Hey guys! Just a few estimates on the cost of everything so you are prepared ... (we may decide to split Carolyn's way as well which might increase the cost a bit). Estimates below are splitting everything 9 ways (might adjust with some last minute changes too!) Hotel rooms (shared with 3 people): $182/each for the weekend Friday night dinner/show: $65/each (includes tax/tip and covers Carolyn): $65/each Limo/wine tasting for Saturday : $125/each
OK...I didn't realize I was co hosting this event, but I had planned to offer to help with Carolyn's cost on a dinner or activity anyway so I decided to let it go.
Then today I get another email:
Sadly Amanda is unable to make it this weekend due to some personal reasons so we will have to split the hotels/wine tasting/dinner 8 ways instead... just keep that in mind from the original cost estimate I sent out.
The hotel is approximately $204 (assuming I calculated the tax
correctly) and the wine tour is $115.50. For dinner Friday, it is going to be closer to $70 now per
person. $60/each (includes tax/tip) + $10 for Carolyn's. We can just
collect that + whatever people buy in drinks when we pay the bill.
I am seriously offended that this is the way these girls decided to handle this. The 2 BM that decided to plan this should have planned to pay for the Bride, I don't think they should be imposing this especially last minute...it's not a lot of money, but the principle.
Do you girls think I am overreacting?
Re: Pretty Annoyed - Bachelorette Rant
I don't think you're overreacting and I don't think people just attending and not hosting should be asked to pay. For mine - the bridesmaids that attended split the costs of the hotel room (1 for 4 of us). Some people threw in some money for my dinner or bought me a drink, some didn't. The hosts are the people that plan the bachelorette. Sometimes this is everyone that attends and sometimes not. Usually a couple people outside the bridal party are invited, though.
I helped plan a joint bachelor/bachelorette party where the best man wanted every guest to pay $20 for the pool rental (this was AFTER the rental was completed and our understanding was that it was free). I just paid it for all the girls outside the bridal party because it didnt seem like their responsibility. Some paid anyway (husbands were invited and told them). I just hate the idea of saying "hey, come to my party! It costs $500 to attend!"
Understood that some people don't mind destination bachelorettes though - I just personally don't like them. But OP, if I were you I'd say "I can afford the hotel room and my flight and meals. (or x amount for the weekend)." Or I'd decline if I hadn't booked anything yet.
good luck OP. Hopefully no one else backs out, but whoever is hosting needs to take that into consideration and know that if more people pull out your budget is this much or you yourself will have to decline as well. Plans may need to get tweaked.
it is one thing to do a big trip, but they should ask for budgets before planning stuff like that! Of course people want to go, but they do not think what it will cost to be a part of it, and that sh!t adds up! That is why whenever I get word of the weekend extravaganza's I always decline because I know it will always be more than what is anticipated.
IF OP is a BM THEN she should split the bill BUT ONLY IF she has been consulted before hand about her budget. The other BMs don't get to plan the event they want and foist those costs on other people.
As for the wine thing? Yeah, also no. If I go out to dinner with four friends, I pay for what *I* consumed -- not one-fifth of the total cheque.
Being a grown-up means asking people what they can afford and planning and hosting an event within that price range, not expecting blank cheques from your friends.