Pretty Annoyed - Bachelorette Rant

MrsMarende · January 2014

So an update to all of this. I expressed some dissatisfaction with the BM who is also a friend of mine when responding to an email of hers about the trip just by saying I am a little disappointed about all the last minute additional costs and wish we would have had an idea of everything sooner.

No reply from her, but then today I get this email.

Just in case you guys didn't get the email that Kristine sent... Carolyn wants us all to wear black on Friday and pink for wine tasting on Sat.

So the green dress that I bought for Friday night on the town will no longer be acceptable and I have to find something pink before we fly out on Friday. I work 10-13 hour days on average and am praying I can figure out a way to go shopping for these items before we leave.

jdluvr06 · January 2014

Um no... No freaking way would I do that. Just wear the green dress. They can't dictate what you wear. Completely unacceptable.

MrsMarende · January 2014

Um no... No freaking way would I do that. Just wear the green dress. They can't dictate what you wear. Completely unacceptable.

Well it is like dark forest green and I was planning to wear thick black tights under since it will be cold there. I recently lost a lot of weight so I don't have a huge amount of clothes to pick from and I am trying to loose more so kinda in between.

PrettyGirlLost · January 2014

MrsMarende said:

So an update to all of this. I expressed some dissatisfaction with the BM who is also a friend of mine when responding to an email of hers about the trip just by saying I am a little disappointed about all the last minute additional costs and wish we would have had an idea of everything sooner.

No reply from her, but then today I get this email.

Just in case you guys didn't get the email that Kristine sent... Carolyn wants us all to wear black on Friday and pink for wine tasting on Sat.

So the green dress that I bought for Friday night on the town will no longer be acceptable and I have to find something pink before we fly out on Friday. I work 10-13 hour days on average and am praying I can figure out a way to go shopping for these items before we leave.

Do NOT buy additional dresses just to satisfy these ridiculous demands. Just wear what you already planned on wearing.

The Bride can build a bridge and get the fuck over herself. Or, switch your tickets from Vegas or wherever to Fuckthatville.

To people lurking- Don't make attire demands of people for your bachlorette parties! It's totally controlling, bitchy, rude, and plain stupid. You are getting married not joining a fucking sorority- you don't need everyone to match all the damn time.

lyndausvi · January 2014

Wow. I'm not even a big planner (i.e. I decided 4 days out on going to the Orange Bowl in FL when I live in IN). Even so I would be more organized then these people, especially with other people counting on me to provide them with information.

GL

ETA - I honestly do not understand dictating colors for b-parties. I see them all the time and still don't get it.

MrsMarende · January 2014

The last Bach I attended we all wore wigs when we went out one night. There was no specific style or color, just that they were kind of crazy.

It was silly and sort of fun, but we were told about it 6-7 weeks in advance. I had time to shop online and order one....which I didn't like when it came and still enough time to go somewhere else and buy one I did like. I brought the 1st one as extra in case someone didn't buy it.

I don't even mind if the hosts plan for all the girls to wear a matching shirt if I am given proper notice. But this email is at 6ish at night only 48 hours before our flight leaves.

Cookie Pusher · January 2014

MrsMarende said:

So an update to all of this. I expressed some dissatisfaction with the BM who is also a friend of mine when responding to an email of hers about the trip just by saying I am a little disappointed about all the last minute additional costs and wish we would have had an idea of everything sooner.

No reply from her, but then today I get this email.

Just in case you guys didn't get the email that Kristine sent... Carolyn wants us all to wear black on Friday and pink for wine tasting on Sat.

So the green dress that I bought for Friday night on the town will no longer be acceptable and I have to find something pink before we fly out on Friday. I work 10-13 hour days on average and am praying I can figure out a way to go shopping for these items before we leave.

In your shoes, I would NOT be buying new clothes. The people planning this have done a piss poor job of communicating with the attendees. How they find this to be acceptable is beyond me.

jdluvr06 · January 2014

MrsMarende said:

Um no... No freaking way would I do that. Just wear the green dress. They can't dictate what you wear. Completely unacceptable.

Well it is like dark forest green and I was planning to wear thick black tights under since it will be cold there. I recently lost a lot of weight so I don't have a huge amount of clothes to pick from and I am trying to loose more so kinda in between.

I love forest green. I bet it is a pretty dress and if I were you I would rock that outfit and if they get pissed that you didn't go out and get a black dress they can just get over it. You're already spending a lot of money on this trip there is absolutely no need for you to have to buy special outfits if you don't want to.

MrsMarende · January 2014

This is actually the exact dress lol

http://www.redcarpet-fashionawards.com/category/blog/blog-designers/french-connection/

Cookie Pusher · January 2014

MrsMarende said:

This is actually the exact dress lol

http://www.redcarpet-fashionawards.com/category/blog/blog-designers/french-connection/

That dress is gorgeous! I'd rock that so hard. Honestly, with how inconsiderate these ladies are being, I'd ignore their wardrobe directive. Oops, the email must have gone to spam!

jdluvr06 · January 2014

MrsMarende said:

This is actually the exact dress lol

http://www.redcarpet-fashionawards.com/category/blog/blog-designers/french-connection/

You definitely need to wear that! It is too pretty not to.

HisGirlFriday13 · January 2014

That dress is gorgeous; wear it! This BP is a shit-storm, and you need to stop catering to their demands that let the shit-storm swell.

JellyBean52513 · January 2014

I still want to know what's wrong with Applebees. I feel like a social leper.

JCbride2015 · January 2014

I'm not a fan of Applebees, but Chili's is my "tacky" indulgence. I could eat their queso dip all day. Guess that makes me a low life!

jdluvr06 · January 2014

Fridays is mine. Their jack Daniels stuff is so yummy.

Cookie Pusher · January 2014

I never liked Applebee's until I started working in a mall in college. Since it was the only palatable food option (lots of health code issues at the other food stalls and food put in the communal fridge invariably went missing), I ate a lot of it. Usually salads or nachos.

Amyzen83 · January 2014

jdluvr06 said:
Fridays is mine. Their jack Daniels stuff is so yummy.

I'm a sucker for their vanilla bean cheesecake! Yum!

Amyzen83 · January 2014

Op I love your dress btw! Those girls can take their pink and black dresses and shove it!

lovesclimbing · January 2014

LowerEastSiiide said:

As for paying for what you ordered - incredibly tacky. That's cool to do in college but not as an adult. A box of pasta costs like a buck- you are paying for the experience of being out, not for actual
LOL. What? When I go out to dinner with my friends, some girls will eat an app, some will order an entire bottle of wine, one might decide to skip wine altogether, someone may go for fillet mignon over a salad, and there are various amounts of money being spent on food and drinks. I mean, I guess if you and your friends go to Appleby's and don't drink alcohol, splitting evenly could be fair, but really? We easily have some people spending about $60 with tax and tip and another spending $12 with tax and tip. Why should she have to spend more to help cover alcohol and apps she didn't drink/eat? That's silly.
This is so embarrassing for you... I'd keep this to yourself - eek.

After this, yes, definitely a troll.

AddieCake · January 2014

jdluvr06 said:

Usually when we go out everyone pays for what they order. I've never been to a restaurant where they wouldn't put different orders on different checks.

Exactly. They usually ask you first thing, "Are these separate checks?" and if they don't, we always indicate whose bills are together and whose are separate.

AddieCake · January 2014

MrsMarende said:

So an update to all of this. I expressed some dissatisfaction with the BM who is also a friend of mine when responding to an email of hers about the trip just by saying I am a little disappointed about all the last minute additional costs and wish we would have had an idea of everything sooner.

No reply from her, but then today I get this email.

Just in case you guys didn't get the email that Kristine sent... Carolyn wants us all to wear black on Friday and pink for wine tasting on Sat.

So the green dress that I bought for Friday night on the town will no longer be acceptable and I have to find something pink before we fly out on Friday. I work 10-13 hour days on average and am praying I can figure out a way to go shopping for these items before we leave.

Absolutely not. And if you agree to this, you're just enabling and shouldn't be here venting about it in the first place.

cookie0803 · January 2014

MrsMarende said:
This is actually the exact dress lol

http://www.redcarpet-fashionawards.com/category/blog/blog-designers/french-connection/

Please wear this dress, it's amazing!

Maggie0829 · January 2014

I can't believe that you even considered buying something different to wear. Wear what you were planning on and tell them to go fuck themselves if they say anything rude about it.

lyndausvi · January 2014

AddieL73 said:

jdluvr06 said:

Usually when we go out everyone pays for what they order. I've never been to a restaurant where they wouldn't put different orders on different checks.

Exactly. They usually ask you first thing, "Are these separate checks?" and if they don't, we always indicate whose bills are together and whose are separate.

Honestly until I moved to Indianapolis I had never had that question asked when ordering and I've lived and worked in a lot of different locations around the states. I'm still not used to it being asked around here.

sarahufl · January 2014

That dress is awesome. Wear it. You will not only look hot, but you will be taking a stand against the tackiness of this entire situation.

Win/Win!

delujm0 · January 2014

I had a destination B-party (as i mentioned earlier) - the day of the big drinking event we all wore matching t-shirts, which i had no part in (or any idea about), but the BM who was hosting ordered them (and paid for them) for everyone involved. I didn't even care whether people wore them or not, though they all did. At no point for the rest of the weekend did i demand a costume of any sort. WTF is this? WHO DOES THAT?

OP, this bride sounds crazy. I can't recall if you are in the wedding party or not, but i hope you're not because i can't imagine what else she's demanding of them at this point.

jneen101 · January 2014

This whole thing is completely absurd. I can't imagine dictating anyone's attire, but I see this all the time on this board. What is wrong with people?

ashleyep · January 2014

I will say that at the bachelorette parties I've been (which haven't been that many) we've always split the cost of dinners by the number of people - 1, to cover the bride. I think it's usually just easier that way. If someone orders something drastically different, then we can accommodate, but that really hasn't been the case. I think it's just easier than making the waitress tally up separate checks. When I was in college and would eat out with friends it was a nightmare and we always ended up short.

I went to one last summer in Santa Barbara. The bride (my cousin) and her friends lived in Arizona and decided to drive out in two cars. I flew into San Diego and drove up with another friend. I think we covered the bride's hotel costs as well, but when the bridal party was talking about flying her out, my first thought was "hell no - I'm not picking up that cost. I'm paying to fly cross country and get myself to Santa Barbara, you can figure out how to get yourselves and the bride there."

vt&dt · January 2014

This bachelorette party seems outrageous. My BP will be a night out - dinner and drinks, and one of the BM's has invited any/all of the girls to sleep at her place nearby. Why does it need to be more than one day?

Maybe it's my midwestern heritage showing... I don't expect the other girls to cover my dinner/drinks, but even if they did, it'd be difficult for them to spend more than $80-100 on the night.

OP, please wear the awesome green dress and call out anyone that says anything snarky/rude about it. We can't be there to call them out with you... but I think we all would if we could.

And posters on TK can come up with some GREAT one-liners/insults (I first heard the term douche-canoe on these forums!).

tcnoble · January 2014

@vt&dt douchecanoe is the best!!

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