Wording on wedding website. Different events with different guest lists...

Jen4948 · February 2014

Maggie0829 said:

Jen4948 said:
I disagree that "it's silly to have a wedding website."

Some things would be silly on a wedding website, yes. There isn't any need for "About Us" sections or anything like that. But putting hotel and transportation information, scheduling, and information about local attractions on a wedding website is not "silly." It's useful.

In most cases, Google has already done a far better job of putting up hotel and transportation information, and information about local attractions. "Scheduling" is a subject for the invitation.

For once I agree with you AroundtheBlock. All information that is pertinent can easily be put into the invitation with specific enclosure cards. Which include exact directions to your ceremony location and hotel code to get the discount. A website basically repeats everything that is already (or should be) included in the invite.

Which does not make it not a reason to include it on a website.

And also, websites can include things that don't go in invitations.

Fairyjen1 · February 2014

scribe95 said:

I don't buy that suddenly the open house "to celebrate our marriage" is now a housewarming. Sounds like the details are changing depending on the response.

Isn't that what we want though? The OP asks a question originally saying the open house was going to be part of the wedding celebrations. Now, after all of us saying how that is not etiquette correct, she's going to do it as an open house instead for a housewarming, which there is nothing wrong with. Or maybe that's just how I'm choosing to interpret it. Then again I haven't been here as long so maybe I'm not as jaded and think people can see the error of their ways and change.

I'm just thinking of myself, if I hadn't lurked on etiquette boards (mostly e-hell) a few years ago I would still think cash bars are perfectly acceptable. I'm not having a cash bar, because I know better now, but do people here still brand me as a poor host with no possible redemption because I thought it was fine a few years ago despite changing my mind?

crunchymamaof2 · February 2014

Fairyjen1 said:

scribe95 said:

I don't buy that suddenly the open house "to celebrate our marriage" is now a housewarming. Sounds like the details are changing depending on the response.

Isn't that what we want though? The OP asks a question originally saying the open house was going to be part of the wedding celebrations. Now, after all of us saying how that is not etiquette correct, she's going to do it as an open house instead for a housewarming, which there is nothing wrong with. Or maybe that's just how I'm choosing to interpret it. Then again I haven't been here as long so maybe I'm not as jaded and think people can see the error of their ways and change.

I'm just thinking of myself, if I hadn't lurked on etiquette boards (mostly e-hell) a few years ago I would still think cash bars are perfectly acceptable. I'm not having a cash bar, because I know better now, but do people here still brand me as a poor host with no possible redemption because I thought it was fine a few years ago despite changing my mind?

There's a big difference between changing ones plans when they learn the original plan was rude and back pedaling because someone called you out on your rude idea. Not saying this is what the op is doing. I also don't understand how you say this is etiquette hell and imply that people here are crabby bitches yet in the same breath you speak about the things you learned here. If we're all that horrible why stay and take the advice given?!

crunchymamaof2 · February 2014

AroundTheBlock said:

acove2006 said:
It's silly to have a website for a luncheon and open house in the first place. Making 3 websites for 3 different groups of people is bound to get confusing and I'm pretty sure someone will end up with the incorrect page and find out about the other events anyways. An invitation and/or phone call is perfectly acceptable for the non wedding invites.

Frankly, I find it rather silly to have a website for a wedding. You are going to spend, what, two years -- well, okay, six years and two boys for some people -- planning your wedding; and, one hopes, sixty or seventy years as a head of a marital household. Why not just have a household website and blog, and build on it as your life goes on, with a section for your wedding during the short time that it's relevant. It seems like such a waste to go to all the effort to communicate your web-presence to an extended circle of connexions, only to have it expire when interest in your wedding expires.

I didn't spend 6 years planning my wedding. If I had several OOT guests or other pertinent information you bet I'd create a wedding website. Actually I did make one but thought it was silly as there was no extra info that needed to be shared so I didn't give out the website info. Seriously, why are you harping on something so insignificant? Having 3 websites will likely make it harder on OP and confusing for her guests. Me thinking websites for the non wedding events being silly doesn't mean she'd be wrong to have them.

SKPM · February 2014

acove2006 said:

Fairyjen1 said:

scribe95 said:

I don't buy that suddenly the open house "to celebrate our marriage" is now a housewarming. Sounds like the details are changing depending on the response.

Isn't that what we want though? The OP asks a question originally saying the open house was going to be part of the wedding celebrations. Now, after all of us saying how that is not etiquette correct, she's going to do it as an open house instead for a housewarming, which there is nothing wrong with. Or maybe that's just how I'm choosing to interpret it. Then again I haven't been here as long so maybe I'm not as jaded and think people can see the error of their ways and change.

I'm just thinking of myself, if I hadn't lurked on etiquette boards (mostly e-hell) a few years ago I would still think cash bars are perfectly acceptable. I'm not having a cash bar, because I know better now, but do people here still brand me as a poor host with no possible redemption because I thought it was fine a few years ago despite changing my mind?

There's a big difference between changing ones plans when they learn the original plan was rude and back pedaling because someone called you out on your rude idea. Not saying this is what the op is doing.

I also don't understand how you say this is etiquette hell and imply that people here are crabby bitches yet in the same breath you speak about the things you learned here. If we're all that horrible why stay and take the advice given?!

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She wasn't referring to this board as hell. Etiquette Hell is a different website that also touts proper etiquette.

Fairyjen1 · February 2014

acove2006 said:

There's a big difference between changing ones plans when they learn the original plan was rude and back pedaling because someone called you out on your rude idea. Not saying this is what the op is doing. I also don't understand how you say this is etiquette hell and imply that people here are crabby bitches yet in the same breath you speak about the things you learned here. If we're all that horrible why stay and take the advice given?!

Sorry about the confusion. This place isn't e-hell. Etiquette Hell is another website that is all about Etiquette, not just wedding etiquette. Several years ago I was hosting a baby shower and I looked there for ideas and got hooked. That's where I discovered that I had spent most of my life being rude!! My family appears to have no idea about etiquette and I didn't know anything else. I'm trying to fix it now at least on my end, I sort of gave up on most of my family. I guess that's why I'm so sensitive when people come here asking questions, and even when they seem they might be getting it other people act as if no one can ever change. I don't think anyone is a crabby bitch!!! Well, except me before my first cup of coffee!

PrettyGirlLost · February 2014

KBlovesBG said:

Thanks again for everyone, I needed to hear all of these different perspectives. I would love to say DW is all that is happening; however, my parents are insisting on the family luncheon and we would be holding the open house to celebrate moving into our new home we are building. Thanks for the help, I will forgo putting any info for any of these events on a wedding website.

Sounds like a good plan. Just leave the wedding website for your DW and only give it out the the guests actually invited.

As for your parent's luncheon, you could have your wedding album, if it is ready, on hand or maybe a few pictures, but I would only show them if people ask you about the wedding and ask to see pictures. I wouldn't have them displayed anywhere and I wouldn't bring up the topic of your wedding to others. The purpose of this luncheon is for the families to meet.

Same thing goes for your open house. Put up some wedding photos that you would frame and hang anyways, have your album close at hand, but again don't bring up your wedding unless a guest asks you about it.

crunchymamaof2 · February 2014

@skpm and @fairyjen1 sorry!! Blonde moment lol

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