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NWR: Needing to vent
So Philip Hoffman died by overdosing, right? Well, this one chick on FB went off on a rant, saying how she doesn't care he died because he did it to himself and left his kids behind. "People need to grow up if you have a drug problem then get help don't be a coward and take the easy way out. So annoying"
The boyfriend has chimed in, saying that addiction is "something that is easy to kick by pure self control." I have never tried drugs or had any addictions, but I know how tough that can be. And to make such a blanket statement about someone you don't personally just annoys me.
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Re: NWR: Needing to vent
Totally get where you're coming from here, and I agree that those comments were a little off. It's sad that he's gone so soon.
That being said, I don't know how much sympathy I really have for him either. He had the means (financial, familial, etc) to get clean, as evidenced by his previous stays in rehab. He was supposed to pick up his 3 children (ages 5-10), but instead shot up and overdosed. What was his original plan? Shoot up, get behind the wheel, go pick them up and and be responsible for them? Maybe bring them back to his apartment with heroin bags and syringes around? *side eye*
If this was anyone else, people would be chiming in about how he was a deadbeat/awful parent, but since he was a good actor we tweet tributes and make him out to be some sort of martyr. Please.
*steps off soap box*
Anytime someone dies, I have sympathy for at least their family. His kids didn't do anything to deserve to lose their dad even if he did it to himself. Anyone who thinks they may pass judgement on someone's life they were not even a part of is stepping out of their place.
I do not think it's right to be declaring 'what you thought of his circumstances' when you really just know what the media has told you about them.
Let's also remember that those with money and power are just as easily enabled as they are properly coached.
Addiction is far too complex to treat as a black and white issue.
*shrug*
I just don't see it. I feel awful for his loved ones, especially his children. They're the real victims here. I don't feel sorry for him, or anyone else who chooses their addiction over their loved ones.
People addicted aren't making the cognizant choice to choose drugs over family.
I've watched others suffer though their life ending addictions and your statements are absolutely infuriating. Do some research first please.
Let's agree to disagree on this one.
Your statements are uneducated. Period. Continue to believe them all you want but please don't say them out loud as if they have merit.
Excuse me? Sorry, you don't get to tell me what I can and can't say. My original point stands. I don't feel sorry for him. He was to pick up his three young children and instead chose to shoot up. That behavior is completely unacceptable, and the fact that people seem to be making him into a martyr is infuriating to me.
Do you seriously think that we would have rehabilitation centers specializing in addiction if those suffering from the disease (Yes. It's a disease as indicated in the DSM. ) could just choose not to take the drug? Really???
My grandfather was an alcoholic for over 20 years, and he died as a result. My father is an alcoholic, and has (fortunately) stayed sober for over 3 years (though the memories and emotional trauma are still present). My sister, knowing how we may be predisposed to alcoholism, is currently an alcoholic. I may know a thing or two about addiction. I likely have such negative opinions BECAUSE of my experiences in watcing addition tear apart relationships, not because I know nothing about it. What I do know is that my sister didn't just wake up out of the blue craving a drink. She drank, socially at first. Now it's a huge issue that's taken its grip, ended her marriage, wrecked her career, and honestly, I'm pissed. The first time you choose to take a drink/shoot up/hell, smoke a cigarette, you're playing a risky game, even under ideal circumstances. While the addiction takes over, it all stems from a choice that was made. I'd be willing to bet PSH didn't wake up suddenly craving heroin either.
That's really all I have to say on the matter. Again, I'm content with agreeing to disagree here.
With that line of thinking I should never drink wine because I have alcoholics up and down both sides of my family. I also have plenty of family members related to those who struggle with addiction who have no issue. Are you saying that my mother shouldn't drink because she lost a sister due to addiction, her brother is an alcoholic in recovery and her father also dealt with those demons? Should we go back to prohibition because some people may have a problem?
Also, I need to correct one of your terms. Your father IS an alcoholic. He is in recovery but he'll always be addicted.