When did you know he or she was the one?

natswild · January 2014

I knew nearly 2 years ago, when FI had his car accident, which should have killed him, and had a second this is the one moment, when he drove 17 hours with me to my parents' place, while he was still in significant pain

ShallowSeas · January 2014

We had our first kiss on NYE before we were actually dating, and started dating about a week later. I knew when he kissed me at midnight that I needed to be more than friends with him. This past summer, I could totally see myself being with him for the rest of life, and while we were on our first vacation together this past September, I knew I would say 'yes' if he asked, and I was really hoping he was thinking about asking

melbelleup · January 2014

I knew immediately. We met through education block classes.. I was dating someone, FI wasn't my type (I thought he was a know it all, snob etc) and he hit on me during graduation. I thought he was being a dick. Then we became facebook friends (12/25/11) and talking a bunch, that night he asked me on a date. On that date (12/30) I realized I wanted him to be mine. I actually thought I messed up because we ended up sleeping together that night, but in reality, it made him realize he liked me more than he thought and the rest was history

We actually said I love you to each other Vday of 2012 while in Gettysburg together. He proposed right before our 1 yr of dating, on 12/31/12. So, our relationship had a fast track lol though, we've lived together since 9/2012 as well.

climbingsingle · January 2014

I know this sounds crazy, but on our third date. We were sitting in a restaurant in Little Italy drinking Sangria and this feeling just came over me. I just knew.

aurorajanette · January 2014

We had only been dating for about 2 weeks. He was upstate with his friends for a long weekend of doing guy stuff. It was a Friday, and I came down with the flu. I left work and called him on my way home to see how he was doing/complain about being sick, etc. He showed up at my door three hours later with a container of chicken soup that he bought at the grocery store and a bouquet of flowers. He had driven all the way back home to take care of me while I was sick. It was so early, but I knew then that it was something special.

Two and a half years later, that thought is confirmed every day. We still go out of our way to do sweet things for each other, tell each other how much we love the other multiple times per day... even something as stupid as making goofy faces at each other when we first see each other after work. It is just second nature.

emmyg65 · January 2014

We knew something was different on our first date. That sounds insane, but it's true. I definitely fought it and waited a while to be sure, but we knew right away. We started joking about eloping after about two months!

SmileDamnit · January 2014

emmyg65 said:

We knew something was different on our first date. That sounds insane, but it's true. I definitely fought it and waited a while to be sure, but we knew right away. We started joking about eloping after about two months!

I don't think it's strange in the least. When you know, you know!

Emmy1493 · January 2014

JCBride2014 said:

Aw, I like this thread.

I'ma tell you ladies a secret not even Fi knows. We met very randomly when I was 15 and he was 17. I wasn't looking for a bf. He knocked on my friend's door and I remember having an overwhelming feeling that something important was about to happen and I should remember that moment.

I don't tell that story because it sounds crazy to say you "knew" at 15. But I did.

I met my FI when I was 15 too. I know how it sounds, but after dating for awhile and getting to really know each other, you just can't picture yourself with anyone else. So, I don't think it's really crazy.(At least from my perspective. ;D ) it's sweet.

joannaeberhart · January 2014

Aw...I want to hug all of you

thelastdreamer · January 2014

I really think I knew before we were dating. We were taking this class together and I was being my typical know-it-all self and he basically told me, in front of the entire class, to shut up because I didn't know what I was talking about. I got really annoyed and then after class I saw that he had tweeted "@thelastdreamer is pretty cute when she gets flustered." I was so irritated and embarrassed and marched up to him and demanded he apologize for tweeting about me. He laughed at me and said no, he wouldn't apologize, but he would take me on a date. I was so taken back and just couldn't believe his nerve. And suddenly I realized I'd finally met my match.

I'd had this long history of dating guys who were kind of whimps. Nice guys, but they just sort of caved to me (I'm pretty stubborn) and let me run all over them. He was the first guy who wasn't at all afraid to stand up to me and never seemed intimidated by me.

PolarBearFitz · January 2014

I have two times where it really jumped in my face that he was the man for me. When I first met him and thought he was bounds out of my league. I could not believe it was real when I met this guy who was everything I prayed for as a little girl down to his puppy dog brown eyes. We kept seeing each other by happen stance until finally we spent one night talking and laughing for 8 hours straight.

The other time was when I was hospitalized last year and he spent 13 hours in there with me. I had to go through dozens of tests and it was really scary/tiring. He kept himself calm and collected even though he was a nervous wreck (I only found this out later on when his mom told me). The only time he left my side was to go let my dogs out for me. He was even handling the communication with my mom for me.

It may sound overly sappy but I think I am reminded almost everyday that he is 'the one.' I love him more and more every day. He can be so surprising.

cupcait927 · January 2014

I think we both knew from the first date that there was something different, something special there but there was one moment in particular that made me realize he was the one that was meant for me. I always have a hard time sleeping and will frequently wake up in the middle of the night and lay there awake. We'd been date for about two or three months at the time and I was staying over at his place and couldn't fall asleep. He always told me to wake him up when I couldn't sleep and he'd keep me company but I never did because I would've felt terrible about keeping him up. Well that night I rolled over and snuggled up to him and he woke up, put his arm around me and just talked quietly to me and rubbed my head to try and soothe me. He did this for about half an hour until I was just falling asleep, no questions asked, no grumbling about me waking him up. He was just so concerned about me not sleeping and wanting to take care of me and I knew in that moment that he was the one. As lame as that sounds

PolarBearFitz · January 2014

BTW I am a super saptastical one and love how in love everyone is...

Faith in humanity and happily ever after now restored!

climbingsingle · January 2014

emmyg65 said:

We knew something was different on our first date. That sounds insane, but it's true. I definitely fought it and waited a while to be sure, but we knew right away. We started joking about eloping after about two months!

I totally feel you. Our first date we spent 7 hours straight just talking and laughing. I knew it was different. When FI traveled to Israel two months after we started dating, he was telling everyone there that he was going to marry me.

MrsDeRuyter87 · January 2014

prettybirdy27 said:

I figured it out when I was cleaning my cat's litter box. We had spent the whole weekend together and he had dropped me back off at my house. I was profoundly sad and tearing up a little and I couldn't quite figure out why I was so sad. Then it just sort of hit me, right as I was pouring dirty kitty litter into a garbage bag, that I was so sad because I loved him and didn't want to be apart.

I didn't say anything because we were only 3 months in. But a couple months later, my dad had to go to the hospital to have emergency back surgery, and DH (obvs BF at the time) dropped everything and drove three hours with me to my hometown for a week. We had to sleep in my single bed in my old room where we barely had enough room to roll over. He spent countless hours at the hospital with me, including holding me while I cried in the waiting room during the surgery, and he helped my dad do things like use the restroom because he was having a hard time of it himself. He also spent a ton of time at my dad's house preparing things for when Dad came home. The whole time, he didn't complain once. That's when I knew he was the one. He was so incredibly selfless. We've had several similar health emergencies in my family since, and each and every time he has done the same thing.

wow I am sure your dad and your DH have such a great bond. I can't imagine how it felt for your dad to see his daughters boyfriend take such measures for her and her family. That must have green lighted the respect 100%

afox007 · January 2014

For me it was on our first date. It was supposed to just be a one night stand, but he insisted I stay the night when we realized it was 2 am and we were still sitting outside talking. As soon as he cuddled up next to me I knew I wanted to fall asleep like that every night.

For him it was a week later. He wanted me to meet his son and as soon as we picked him up me and him hit it off. We went to the beach and FI had to run back to the car and he says when he saw the two of us playing in the tide pools together he realized the 3 of us were a perfect family.

LauraMay23 · January 2014

Our first kiss. We met first when I was 14 and he was 15 and really didn't actually think much of each other. I actually had a thing for his friend.
Our first kiss was NYE or well, 2am on new years day and it was just...special and thats when I knew.

smalfrie19 · January 2014

LauraMay23 said:

Our first kiss. We met first when I was 14 and he was 15 and really didn't actually think much of each other. I actually had a thing for his friend.
Our first kiss was NYE or well, 2am on new years day and it was just...special and thats when I knew.

how old are you? I am not being snarky..but a kiss...at 14...I don't buy it.

PolarBearFitz · January 2014

smalfrie19 said:

LauraMay23 said:

Our first kiss. We met first when I was 14 and he was 15 and really didn't actually think much of each other. I actually had a thing for his friend.
Our first kiss was NYE or well, 2am on new years day and it was just...special and thats when I knew.

how old are you? I am not being snarky..but a kiss...at 14...I don't buy it.

Just almost spit out my water laughing at this comment. xD

smalfrie19 · January 2014

aefitz29 said:

smalfrie19 said:

LauraMay23 said:

Our first kiss. We met first when I was 14 and he was 15 and really didn't actually think much of each other. I actually had a thing for his friend.
Our first kiss was NYE or well, 2am on new years day and it was just...special and thats when I knew.

how old are you? I am not being snarky..but a kiss...at 14...I don't buy it.

Just almost spit out my water laughing at this comment. xD

sorry!

photokitty · January 2014

My sister got married 2 months before my first wedding. My mom said she asked her how she knew he was the one and she said, "I don't know what I'd do if anything happened to him. I wouldn't want to go on living." I thought that was the craziest thing I'd ever heard. I'd be devastated if anything happened to my FI at the time (now ex) but I'd go on with life.

I knew DH was the one when I one day had that same realization. I didn't think I could fall in love that deeply. The day I knew I wouldn't want to go on without him was the day I knew he was the one. It was a really scary and wonderful feeling all at the same time.

blondeej · January 2014

He never let me leave. I'm a leaver, that's my MO. I tested and pushed him relentlessly, trying to get him to prove me right, so I could bunch him in with the "rest" of them, but he never faltered.

Then one day we caught each other's eye and it was like we were seeing each other's souls. It was the most powerful thing either of us had ever felt. He is my everything and I can't wait to be his wife.

dramamonkey · January 2014

DH and I met on match.com when I was going to graduate school in Alabama. He'd lived his whole life in Alabama...

There were a lot of little moments that added up to knowing he was "the one" but the main was when I told him I would never ask him to move to Maryland for me and he told me that I wouldn't have to.

JCbride2015 · January 2014

smalfrie19 said:

aefitz29 said:

smalfrie19 said:

LauraMay23 said:

Our first kiss. We met first when I was 14 and he was 15 and really didn't actually think much of each other. I actually had a thing for his friend.
Our first kiss was NYE or well, 2am on new years day and it was just...special and thats when I knew.

how old are you? I am not being snarky..but a kiss...at 14...I don't buy it.

Just almost spit out my water laughing at this comment. xD

sorry!

Awwww hahaha. I said I knew at 15! Before we even kissed! Did I just not get flamed because you guys know I'm 26 now?

In all seriousness though, of course you can't know in an intellectual way at that first moment. Over the years it's been a lot of things beyond just that first "feeling." I already knew by then, but things were even more cemented after the hurricane. All our shit was destroyed, we were literally displaced and homeless, and he was such a source of strength for me. I realized if we can get through that, we can get through whatever life throws at us. As PPs have said, you sort of realize over time that you just couldn't live without that person. Which is really scary when you think about it.

I love this thread and I want it to never ever go away. I adore reading all your stories!

erinlin25 · January 2014

When I met my now husband I was working 3 jobs: teacher in the day, coach after school and then I traveled practically every weekend for the cheer company I worked for. And when we met it was basketball season so on top of practice we had games 2-3 nights a week.. so to say I was "busy" was an understatement. Anyone I met in the past always just thought I was blowing them off. But Mike understood and hung in through the crazy schedule. I really, really fell for him when about 2 months into dating I was gone for the weekend and he wanted to drop me off/pick me up from the airport. So coming home my flight was delayed so I just said I would call him when I landed (he lived 10 min from the airport). So, we land and my phone would not get service or even recognize the sim card so I could not call him...and I did not know his number by heart yet. I was traveling with 2 friends who said no worries we will drive you home, but I still felt bad and did not want him to think I stood him up. So as I am waiting at baggage claim (phone still not working) all of a sudden this guy comes up behind me and gives me this huge hug. I was freaked out at first, but was so happy when it was Mike... and yes he even had a red rose with him (I still have it too). He actually tracked my flight and waited at the airport for me to arrive. He earned major points that day!

RissAnn1970 · January 2014

I raised an eyebrow when he suggested skee ball for our first date. He didn't know it, but my parents' first date was playing skee ball.

I had a good feeling when that 1st date ended up lasting 14 hours after we'd spent 5 hours the night before on the phone.

But I knew for sure when very early on he started talking marriage & I didn't immediately break up with him. We were engaged in under 4 months.

MadHops21 · January 2014

blondeej said:

He never let me leave. I'm a leaver, that's my MO. I tested and pushed him relentlessly, trying to get him to prove me right, so I could bunch him in with the "rest" of them, but he never faltered.

Then one day we caught each other's eye and it was like we were seeing each other's souls. It was the most powerful thing either of us had ever felt. He is my everything and I can't wait to be his wife.

This sounds like me! I kneed my fiance a couple times in the balls a couple times (lightly, but still obviously painful) and he said the next time I did that, he would leave. That was the first time. I did it a second time, but FI still stuck with me. (It was never intentional! I was being dumb and "playful")

blondeej · January 2014

@Kelcita - LOL! well, I can't say that was the kind of "Testing and pushing" I was referring to, but that's straight up funny!

For the (laughable) record - my FI has mentioned MANY MANY times about how any sort of hitting/kneeing/smacking of that area is straight UP unforgivable. He get's so serious when talking about it I have been scared to ever even attempt a "joke" of that... I think he's just got extra tender goods or something. LOL

RWS2011 · January 2014

I knew the first time FI met my daughter. Still in a shy phase, my then 4 year old peered at him from behind my leg, and then stepped forward and stuck her hand out to shake his. By the end of the night, he was chasing us out to the car, playing monster. I already knew he was the best man I let into my life, but I knew he was the one when I saw how well he interacted with my daughter!

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