanted anyone else.  I never felt I was "Missing out."  I just felt happy.

  
  

  I don't know when the exact moment was, honestly. When I think of it, I think of a series of moments. Even before we dated, when we were just friends, we always got along really well. I've always been EXTREMELY socially awkward, for instance it took my best friend and MOH a whole year to even get close to me (I'm glad she's such a persistent person, I know I was a pain). For me it was always a huge strain to be social.  Even when I was with friends, I could only really stand being around them for a day at most.  Not because they bugged me, just because being social tired me out and I needed time to myself.  For some reason I never felt uncomfortable talking to FI. One day my MOH called me out on that (just sassing me, she wasn't mad or anything) and it hadn't occurred to me before. I wasn't shy with him.  It required zero effort on my part to be social when it came to him, I never got tired of being around him, and to this day, no matter how much time I spend with him, I never get tired of it. 

   Fast forward to a little over a month into the relationship. I stayed at his apartment, and we spent the whole night talking. Just pouring our souls out for each other. It felt amazing to just let everything out like that. There are more, but since I don't want to clog up this post with a novel, I'll go to a more recent one. 

  
  

  We were at the gathering of the vibes this past summer, and I remember we went on the Ferris wheel while Ripple was playing (and that might be our first dance because of this moment) and I remember just taking in the beautiful summer night, looking down at the concert lights, and holding FI close. He told me he loved me, and it wasn't the first time, but it felt like it did the first time.
  I always think of this series of moments, because obviously before we dated, and one month into the relationship, I didn't think to myself "we're going to get married," but I definitely felt something very strong and meaningful, and by Vibes I knew I was extremely happy and wanted to be with him for a vey long time, but it all hit me again like it was new. I still have moments like that. Sometimes they're grand like vibes, sometimes they're little, but it hits me all over again, how much I love him and how certain I am that he and I will always be together, and even though I feel that way often, it always feels like new love. I hope I make sense.

  

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  January 2014

  Everything was just easy with DH.  And I actually wanted to see him again, whereas with most guys I dated, I couldn't really care less.  But big moments were when my basement flooded.  I teach, so couldn't get off and he stayed at the house to soak up water with a team vacuum and dump it down the sink.  All morning.  The next time was about 6 months in when we hike the West Coast trail.  I was miserable and was ready to pull our at the Ferry.  He said he'd go with me.  He also put up with all of my misery on the rest of the trip.  I figured if he could put up with me at my lowest most miserable bitchy me I've ever been, he was worth keeping.  

  
  

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• SmileDamnit member

  

  January 2014

  I met my FI on harmony (gasp!). I didn't want to join but my sister paid for a 3 month membership and I really did want to meet a good guy that, at the very least, I could call a friend so why not?. "D" and I got matched and went through all the hoops (those who have ever done eharm know what I mean) and then we made to to 'open communication' and it was just so…effortless. We spent about a week emailing, texting, talking; constantly. And he made me laugh. Hard! Then we had our first date and I knew within 5 minutes that I was with the man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. It was the strangest, most wonderful & exciting & scary & fantastic feeling ever. It was kismet. And it still give me goosebumps (…even when I want to strangle his snoring ass at 4 am on a random Wednesday). 

  
  

  And I agree…the romantic in me thinks this is thee best thread ever

  

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• MadHops21 member

  

  January 2014

  I'm about to sound like an awful person and open an old wound, but I had baggage from a previous serious BF about my FI sexting other women, so I would look at his phone when he wasn't paying attention and get upset by things. 

  
  

  This was years ago, and I did it a couple times and he would know. We worked on my self esteem issues and he stayed with me, even after I lost his trust so I could regain it. I haven't done that in years now, but that really showed me how much he loved me enough to work on this. 

  
  

  We got engaged recently. I did the snooping at the very beginning of the relationship. 

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• manateehugger member

  

  January 2014

  He was singing Eric Clapton's "Layla" to me (very very poorly) in the truck, and I remember thinking, "I'm in trouble here." 

  

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• KytchynWitche member

  

  January 2014

  I think for me there were three moments where I thought he could be the one, and then the one where I knew.
  
  The first "thought" was honestly the moment I met him. I was in an uncomfortable setting, with loads of people which always makes me anxious, but whenever I looked at him there was just this wave of calm that washed over me.
  
  The second "thought" was the first night I stayed over at his place. I warned him that I suffer from night terrors etc and that new settings often make them worse. He said it would be okay. I did have a terror, followed by a panic attack, and he was just so calm and so perfect through the whole ordeal, getting me water, finding my pills for me, and just holding me.
  
  The third "thought" was a couple of days later when we were in the supermarket and the lady behind the counter at the bakery kept calling me his wife. At that stage we'd only been together about 2 weeks.
  
  I knew when I was baking a lemon meringue pie and trying to separate the eggs wasn't going well, and I flipped out completely, and he didn't leave or tell me I was crazy. He just helped me clean up and start over. That's when I knew for certain.
  

  

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• KytchynWitche member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  GAH stupid double post
  

  

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• Kohl95 member

  

  January 2014

  We were 18 and on vacation with his family for 10 days.. We spent every waking hour with each other and we never fought.. Even though I was young then, I remember thinking "this is nice.. and comfortable.. I could do this for the rest of my life.." and I still feel the same 5 years later..

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