Sorry in advance if this has already been discussed!
FI asked me recently how I would feel if people played card games at our reception. My response was "are you asking if I'm going to get mad if people play card games, or if I'll get mad that YOU'RE playing card games?" (HIS response was a giggle)
He and his brother and two cousins love playing this card game (called euchre), and the four of them NEVER get to see each other, so he thinks that there's a good chance that during the reception they'll end up playing it.
I can't decide how I feel about this. Part of me thinks it's not a big deal, I don't really care, and they can do whatever they want. Another part of me gets a little irritated when I think about him playing cards at our wedding reception. We're a pretty casual group, and it's a semi-formal event - the thought of OTHER people playing cards doesn't bother me at all, but something about FI playing cards irks me. I can't figure out why, it's entirely subconscious. I want him to have fun with our friends and family, and it's definitely not about him doing something without me because I don't feel like I need to be included in every little thing he does, especially since this game is a tradition for his family.
When I asked if he was PLANNING on doing this or if he was just checking, he said that they hadn't discussed it or anything, just that he assumes that since the four of them will be seeing each other for the first time in awhile that the game will break out. I told him that I wasn't sure how I felt and that I would get back to him about it - and suggested that they play their game at the rehearsal dinner instead.
Anyway, any thoughts on the matter would be appreciated! I would love to get some insight. Do other people think the card playing would be okay vs not okay? OR if anyone is a psychic and can explain these conflicted feelings to me, I'd love that as well