Ladies, I am stuck. Our current guest list is at 196 invites, our venue holds 220 so it isn't a problem. However, this number is giving me serious anxiety. I never wanted a wedding this big, but my FI comes from a large family so I have to get over it. We have been going back and forth on cousins for a while. Each of his parents are 1 of 10 so that is 40 aunts and uncles. For the sake of math, lets assume they all have 2 kids (some have more, but the minimum is 2) so that is 80 first cousins. I suggested not inviting cousins and my FI is ok with that. However, he says that if we don't invite his cousins we can't invite mine, which would make sense except, I have ONE cousin...just one. Granted she is married with 2 kids, so it really comes to 4. So my side would consist of 8 people, his would consist of 50 people (not including friends or cousins). Am I being ridiculous here when I say that I should be able to invite my one cousin? This has caused countless arguments between the two of us, which I find ridiculous. But his parents fully support his side of this argument too. If I didn't invite my cousin, my whole family would implode. It's ridiculous to not invite her because since my family is so small this "extended" family is more like immediate in my case. But I also find it ridiculous that for me to invite 2 people we need to invite 50 more. If we cut cousins, our guest count would go down to about 100, not this 200 that we are expecting now.