Does this bother anyone else?

Inkdancer · January 2014

thisismynickname said:

A lot of my friends go by First Name Middle Name on Facebook for privacy reasons, so I did have to text my best friend to get the correct spelling of her boyfriend's last name. I truly just forgot. I also have asked FI to get "proper" names of his friends (John/Jonathan/Jon? Is Jerry short for anything?) but he hasn't gotten them back to me yet, oh well. No rush!

My last name's a beast. I don't care when people spell it wrong because people can barely pronounce it, much less spell it. However, I hold a conflict-resolution kind of job and I get really irritated when people accuse me of not getting back to them on e-mail. When they talk to someone else and forward them what they allegedly sent me, my e-mail address is always butchered. You can't just magically find me, you have to ask someone to contact me- so why the heck didn't you listen when they provided my address?

That second part = my life. Don't complain that you never heard from me when you used the phonetic spelling of my name and now it's wrong.

Cookie Pusher · January 2014

My name is not difficult to spell, but is also not very common (it's a French derivative of a more common name). I get it when people spell it wrong or confuse it with the more common Italian version. Except when relatives do it, which happens more often then you'd imagine. Not even distant relatives, either. I have an aunt who has NEVER spelled my name correctly - and I'm in my 30s!

SereneTiger · January 2014

I have an uncommon name that people misspell all the time even when I'm right there spelling it out for them.

FI also has an acceptable spelling of a common name which people mess up all the time.

However, I've gone out of my way to find out the proper spellings of names for my guests. Just a courtesy I guess.

There are bound to be typos every once in a while, but at least make an effort!

NavyBlue143 · January 2014

My name is a fairly common one, but not spelled the common way. It's a fairly popular way to spell it though, it's not crazy out there. I can understand people misspelling it who have never seen it written out before, but I have friends spell it wrong on FB all the time, and it's right effing there!

One dude who is really a friend of a friend posted on my wall telling me it was time to change my last name on FB. Using the wrong spelling of my first name. I went off on him, asking him who he thought he was that he felt it was his business to tell me what to do with my last name when he couldn't even be bothered to spell the first one correctly. I had made it very clear I was keeping my name, who does that? In retrospect I overreacted, but the audacity really irked me. My last name was none of his damn business.

huskypuppy14 · January 2014

NavyBlue143 said:

My name is a fairly common one, but not spelled the common way. It's a fairly popular way to spell it though, it's not crazy out there. I can understand people misspelling it who have never seen it written out before, but I have friends spell it wrong on FB all the time, and it's right effing there! One dude who is really a friend of a friend posted on my wall telling me it was time to change my last name on FB. Using the wrong spelling of my first name. I went off on him, asking him who he thought he was that he felt it was his business to tell me what to do with my last name when he couldn't even be bothered to spell the first one correctly. I had made it very clear I was keeping my name, who does that? In retrospect I overreacted, but the audacity really irked me. My last name was none of his damn business.

I would have done the same thing! I realize I have an uncommon spelling of a common name, but in an email or facebook it's really lazy to spell someone's name incorrectly. I always want to respond with "thanks Kristen" (when she spells it Kristin for example) to make a point, but I never do.

Rebl90 · January 2014

NavyBlue143 said:

My name is a fairly common one, but not spelled the common way. It's a fairly popular way to spell it though, it's not crazy out there. I can understand people misspelling it who have never seen it written out before, but I have friends spell it wrong on FB all the time, and it's right effing there! One dude who is really a friend of a friend posted on my wall telling me it was time to change my last name on FB. Using the wrong spelling of my first name. I went off on him, asking him who he thought he was that he felt it was his business to tell me what to do with my last name when he couldn't even be bothered to spell the first one correctly. I had made it very clear I was keeping my name, who does that? In retrospect I overreacted, but the audacity really irked me. My last name was none of his damn business.

holy cow! Good for you, people like that need to learn that they don't get to walk around telling others what to do.

Inkdancer · January 2014

laurynm84 said:

NavyBlue143 said:

My name is a fairly common one, but not spelled the common way. It's a fairly popular way to spell it though, it's not crazy out there. I can understand people misspelling it who have never seen it written out before, but I have friends spell it wrong on FB all the time, and it's right effing there! One dude who is really a friend of a friend posted on my wall telling me it was time to change my last name on FB. Using the wrong spelling of my first name. I went off on him, asking him who he thought he was that he felt it was his business to tell me what to do with my last name when he couldn't even be bothered to spell the first one correctly. I had made it very clear I was keeping my name, who does that? In retrospect I overreacted, but the audacity really irked me. My last name was none of his damn business.

I would have done the same thing! I realize I have an uncommon spelling of a common name, but in an email or facebook it's really lazy to spell someone's name incorrectly. I always want to respond with "thanks Kristen" (when she spells it Kristin for example) to make a point, but I never do.

I have done this to someone who is really letting it get out of hand. It stopped immediately.

yogablossom · January 2014

Wow, that is about as lazy as making your guests write out and address their own 'thank you' envelopes (which I have heard of someone doing!!) It doesn't take long at all to get someone's name and spelling correct, especially if it's for an invitation.

singinchick13 · January 2014

Omg this thread absolutely killed me!!! Literally have been trying to read some of this stuff to FI and can't even talk from laughing so hard!! This is officially my new favorite board. FTR my first name has an unusual spelling and 90% of the time people get it wrong. My last name is fairly common and spelled the standard way, but this will change very soon when I take FI's vowel-heavy (i before e, anyone?) last name that everyone gets wrong and is not spelled the way it sounds. FML I'm screwed aren't I...........

AddieCake · January 2014

I had an evaluation from someone at work who spelled my name 3 different ways in the written evaluation. I thought it was very unprofessional.

APDSS22 · January 2014

I have a common first name. There is a popular actress with the same first name, spelled the same way. It's not difficult, but for some reason people (especially substitute teachers) like to put extra letters in to make it sound more special I guess. In fact, there is a lawyer on FB who has the exact same name I had before marriage. I'm not on FB under my full name, just a nickname and some people apparently think that's my name. I don't mind. My maiden name was pretty common but has 2 common spellings. The other is more common. My new last name is also hard to spell but at least I get more curlicues when I sign things.

Now, my husband and I did misspell a groomsman's last name on his wedding invite, but he shortened his last name on FB and H left the addressing to me. I knew his last name started with an H and his first name and how to spell it...He was pretty cool about it though. Might've been because we gave him a plus one.

MrsAitch · January 2014

Inkdancer said:

laurynm84 said:

NavyBlue143 said:

My name is a fairly common one, but not spelled the common way. It's a fairly popular way to spell it though, it's not crazy out there. I can understand people misspelling it who have never seen it written out before, but I have friends spell it wrong on FB all the time, and it's right effing there! One dude who is really a friend of a friend posted on my wall telling me it was time to change my last name on FB. Using the wrong spelling of my first name. I went off on him, asking him who he thought he was that he felt it was his business to tell me what to do with my last name when he couldn't even be bothered to spell the first one correctly. I had made it very clear I was keeping my name, who does that? In retrospect I overreacted, but the audacity really irked me. My last name was none of his damn business.

I would have done the same thing! I realize I have an uncommon spelling of a common name, but in an email or facebook it's really lazy to spell someone's name incorrectly. I always want to respond with "thanks Kristen" (when she spells it Kristin for example) to make a point, but I never do.

I have done this to someone who is really letting it get out of hand. It stopped immediately.

I am so trying this then. It happens to me constantly in e-mails and on facebook and it drives me nuts because my name is right there, spelled correctly for them--even worse, some people type a name similar to mine instead of my actual name. Next time I'll respond to Jane "thanks June" and to Kristina "thanks Christina" etc. The sad thing is, the way I spell my name is the most common spelling for that name. It's not hard.

erinlin25 · February 2014

when it is people you don't really know, I let it go, but people who are actually FRIENDS with and they cannot spell your name correctly, I'd be a little miffed. I would point it to them for sure. It could have just been an overlook, but if you are in the wedding I a assume you are close enough to say just clarifying I spell my name like this...

People spell my name Aaron all the time (that is the boy version). We were invited to a wedding last year of one of my husbands friends, they put Aaron on the invitation. We rsvp'd and wrote my name correctly on the card... got to the wedding and my escort card still said Aaron

whah, whah! I laughed it off since I did not know them well, but seriously, annoying.

LowerEastSiiide · February 2014

They could have double checked it in fb ... Yea, I'd be annoyed

happymellow · February 2014

One of my best friends of 18 years still puts two "t"s in my last name. I don't understand it.

Chipmunk415 · February 2014

erinlin25 said:

when it is people you don't really know, I let it go, but people who are actually FRIENDS with and they cannot spell your name correctly, I'd be a little miffed. I would point it to them for sure. It could have just been an overlook, but if you are in the wedding I a assume you are close enough to say just clarifying I spell my name like this...

People spell my name Aaron all the time (that is the boy version). We were invited to a wedding last year of one of my husbands friends, they put Aaron on the invitation. We rsvp'd and wrote my name correctly on the card... got to the wedding and my escort card still said Aaron whah, whah! I laughed it off since I did not know them well, but seriously, annoying.

Erin is my RL name too. I've been called/listed as Aaron so many times, I've lost count. The most memorable was when I was a kid- my mom is a quilter, and made me this beautiful quilt designed with little girl/dolls all around the edge holding hands. Each girl had a different look in the fabric making the dress- one even had a "string of pearls" sewn on! All on a pink and purple background. Very pretty, very very girly. Mom entered it in a quilt show where it took first prize- under the title "Aaron's Friends." This was after she WROTE DOWN the correct spelling on the entry sheet.

SammiNJonni · February 2014

One year my parents decided to get me and my sister name plate necklaces. I had been begging for one. Anyway when my dad went to the jeweler he actually called my mom to double check i my sisters name had one l or two l's in it. He forgot how to spell his own daughters name.

StephJean83 · February 2014

I have fairly common names but the spelling for my last name isn't the most common. I spelt out my name at work for them and they even use my first initial and last name for my email and in some company databases they have my last name misspelled. I stopped getting bent out of shape over it when I realized that I would be changing my name soon.

My FH has a common first name but his last name is uncommon. There is a common word that sounds like his last name but they are spelled differently. We got a few invites from HIS friends who looked my name up on Facebook but still spelt his name wrong. We got a lot invites from his friends who just addressed to "Stephjean83 FH and Guest" because of was too much to look up my name. And even after I sent the RSVP with "Stephjean83 FH and Stephjean83" the escort cards still addressed me as "Guest". Though one couple sent us a Christmas card post wedding and after we were officially engaged as "Stephjean83 FH and Guest". They wrote on the card, "Congrats on the engagement Stephjean83 FH and Fiancée". They had our Christmas card and saw it on Facebook and still couldn't be bothered to figure out my name. I was shocked when we saw them at the IA-IA State football game and they both addressed me by name.

Marzipan13 · February 2014

My last name is quite simple, but everybody screws it up (spelling and pronunciation). My first name, Marissa, also gets abominably screwed up - "Marisa", "Marrisa", "Marrissa", "Melissa", "Martha", you name it. It's annoying.

antoto · February 2014

Ahhhh I tried my very best on my invites, but I messed up on a few people on my FI's side of the list.

One person's name was spelled wrong entirely on accident - my mother happened to write that one out and I just didn't catch it.

The second person I had only been introduced to by the short version of her name, which is also what she went by on FB and I had never heard or seen it differently. So while it wasn't WRONG, it wasn't all the way right.

The third person was actually the second person's son. He is like 4 and obviously does not have his own FB page. It is a very traditional, old name so I spelled it the traditional way. Turns out I was wrong.

Second person deleted me as a friend on FB and never sent her RSVP. I had only met her twice in my life and she is a SO of my FI's friend. I mean I get that she may have been irritated by my mistake (I emailed her and apologized immediately when I found out)but I can't believe she took it to this extent.

I could have taken more time to double check it - honestly my bad. But SHEESH.

princessleia22 · February 2014

I get it often with my first name and it doesn't bother me too much. I think I got desensitized to it when my grandfather spelt my name wrong his entire life. My last name is very easy, but FI has a name that is often misspelled, so I'll have to get used to that one now.

huskypuppy14 · February 2014

antoto said:

Ahhhh I tried my very best on my invites, but I messed up on a few people on my FI's side of the list.

One person's name was spelled wrong entirely on accident - my mother happened to write that one out and I just didn't catch it.

The second person I had only been introduced to by the short version of her name, which is also what she went by on FB and I had never heard or seen it differently. So while it wasn't WRONG, it wasn't all the way right.

The third person was actually the second person's son. He is like 4 and obviously does not have his own FB page. It is a very traditional, old name so I spelled it the traditional way. Turns out I was wrong.

Second person deleted me as a friend on FB and never sent her RSVP. I had only met her twice in my life and she is a SO of my FI's friend. I mean I get that she may have been irritated by my mistake (I emailed her and apologized immediately when I found out)but I can't believe she took it to this extent.

I could have taken more time to double check it - honestly my bad. But SHEESH.

If I defriended every friend that spelled my name wrong, I wouldn't have any facebook friends save for my family!

antoto · February 2014

laurynm84 said:

antoto said:

Ahhhh I tried my very best on my invites, but I messed up on a few people on my FI's side of the list.

One person's name was spelled wrong entirely on accident - my mother happened to write that one out and I just didn't catch it.

The second person I had only been introduced to by the short version of her name, which is also what she went by on FB and I had never heard or seen it differently. So while it wasn't WRONG, it wasn't all the way right.

The third person was actually the second person's son. He is like 4 and obviously does not have his own FB page. It is a very traditional, old name so I spelled it the traditional way. Turns out I was wrong.

Second person deleted me as a friend on FB and never sent her RSVP. I had only met her twice in my life and she is a SO of my FI's friend. I mean I get that she may have been irritated by my mistake (I emailed her and apologized immediately when I found out)but I can't believe she took it to this extent.

I could have taken more time to double check it - honestly my bad. But SHEESH.

If I defriended every friend that spelled my name wrong, I wouldn't have any facebook friends save for my family!

Yeah I just couldn't believe it. My FI and her SO have been friends since high school and will probably always be friends which means she and I will most likely see each other relatively often in our lives... and with how she reacted every single one of those encounters is going to be AWKWARD TURTLE.

melbenso · February 2014

I messaged one of my FI's close friends on Facebook to see what his GF's last name was for the invitation. I mentioned that it would be weird to have the invitation addressed to friend's first name, last name and his GF's first name only. He let me know at that point I had misspelled his last name (pseudonym on his Facebook account). I hadn't. FI had when making his invitation list. They've been friends for nearly 20 years and his misspelled the guy's last name. Glad I caught it before invitations went out!

McCMal · February 2014

I am scared to death of this. I stalked all of my FI family on facebook, looked at the land books, asked grandma... some of them are a letter off. My future mother in law says it doesn't matter, but she also wants to send out about 8 invitations, to the parents of adults who are married and have children. Not happening...

AuroraRose41 · February 2014

I have a relatively unique first name, but it is not difficult to spell, and it is 2 syllables. I am pretty desensitized to it when someone pronounces it incorrectly, or spells it incorrectly if they haven't seen/heard it before. However, it irks me to no end when I send someone an email, with the correct spelling of my name as a signature at the end, and they respond back to me with the wrong spelling! This happens almost daily, and I think it is highly unprofessional, especially considering that I work with people of many different nationalities with extremely difficult names (7 syllable names!), and I am always sure to double check spelling.

tesgirl123 · February 2014

Confession: I did this with my FI's best man, his best friend of 28 years. In my defense, I have never seen the full name written out in the first 3 years we were dating, and my FMIL put together that part of the guest list. I assumed she was smart enough to know how to spell the name. I called them and apologized to him, his wife and his father (same first name, also invited).

I should have been careful because my real name is Christina, and it drives me bonkers when people call me Christine.

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