BIL'S on/off/on wedding (updated, end)

Re: BIL'S on/off/on wedding (updated, end)

• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  Oh guess what? Lunch is cancelled.
  
  Actually, everyone ELSE still gets to go to the pay-your-own-way lunch, but DH and I are disinvited because we drove BSC granny and SHE is uninvited and we have to take her home.
  
  And @Chipmunk915, my nephew also was born before my brother and SIL got married, so this is a hella sore spot for me.
  
  In the parking lot, just the two of us, she and I had words. Actually, I did the talking and she did the listening. The f - bomb was dropped. As were other colourful terms.
  
  ETF typo

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• cruffino member

  

  February 2014

  She never fails to disappoint.

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• banana468 member

  

  February 2014

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  Oh and BSC granny just told me DH and I are 'selfish and rude' for having plans tonight that mean we can't take BIL and SIL out to dinner and that mean we can't watch nephew overnight.
  
  Excuse me while I find a margarita machine and shove my face in it.

  "Granny, if you insult me one more time you'll witness some extra selfishness when I tell you to find your own damn ride home. "

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• chibiyui member

  

  February 2014

  
  
  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• Chipmunk415 member

  

  February 2014

  I'd say it's not fair to you regarding lunch, but if I recall correctly, you weren't keen on going anyway? You and DH deserve swanky meal out, or order in with a nice bottle of wine.

  Evil Chipmunk wishes to chime in and suggest taking the ropes that strapped granny to the top of the car, tie them around her, and drag her behind the car.

  What sorts of words? Details, woman!

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• banana468 member

  

  February 2014

  Chipmunk415 said:

  I'd say it's not fair to you regarding lunch, but if I recall correctly, you weren't keen on going anyway? You and DH deserve swanky meal out, or order in with a nice bottle of wine.

  Evil Chipmunk wishes to chime in and suggest taking the ropes that strapped granny to the top of the car, tie them around her, and drag her behind the car.

  What sorts of words? Details, woman!

  This! !

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  February 2014

  Enjoy your night out with your DH and drink lots of wine.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  February 2014

  We weren't so I'm not fussed by missing this.
  
  Evil HisGirl may have said, 'Listen you batty old battleaxe. You are behaving like a fucking cuntwaffle and maybe no one else will call you on your fucking bullshit but I will. You need to realise that you're alone and lonely because of your own douchecanoe behaviour WHICH INCLUDES bullshit like the fucking crap you pulled today. No one gives a shit what you think. You fucked up raising your own kids, so no one's much interested in hearing your opinions about families. Oh and btw? SIL and I both have enormous respect for each other and our husbands, and our husbands respect us and our opinions, so if she and I decide to, we can guarantee you will NEVER see us on the holidays again, ever, as long as you live. If you think I'm joking, I JUST FUCKING DARE YOU to call my bluff.'
  
  She looked shell-shocked. Then she said, 'I don't like you. I wish DH hadn't married you.'
  
  I said, 'I know you don't. I don't give a fuck. But I'm guessing DH will find your admission VERY interesting.'
  
  She said, 'You wouldn't dare tell him.'
  
  Oooh, bitch, don't think I won't.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• jdluvr06 member

  

  February 2014

  Wow... She sounds like a real bitch.

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• Chipmunk415 member

  

  February 2014

  Has DH been told of her comments yet? Reaction? Is granny walking herself home?

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• banana468 member

  

  February 2014

  Chipmunk415 said:

  Has DH been told of her comments yet? Reaction? Is granny walking herself home?

  I hope you get to tell him before you have to take her home so she's stuck having to look for a ride from a stranger.

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• LakeR2014 member

  

  February 2014

  I missed so much!  I just can't believe the balls on that woman! Who the heck says that to a child!?   I want to deck her from here!
  

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• Chipmunk415 member

  

  February 2014

  I will assume the nearly 30 minute lack of response from HisGirl means she's currently restraining herself/DH from going off on Granny....

  Evil Chipmunk prefers to believe HisGirl is busy teaching granny manners...via proper application of a tire iron

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• FiancB member

  

  February 2014

  BSCG must be betting on dying before needing a nursing home, huh? 

  
  

  You got balls. 

  
  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  February 2014

  DH and I just had a lovely chat in the car. I brought up what granny had said in front of granny, who tried to deny she had said it, but DH was having no part of that bullshit.
  
  He got as angry as I'd ever seen him and read her the riot act. She was reduced to tears and said, 'If HisGirl hadn't told you, this wouldn't have happened.'
  
  DH said, 'No, if you hadn't SAID WHAT YOU SAID, this wouldn't have happened.'
  
  We did take her home, but DH spent the car ride reaming her a new asshole.
  
  We dropped her off and DH said, 'When you are ready to apologise to HisGirl and FSIL, you may call me to arrange that apology. Until then, I do not want to hear from you at all. Is that clear?'
  
  Sooooo... That's where we landed

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• AprilH81 member

  

  February 2014

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  DH and I just had a lovely chat in the car. I brought up what granny had said in front of granny, who tried to deny she had said it, but DH was having no part of that bullshit. He got as angry as I'd ever seen him and read her the riot act. She was reduced to tears and said, 'If HisGirl hadn't told you, this wouldn't have happened.' DH said, 'No, if you hadn't SAID WHAT YOU SAID, this wouldn't have happened.' We did take her home, but DH spent the car ride reaming her a new asshole. We dropped her off and DH said, 'When you are ready to apologise to HisGirl and FSIL, you may call me to arrange that apology. Until then, I do not want to hear from you at all. Is that clear?' Sooooo... That's where we landed

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• photokitty mod

  

  February 2014

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  DH and I just had a lovely chat in the car. I brought up what granny had said in front of granny, who tried to deny she had said it, but DH was having no part of that bullshit. He got as angry as I'd ever seen him and read her the riot act. She was reduced to tears and said, 'If HisGirl hadn't told you, this wouldn't have happened.' DH said, 'No, if you hadn't SAID WHAT YOU SAID, this wouldn't have happened.' We did take her home, but DH spent the car ride reaming her a new asshole. We dropped her off and DH said, 'When you are ready to apologise to HisGirl and FSIL, you may call me to arrange that apology. Until then, I do not want to hear from you at all. Is that clear?' Sooooo... That's where we landed

  
  

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• Chipmunk415 member

  

  February 2014

  Yay for DH for sticking up for you and dealing with granny! Dr. Chipmunk recommends you two land at home, with take out from a steak place, and all the wine and margaritas.

  Keep us posted on follow up from BIL/SIL, SIL's fam, and whether BSC granny ever grows up.

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• bethsmiles member

  

  February 2014

  Oh wow. That sounds like one hell of a day! This was pretty my face the whole time I was reading your updates:
  

  

  Good for you for finally putting this BSC woman in her place though. Maybe this will be the magic wake-up call she needs and she'll at least learn to keep her nasty thoughts to herself from now on?
  

  
  

  
  

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• cruffino member

  

  February 2014

  BSC granny: 0, Hisgirl: 1 million

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• jdluvr06 member

  

  February 2014

  Good for you two. I have a hard time imagining that someone could say something so nasty to a child. That is just so disturbing to me.

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• FiancB member

  

  February 2014

  Damn. So some good definitely came of this fiasco. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• garnetandgold60 member

  

  February 2014

  I second the applause! I'm sorry that the day took a turn for the crazy, but I think that you really handled yourself well. Sometimes you just need to call a spade a spade and I think that's what happened. Familial stress is hard (even if it's with a BSC granny) and I'm thankful you and your DH are a team and he had your back as well.

  
  

  You definitely need a good evening of just you two, and time to destress. 

  

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• photokitty mod

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  jdluvr06 said:

  Good for you two. I have a hard time imagining that someone could say something so nasty to a child. That is just so disturbing to me.

  I can't understand who anyone says something like that to their great grandchild - let alone a child! Who does that????

  
  

  But this could be bc DH's grandma said to him, "don't you wish you could trace your ancestry back this far?" His dad adopted him and she never acted like DH was "real family." 

  I still have not met her, don't care to and actually thought she was dead until we were filling out the guests list.

  It's just ugly, mean and ugly. They don't deserve to have loving family like DH or BSCG's great grandson.

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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• arrippa member

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  Have I told how much your DH rocks?!?

  I can't imagine how someone can be so miserable and say the stuff she says. Blows my mind, actually.

   

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• KPBM89 member

  

  February 2014

  OhMyGod.  You are so ballsy and it is so awesome.  Sorry you had to put up with her (and that comment to a child?!), but...holy shit that was great.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• RebeccaB88 member

  

  February 2014

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  We weren't so I'm not fussed by missing this. Evil HisGirl may have said, 'Listen you batty old battleaxe. You are behaving like a fucking cuntwaffle and maybe no one else will call you on your fucking bullshit but I will. You need to realise that you're alone and lonely because of your own douchecanoe behaviour WHICH INCLUDES bullshit like the fucking crap you pulled today. No one gives a shit what you think. You fucked up raising your own kids, so no one's much interested in hearing your opinions about families. Oh and btw? SIL and I both have enormous respect for each other and our husbands, and our husbands respect us and our opinions, so if she and I decide to, we can guarantee you will NEVER see us on the holidays again, ever, as long as you live. If you think I'm joking, I JUST FUCKING DARE YOU to call my bluff.' She looked shell-shocked. Then she said, 'I don't like you. I wish DH hadn't married you.' I said, 'I know you don't. I don't give a fuck. But I'm guessing DH will find your admission VERY interesting.' She said, 'You wouldn't dare tell him.' Oooh, bitch, don't think I won't.

  
  

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• Belthil member

  

  February 2014

  I've read a lot of your posts about BSCG over the past few months and I'm still amazed at the stories that you have. To say something like that to a child, and especially one that's about to enter a really emotional and trying time in their life, is just unbelievable.

  

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• chibiyui member

  

  February 2014

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• MobKaz member

  

  February 2014

  I cannot believe you did not charge an admission price for this theatre!  You would have made a fortune.  I would have ponied up, to be sure.

  
  

  I am willing to take what I saved today to start a fund for bail money for you, JIC.

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