I have posted here on this subject before, mainly venting about a bridesmaid I have been butting heads with. She has been one of my good friends for 14 years now, we have known each other since high school. When I got engaged I immediately asked her to be a bridesmaid. A couple of months later she shared with me that she was four months pregnant and will be giving birth in the middle of December. This was great news, but also meant that at the time of my wedding she will have a 6 month old baby. My fiancé and I are not having children at our wedding, we have had to tell many family members who will all have children under the ages of 1 years old at the time of the wedding that their baby's are not invited. I reminded my bridesmaid of this, and she is demanding I allow her to bring her daughter because she will be breast feeding at the time and has also demanded that I invite her mother to the wedding and has stated that her infant daughter will be in my formal pictures. I have tried speaking to her about this, but she believes she should be an exception over everyone else. I have thought about this long and hard. I understand that the baby needs to come for the weekend since she lives in Boston and the wedding is in Connecticut, but her daughter and mother will not be invited to the ceremony and reception. She keeps dismissing me and believes I will just budge and let her have her way. I would like to be able to tactfully ask her to step down as a bridesmaid, I am just not sure of how to go about it and what to say. She is a very demanding person and has always been the type of person who gets her way or will just scream at you until she gets her way. She and I had spoken about leaving her daughter home for my dress shopping. She screamed at me but complied for the first day of it, then when I was in the fitting room went over my head and spoke to my mother about it, thus wearing my mother down and getting her approval for the second day. (My mother did not want the baby there either) I am just not exactly sure what to say or how to say it, I am a very non confrontational person and she is the opposite.