How to Address an "Almost Married" Couple

Re: How to Address an "Almost Married" Couple

• Artemischief member

  

  January 2014

  I would say address the invite to Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe, as long as they would receive the invite before their wedding. Then obviously, the thank you would be to Mr. And Mrs. John Smith. If you did "The future..." and I received it, I would assume it was a wedding card/gift for my own wedding. Now this could be completely wrong, but that is what I would do.

  

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• mysticl member

  

  January 2014

  jaxx02 said:

  I am not sure how to address an invite to a couple that will be married one month before my wedding but will not be married when they receive my invitation.  I feel like it's bad luck to address them as "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" before it's official but at the same time I don't want to insult them by addressing them separately.  Would "The Future Mr. and Mrs. Smith" suffice?  Thoughts? 

  I vote no.  Address it based on what their names are at the time you send out the invite.  It is in no way insulting to address someone by their name or to acknowledge their current relationship status.  

  

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• jaxx02 member

  

  January 2014

  Yes, I was concerned that it would be mistaken as something meant for them.  Thanks for your response!
  

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• KatWAG member

  

  January 2014

  You cant be "almost married." Its the same thing as being a little bit pregnant. Either you are or you are not.

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2014

  No, address the invitations to them based on their names and status at the time the invitation goes out.  Even if they don't receive it until after they're married, you're acknowledging their status as of the date you're inviting them.
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2014

  Address it the way you would any other living together but unmarried couple.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  January 2014

  Artemischief said:

  I would say address the invite to Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe, as long as they would receive the invite before their wedding. Then obviously, the thank you would be to Mr. And Mrs. John Smith. If you did "The future..." and I received it, I would assume it was a wedding card/gift for my own wedding. Now this could be completely wrong, but that is what I would do.

  Not obviously, what if the woman is not changing her name?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Artemischief member

  

  January 2014

  Since OP mentioned something about the "future Mr. And Mrs. Smith" I was going off that. If she was not changing her last name, of course you would not address it that way, but given as this scenario implied she was changing I answered accordingly.

  

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  January 2014

  Artemischief I figured as much. It was more as a reminder to others that not every woman changes her name when getting married. So make sure you know how people want to be addressed. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Artemischief member

  

  January 2014

  Very true. When our friends got married we didn't know she wasn't changing her last name(hers is unusual, his is fairly common). We were embarrassed when we found out after we had already given a card to Mr. And Mrs. Last name. She understood though, and we haven't made that mistake again.

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  laurynm84 said:

  Artemischief said:

  I would say address the invite to Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe, as long as they would receive the invite before their wedding. Then obviously, the thank you would be to Mr. And Mrs. John Smith. If you did "The future..." and I received it, I would assume it was a wedding card/gift for my own wedding. Now this could be completely wrong, but that is what I would do.

  Not obviously, what if the woman is not changing her name?

  It would be sent to whatever names the couple are using at the time the invitations go out.
  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  January 2014

  Do whatever is least likely to confuse the United States Postal Service. In this case, "Mr. John Doe/Ms. Susan Jones."

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• SKPM member

  

  January 2014

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  Do whatever is least likely to confuse the United States Postal Service. In this case, "Mr. John Doe/Ms. Susan Jones."

  This. And if you are not 100% positive that she plans to take his name, I wouldn't use Mr. & Mrs. His Name after their wedding anyway.
  

  
  

  
  

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• JennyColada member

  

  January 2014

  If I am Miss Jenny Colada and not yet Mrs Jenny Knott then I don't want you to refer to me (on invitation or otherwise) as Mrs Jenny Knott.

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