Bar Tally

leelabear · February 2014

I was wondering how many people have attended weddings with open bars vs cash bars. This is not meant to be a discussion. If you want to discuss what people should do, go to the discussion on "Cash Bars - Everything you need to know in one place".

How many weddings have you attended to with an open bar? All booze is free all night long.

How many weddings have you attended with a partial bar? Examples: either some drinks are free and hard alcohol isn't or the bar was free for a few hours and switched to cash, etc.

How many weddings have you attended with a cash bar? All alcohol you have to pay for.

Thanks

lyndausvi · February 2014

I've attended some 45+ weddings in my lifetime. All over the states, 1 territory and an European country.

100% were open bars. Some were just limited bars with beer and wine only, but not one had a cash element to them.

Inkdancer · February 2014

I have never attended a cash bar wedding.

I've been to several with full open bars, two that were dry, another that had just beer and wine. But nobody ever asked me to pay for my drinks.

tammym1001 · February 2014

I have only attended weddings that fall into the first category. I have never been to a wedding where I had to pay for anything at all.

We also attend several fundraisers every year for various events and they have also always been open bars all night long.

I've honestly not seen a cash bar at any hosted event I've gone to, wedding or otherwise.

OBX2011 · February 2014

I've probably been to over 20 weddings and all of them, except one, were an open bar. The one that was a full cash bar, well, let's just say that myself as well as several other guests, were shocked by this and thought it was in poor taste.

grumbledore · February 2014

Every wedding I've been to has had a cash bar for at least part of the night. Still not having one myself.

TheGrimReaper · February 2014

We've been to a number of weddings and all but 1 had an open bar. One had free beer and wine, but unfortuantely they had the liquor available to purchase. I really don't think many people drank liquor.

misshart00 · February 2014

I've never been to a cash bar wedding. I've been to several dry weddings and a few with limited options.

SlothGoals · February 2014

I've attended at least 8 weddings in my lifetime and only 1 was cash bar. They even charged for water and pop. I was not prepared for a cash bar because I had never been to a wedding with one and so I didn't drink anything all night.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2014

Kind of hard to stop discussion on a discussion board ;-) What is the point of this thread, just a poll? Why? Just curious.

You need to add Limited Hosted Bar as one of your options, which is not the same as the partial bar you mentioned.

For me:
Open Bar- 28 weddings
Cash Bar- 2 weddings.

photokitty · February 2014

I have only been to one cash bar wedding. One was supposed to switch to cash after a certain amount was reached, but the parents changed their mind and made it open bar the entire event. One dry wedding. The other 30 or so weddings I have been to were all open bar.

labro · February 2014

Disclaimer: I haven't been to many weddings.

Full hosted bar: 6

Beer and wine only: 2

Dry: 2

Cash: 2

It's funny I had a hard time discriminating in my memory the full hosted bar, beer and wine only and dry weddings but I remembered both weddings with the cash bar with ease.

JCbride2015 · February 2014

Every wedding I've ever been to has been an open bar, with the exception of one dry wedding for religious reasons. Never been to a cash bar wedding.

mimiphin · February 2014

1- Partial Bar Open until 8pm,
4-Cash Bar/Drink tickets- free pop/juice,
1- We were told it was Dry but ended up that it was BYOB,
1- bottle of red/white on each table any more than that (including pop) was cash,
2- Dry (other than the bottles of bubbly for toasting, more than enought for everyone, they kept pouring until it ran out and it didn't) no option of buying anything else
~5 -Full cash bar, I can't remember exactly how many.

Never been to a full open bar.

Fairyjen1 · February 2014

In my family, and even with my friends weddings, cash bars are common if the reception is at a venue that's not someone's home. Backyard receptions have always been hosted, mostly beer and wine.

We have had two exceptions in my family, my aunt when I was a freshman in college, my grandfather was still alive then and he always hosted, and one of my cousins tried it, but she ended up with an 8k bar bill at the end of the night. That's a whole 'nother story.

There's been a few too, that I'm not sure, I may have counted them as cash and they may not have really been. These are wedding that take place in a country club, where the reception is in one room, but the bar is right outside. I was counting these as cash, but when I think about it, they may have been hosted dry weddings. I didn't have to pay for water, coffee or ice tea, but if I wanted soda or alcohol I had to go outside the room to the bar, in which case 'I' was the one being rude by implying my host wasn't providing me with enough (see...some of us do learn something here!). In the future when this situation arises I will stick to the tea and water provided and not insult my host.

I will have fully hosted beer , wine and soda, but it's easy for me as I'm having no more than 20 people including us and it's a lunchtime wedding.

daria24 · February 2014

Out of about dozen weddings, only 1 had a cash bar (hosted cocktail hour, you paid for EVERYTHING including soda after that). The others all were completely hosted, though many had limited bars, only wine + beer, etc.

doeydo · February 2014

Thankfully, I have never been to a cash bar wedding. I have only seen full open bars.

NYCBruin · February 2014

Cash bars: zero

Dry: one

Partial: one

Full Open: every other wedding I've attended

jenniferurs · February 2014

Never been to a cash bar. Been to a few with fully hosted bars, a few beer and wine hosted bars, and one dry wedding.

climbingsingle · February 2014

Cash bar: 1 wedding

Open bar; Every other wedding I've attended. 30 maybe?

cruffino · February 2014

Not sure how many weddings I've been to, but only 1 had a cash bar...even for soda.

[Deleted User] · February 2014

I've only attended weddings that have had open bars. Some of them had bigger drink options then other, I'm assuming that was by choice or budget of the bride & groom.

ShesSoCold · February 2014

I've never been to a wedding with a cash bar.

MGP · February 2014

Cash bar - 1. This tacktackular affair was also PPD #1 of 2 and the couple didn't tell anyone they were already married. They also had a honeymoon registry, took the money, and didn't go on a trip. Needless to say I avoid this couple like the plague now. Properly hosted with limited selections meaning beer, wine, and champagne only - maybe a few? Full open bar - all the rest. Bottom line is I have only had to open my wallet at one wedding and that's one too many.

wrigleyville · February 2014

For all of these, soda/tea/juice/coffee was hosted as well:

Open bar = too many to count

Beer/wine only = too many to count

Bottles of red and white wine on tables = 2

Dry wedding = 3

Cash bar = 0

Dry weddings don't bother me one bit, but one of the brides who had one really torqued me off when she put it all over the STDs, the invitations, and the wedding website. She also texted all of the groomsmen to inform them it would be dry and they were NOT to bring a flask so they could "get wasted". She followed this up with emails to the groomsmen's girlfriends (which included me, and I wasn't even INVITED) to ask us to "keep them in line". My BF was ticked, and I had half a mind to show up plastered out of spite. (Of course I didn't, but it was tempting.)

antoto · February 2014

I feel like we should also be adding where we are from - so many brides use the "different culture/region" argument with cash bars and this might help!

I have only been to one wedding which had a cash element - it was free beer and wine and if you wanted hard alcohol you could pay for it. I had just turned 21 at this so I wasn't really offended because I was just thrilled to be getting free wine.

Every single other wedding I have gone to (probably around a dozen) were either full open bar or limited bar with no cash option.

I live in AZ and have been to weddings in AZ, CA, and MI.

Edit: Oh, forgot I've been to one dry wedding. Alcohol was not an option at all.

LadyMillil · February 2014

Open Bar - 0

Open Bar during cocktail hour, cash bar after dinner - 1

Dry - 1

Wine on table - 2

Bar by donation - 1 (you didn't have to pay for the drinks, but you got the stink eye from the BP manning the bar if you didn't put any money in the cash jar when you got a drink)

RebeccaB88 · February 2014

I have absolutely no idea the total number of weddings I've been to in my life.

Number of cash bars - none.
Number of fully hosted bars - all of them (when they had a bar).

Maybe 3? hosted but limited option bars (one beer/wine/champagne, one beer/champagne, one beer/wine/champagne/signature drinks). Those aren't as popular around here. It's mostly all or nothing.

More cake & punch dry weddings than I care to think about. Comes with having very religious friends.

ei34 · February 2014

I've attended over 20 weddings with open bars. I attended one partial bar (open bar during cocktail hour and switched to cash bar for reception) and one cash bar. The latter two leave a bad taste in my mouth to this day.

sarahufl · February 2014

I have probably been to at least 50 weddings. I don't remember ever going to a cash bar, but I may have before I was of drinking age and not realized it.

Some of my cousin's weddings are so open, they tapped a keg and it was serve yourself.

Mostly open, but a lot of just beer and wine. Very few with top shelf liquor or anything.

2 completely dry, but they were LDS.

lyndausvi · February 2014

cmfarr said:

Open Bar - 0
Open Bar during cocktail hour, cash bar after dinner - 1
Dry - 1
Wine on table - 2
Bar by donation - 1 (you didn't have to pay for the drinks, but you got the stink eye from the BP manning the bar if you didn't put any money in the cash jar when you got a drink)

What does that even mean?

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