If you must do it at the railroad, then cut out the pictures in your backyard. That eliminates a half hour and will allow you to arrive at your reception on time.
true, but then she might not be able to do family photos which (actually) very important.
Honestly the only solution is to skip the train tracks, but she's not going to do that... so...
Then do those photos at the reception.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Also, please don't tell me you're going to take pictures ON a trestle. You keep saying 'bridge.' What do you mean?
As someone who represents railroads for a living, I beg people not to take photos on a railroad tracks which seems to be an evergrowing pinterest trend.
Yes, on the swing bridge FI will have a TOP (Track Operating Permit) issued with the RTC (Rail Traffice Control)
So, for you ladies who are taking up the whole day for your guests...who clearly have an entire day to spend just for you, between travelling to and from your wedding, cost of hotels, etc. that's being considerate of them?
No one is travelling more than 10 minutes to our wedding, and will all be home early.
There are different ways to accommodate guests.
And yes, it clearly states on the invitations that the ceremony is at 3pm and that the dinner reservation is at 5pm.
You are missing the point here. Yes, many of us had people travel to our weddings. Out of town guests are par for the course in most weddings. Difference it it was their choice to travel. Your plans are essentially keeping them in a holding pattern because you can't make a tough decision and THAT is what is disrespectful of their time.
I am going to be quite old school saying this but I think that any host who is trying to rack their brain for activities to keep their guests "entertained" at a wedding is doing it completely wrong. The entertainment should be strictly the normal trappings of a wedding including the ceremony, food, drink, music, dancing, and maybe a quick activity like a photo booth.
No one wants to play cards or lawn games in your backyard while you go off site for pictures. Find a way to close the gap even more or risk people getting bored out of their minds and talking behind your back.
My ceremony starts at 6:30 and goes until 7:00. Cocktail hour will be hosted at the same place from 7:00 until 8:00 with premium open bar and 8 passed hors d'oeuvres and the reception will be starting at the same venue precisely at 8:00. WITH us in attendance. Dinner will be served almost immediately and guests are free to stay as long as they like (though, IMO, they'd be missing out if they didn't stay until 10 when the late night snack will be served - red velvet coated deep fried Oreos with cream cheese frosting - aka orgasm in a napkin).
My photos will be taken at my venue (you know, the venue I willingly chose) during cocktail hour and any photos I want at another location will be organized for another day. Easy peasy.
I just came by to say that I come from a railroader family and bridges, train tracks, etc. are not that big a deal.
My husband has been a professional audio engineer for nearly 20 years. It was extremely important to him. You know what we did to incorporate it? Had a grooms cake that was a sound board.
What you keep insisting is that you shouldn't HAVE to do a first look, and that it's REALLY important for you to have photos taken at a non-wedding location because REASONS. And all of this would be pretty much fine except you're looking at a 2 hour cocktail hour that's 2 hours long because you are dead set on having photos taken at a non-wedding location.
You do not need to have your photos taken there on your wedding day. It is not the place where you're getting married. It's not the place where you're having your reception. Your wedding day isn't the day where you have photos taken of you in a place that's important to you; my partner and I are not going to schlep up to the wetlands of my hometown just because it's a beautiful place that's meaningful to us and our relationship. We're going to have our pictures done at our wedding venue because the point is that it's our wedding day, hooray, have some pictures of us right before we get married! While we get married! Right after we get married!
I think you're getting significantly sucked into Pinterest Wedding Style, where your wedding photos have to be the kind that'll get repinned all over the internet, with little notes like "Aaah why didn't we think of this?" or, "Have to get this shot!"
This seems so nitpicky--it's just one hour and there will be food and beverages, and you're trying to avoid being a bad host throughout the rest of the night. What's the big deal?
The big deal is that you're insisting on something completely unnecessary (photos at third location, but not before the ceremony or after the wedding day) at the expense of your guests. As so many people have already commented cocktail hour lasting longer than an hour is BORING. I've experienced it, specifically because the bride and groom were having so many photos taken. It feels like days. It's not fun, even if it's an open bar. And in this case, the photos weren't even being taken at a third site--they were being taken a 2 minute walk from cocktail hour! It was STILL excruciating, and all those cute bridesmaids/groomsmen jumping photos seem really stupid in light of the fact that they were taken while 200 people were waiting waiting waiting in a room without seating for everyone, and no idea when dinner was going to start.
What you keep insisting is that you shouldn't HAVE to do a first look, and that it's REALLY important for you to have photos taken at a non-wedding location because REASONS. And all of this would be pretty much fine except you're looking at a 2 hour cocktail hour that's 2 hours long because you are dead set on having photos taken at a non-wedding location.
You do not need to have your photos taken there on your wedding day. It is not the place where you're getting married. It's not the place where you're having your reception. Your wedding day isn't the day where you have photos taken of you in a place that's important to you; my partner and I are not going to schlep up to the wetlands of my hometown just because it's a beautiful place that's meaningful to us and our relationship. We're going to have our pictures done at our wedding venue because the point is that it's our wedding day, hooray, have some pictures of us right before we get married! While we get married! Right after we get married!
I think you're getting significantly sucked into Pinterest Wedding Style, where your wedding photos have to be the kind that'll get repinned all over the internet, with little notes like "Aaah why didn't we think of this?" or, "Have to get this shot!"
This seems so nitpicky--it's just one hour and there will be food and beverages, and you're trying to avoid being a bad host throughout the rest of the night. What's the big deal?
The big deal is that you're insisting on something completely unnecessary (photos at third location, but not before the ceremony or after the wedding day) at the expense of your guests. As so many people have already commented cocktail hour lasting longer than an hour is BORING. I've experienced it, specifically because the bride and groom were having so many photos taken. It feels like days. It's not fun, even if it's an open bar. And in this case, the photos weren't even being taken at a third site--they were being taken a 2 minute walk from cocktail hour! It was STILL excruciating, and all those cute bridesmaids/groomsmen jumping photos seem really stupid in light of the fact that they were taken while 200 people were waiting waiting waiting in a room without seating for everyone, and no idea when dinner was going to start.
Yes. Everyone has a spot that is important to them, but they don't leave their guests for hours on their wedding day to go take pictures there randomly. The walk along pebble beach in CA is a really special spot to me and my FI, so I got him cufflinks that contain sand from there to wear on our wedding day. I'm not going to go take pictures there though. (okay, mostly because that would require a plane ride. but you get my point... right?)
Yes. Everyone has a spot that is important to them, but they don't leave their guests for hours on their wedding day to go take pictures there randomly. The walk along pebble beach in CA is a really special spot to me and my FI, so I got him cufflinks that contain sand from there to wear on our wedding day. I'm not going to go take pictures there though. (okay, mostly because that would require a plane ride. but you get my point... right?)
If a location is that important to a couple, then schedule a photo shoot (engagement, bridal, post wedding, etc). ON. ANOTHER. DAY.
We did photos at the church, drove to the reception site, did a few more photos there (after meeting in a special room set aside for us so the BP could eat the appetizers, too!). then had our reception proper start at 5.45.
STUCK IN THE BOX!! I was just sitting here thinking of how in the world we'll get all of our photos after our Catholic mass next month. Then I realized that we, too, will have a BP room set up during cocktail hour and that the one part of our reception space is a beautiful old bar with dark wood and a big fireplace. Now I want to take a ton of photos there! And stuff my face between each photo. Thanks for the idea!
You're very welcome! One of the rooms that was available to us (our reception was at a country club) was a library, full of big windows and book shelves and just this gorgeous vibe. You bet your ass we took photos there.
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
So, for you ladies who are taking up the whole day for your guests...who clearly have an entire day to spend just for you, between travelling to and from your wedding, cost of hotels, etc. that's being considerate of them?
No one is travelling more than 10 minutes to our wedding, and will all be home early.
There are different ways to accommodate guests.
And yes, it clearly states on the invitations that the ceremony is at 3pm and that the dinner reservation is at 5pm.
I take issue with this. All of our guests are local (within half an hour of where the ceremony will be), and we are NOT taking up their whole day.
Our ceremony is starting at 5:30, and will run until 6:00. Then our guests will go on a half-hour wine tour (same location as ceremony and reception) while we start our photos, and then cocktail hour will begin at 6:30. We will join them at 7:00, and cocktail hour will end at 7:30 (an HOUR). Finally, the dinner reception will be at 7:30.
There are different ways to accommodate guests, and there are many ways to do so which do not result in bored, unentertained guests who are wondering where the bride and groom are and why they're standing around, doing nothing.
You could take photos beforehand if you wanted to. You're both choosing not to. You could also take nice family portraits there on a day other than your wedding, though it may be difficult to coordinate. You're choosing not to. You are being a princess about this, and we're simply trying to point that out to you.
Huh? You may have a cocktail hour, but you're also sending your guests away for a non-wedding related activity so you can have more time for your wedding photos. I fail to see how what you have planned is any better or more beneficial to your guests than OP's idea.
So, for you ladies who are taking up the whole day for your guests...who clearly have an entire day to spend just for you, between travelling to and from your wedding, cost of hotels, etc. that's being considerate of them?
No one is travelling more than 10 minutes to our wedding, and will all be home early.
There are different ways to accommodate guests.
And yes, it clearly states on the invitations that the ceremony is at 3pm and that the dinner reservation is at 5pm.
I take issue with this. All of our guests are local (within half an hour of where the ceremony will be), and we are NOT taking up their whole day.
Our ceremony is starting at 5:30, and will run until 6:00. Then our guests will go on a half-hour wine tour (same location as ceremony and reception) while we start our photos, and then cocktail hour will begin at 6:30. We will join them at 7:00, and cocktail hour will end at 7:30 (an HOUR). Finally, the dinner reception will be at 7:30.
There are different ways to accommodate guests, and there are many ways to do so which do not result in bored, unentertained guests who are wondering where the bride and groom are and why they're standing around, doing nothing.
You could take photos beforehand if you wanted to. You're both choosing not to. You could also take nice family portraits there on a day other than your wedding, though it may be difficult to coordinate. You're choosing not to. You are being a princess about this, and we're simply trying to point that out to you.
Huh? You may have a cocktail hour, but you're also sending your guests away for a non-wedding related activity so you can have more time for your wedding photos. I fail to see how what you have planned is any better or more beneficial to your guests than OP's idea.
She's joining them half hour into cocktail hour, so she's still only taking one hour to do pictures. There's the difference.
So, for you ladies who are taking up the whole day for your guests...who clearly have an entire day to spend just for you, between travelling to and from your wedding, cost of hotels, etc. that's being considerate of them?
No one is travelling more than 10 minutes to our wedding, and will all be home early.
There are different ways to accommodate guests.
And yes, it clearly states on the invitations that the ceremony is at 3pm and that the dinner reservation is at 5pm.
I take issue with this. All of our guests are local (within half an hour of where the ceremony will be), and we are NOT taking up their whole day.
Our ceremony is starting at 5:30, and will run until 6:00. Then our guests will go on a half-hour wine tour (same location as ceremony and reception) while we start our photos, and then cocktail hour will begin at 6:30. We will join them at 7:00, and cocktail hour will end at 7:30 (an HOUR). Finally, the dinner reception will be at 7:30.
There are different ways to accommodate guests, and there are many ways to do so which do not result in bored, unentertained guests who are wondering where the bride and groom are and why they're standing around, doing nothing.
You could take photos beforehand if you wanted to. You're both choosing not to. You could also take nice family portraits there on a day other than your wedding, though it may be difficult to coordinate. You're choosing not to. You are being a princess about this, and we're simply trying to point that out to you.
Huh? You may have a cocktail hour, but you're also sending your guests away for a non-wedding related activity so you can have more time for your wedding photos. I fail to see how what you have planned is any better or more beneficial to your guests than OP's idea.
We absolutely did not choose the tour so that we could have more photo time.
We are having a very, very small family wedding with about 35 people, and we asked our family if they would like to go on a tour prior to cocktail hour, or forgo it and start dinner half an hour earlier. Every single person said they wanted the tour because the property is so beautiful and because it has a lot of history as part of the local Mennonite community (my dad's family is Mennonite).
If they had said that they didn't care for a tour, we would have had no issue leaving it out.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding once and got tired of waiting for over an hour fo the bride and groom. I left. Two hours really is a long time. Frankly, I don't enjoy wedding receptions enough TO devote more than a couple hours to them. I would hate to be sitting around 2 hours just waiting on it to start. I'd be ready to to by the time you got there. I realize that may be just me, but you may have guests who feel the same.
What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
I'll close the place down if I've eaten dinner and the drinks are flowing and everyone is dancing. But if I have to sit/stand around and wait for things to happen, yeah, I will leave. Once the ceremony is over, the party is supposed to be FUN, not tedious.
What about doing the pictures at the secondary location after the dinner/reception? That way you do no take up any guests' time but you still get to take pictures there on your wedding day without a first-look.
OP, I'm going to give you props for listening to us and making a valiant attempt to close your gap and provide something hosted for your guests during that time. You didn't just flounce off and be all offended like. You're trying, and I think you're honestly trying.
But, you're probably going to have to be just a little bit more flexible here. If you can take a bunch of pictures before the ceremony, do it, especially those that don't have you and your FI together, like family pictures and bridal party. That cuts down on the number you have to do afterwards. I don't think the pictures you want will take nearly as long as you think they will. Be as organized as you can and just get them DONE, fast. Know what you want ahead of time so you don't waste time thinking of shots. Just do a few and go, a dozen maybe rather than a hundred. Just enough so you know you were there. Then get to your reception as fast as possible, by 5 at the latest. If you want more pictures, see if you can take them after the reception.
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
I'm just going to say, even if it was my sister, I'd be angry that a photo-op was more important than spending time with the rest of the guests. The couple gets 1 hour MAX to take photos. Anything beyond that is rude.
If this photo-op is SO important (and your Fi "asks for nothing but to not have a first look") then you need to figure out a way to have it on another day, even if it is extremely difficult.
The day stops being about you when you invite guests.
I think it will be weird because it will just be 20 people waiting around for you... My must have photo: A photo of me and our dogs. BUT we're taking the picture before hand to make it work time wise. There's no reason to have people waiting for you especially at the reception after they just had a 2 hour long cocktail hour.
Will there be drinks and snacks available for your guests at 5 pm when they arrive at the reception location? If so, I think this is fine.
Also, maybe you could have lawn games, card decks and tables, etc. in your backyard to also entertain your guests after the ceremony before they go to the reception location since this will be sort of an extended cocktail hour.
If I were a guest and this was the set-up, I'd be confused in a "So we're supposed to play games with each other while the B&G take pictures?" kinda way. IDK, can't really explain it, but putting out games while the B&G go off and do something that's more important to them than spending time with their guests borders on babysitting to me.
Has anyone seen that old episode of The Office, I think it's called "The Dinner Party"? Michael and Jan have a dinner party for their coworkers and after they all arrive, have a drink, and chit chat for a bit Jan stands up and says "OK I am going to go put the osso bucco in the oven it will be ready in 3 hours" and all of their guests look at each other like "WTF" and try and find excuses to leave?
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
This. You won't believe the number of cases we get where Plaintiffs claim the train "should have stopped." WHAT?! That's like trying to stop an apartment building. You can't do it in 2 seconds.
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
This. You won't believe the number of cases we get where Plaintiffs claim the train "should have stopped." WHAT?! That's like trying to stop an apartment building. You can't do it in 2 seconds.
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
This. You won't believe the number of cases we get where Plaintiffs claim the train "should have stopped." WHAT?! That's like trying to stop an apartment building. You can't do it in 2 seconds.
@OliveOilsMom@TheGrimReaper clearly you don't know what a TOP is...and again ladies, I'm not justifying myself to a bunch of internet strangers.
This is the path that we have chosen for our wedding. If you don't like it, I really don't care. I am having a hosted gap, and for the ideas you provided on that, I am thankful.
So, for all intents and purposes, I will now let this drop to the 2nd page
IMO, the train tracks should be saved for a Trash the Dress shoot. How are you going to get photos there without ruining your dress before the reception? I did an outdoor bridal shoot at a garden and it was a logistical nightmare (though I love the photos!) with having to lug around a white sheet to stand on, arranging the dress, walking around with my entire skirt and train in my arms while trying not to wrinkle it... Thank God my photographer's wife handled the sheet part or we would have been there all day.
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
This. You won't believe the number of cases we get where Plaintiffs claim the train "should have stopped." WHAT?! That's like trying to stop an apartment building. You can't do it in 2 seconds.
@OliveOilsMom@TheGrimReaper clearly you don't know what a TOP is...and again ladies, I'm not justifying myself to a bunch of internet strangers.
This is the path that we have chosen for our wedding. If you don't like it, I really don't care. I am having a hosted gap, and for the ideas you provided on that, I am thankful.
So, for all intents and purposes, I will now let this drop to the 2nd page
Oh, I get what your TOP is for. What I don't get is your obsession with this railroad bridge.
What about doing the pictures at the secondary location after the dinner/reception? That way you do no take up any guests' time but you still get to take pictures there on your wedding day without a first-look.
Sorry, I did mean to reply to this. I quite like this idea and it may work! I will discuss it with FI
(and thank you for being constructive with your input instead of taking cheap shots and FI and I)
What about doing the pictures at the secondary location after the dinner/reception? That way you do no take up any guests' time but you still get to take pictures there on your wedding day without a first-look.
Sorry, I did mean to reply to this. I quite like this idea and it may work! I will discuss it with FI
(and thank you for being constructive with your input instead of taking cheap shots and FI and I)
Don't be ridiculous - no one was "taking cheap shots" at you - you told us your idea, we told you our ideas. Chill. Photos after could be a great solution.
If you don't care about the opinion of "internet strangers," then don't post on an etiquette board of a wedding website asking for opinions. If you don't like the advice you get, it's not "cheap shots," it's, "I didn't like the advice."
I still have no idea why photos at a third location are even a thing to consider. If I were a guest at this wedding, I would be REALLY confused as to why the bride, groom, and wedding party were leaving for 1.5-2 hours (travel + photo time) for photos at another location.
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
This. You won't believe the number of cases we get where Plaintiffs claim the train "should have stopped." WHAT?! That's like trying to stop an apartment building. You can't do it in 2 seconds.
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
This. You won't believe the number of cases we get where Plaintiffs claim the train "should have stopped." WHAT?! That's like trying to stop an apartment building. You can't do it in 2 seconds.
@OliveOilsMom@TheGrimReaper clearly you don't know what a TOP is...and again ladies, I'm not justifying myself to a bunch of internet strangers.
This is the path that we have chosen for our wedding. If you don't like it, I really don't care. I am having a hosted gap, and for the ideas you provided on that, I am thankful.
So, for all intents and purposes, I will now let this drop to the 2nd page
@LDay2014, rather than being obstinate, what do you think about the following suggestions:
~ Push your ceremony start time back to 3:30pm, eliminate or limit the pictures after your ceremony, go to the bridge right after the ceremony and take those pictures, head to reception venue by 5pm and take additional family photos.
~Have ceremony as planned but move reception start time up, take pictures after ceremony, then head directly to reception and do the bridge pics after the reception.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Re: Gap Update
Then do those photos at the reception.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
My ceremony starts at 6:30 and goes until 7:00. Cocktail hour will be hosted at the same place from 7:00 until 8:00 with premium open bar and 8 passed hors d'oeuvres and the reception will be starting at the same venue precisely at 8:00. WITH us in attendance. Dinner will be served almost immediately and guests are free to stay as long as they like (though, IMO, they'd be missing out if they didn't stay until 10 when the late night snack will be served - red velvet coated deep fried Oreos with cream cheese frosting - aka orgasm in a napkin).
My photos will be taken at my venue (you know, the venue I willingly chose) during cocktail hour and any photos I want at another location will be organized for another day. Easy peasy.
My husband has been a professional audio engineer for nearly 20 years. It was extremely important to him. You know what we did to incorporate it? Had a grooms cake that was a sound board.
The big deal is that you're insisting on something completely unnecessary (photos at third location, but not before the ceremony or after the wedding day) at the expense of your guests. As so many people have already commented cocktail hour lasting longer than an hour is BORING. I've experienced it, specifically because the bride and groom were having so many photos taken. It feels like days. It's not fun, even if it's an open bar. And in this case, the photos weren't even being taken at a third site--they were being taken a 2 minute walk from cocktail hour! It was STILL excruciating, and all those cute bridesmaids/groomsmen jumping photos seem really stupid in light of the fact that they were taken while 200 people were waiting waiting waiting in a room without seating for everyone, and no idea when dinner was going to start.
But, you're probably going to have to be just a little bit more flexible here. If you can take a bunch of pictures before the ceremony, do it, especially those that don't have you and your FI together, like family pictures and bridal party. That cuts down on the number you have to do afterwards. I don't think the pictures you want will take nearly as long as you think they will. Be as organized as you can and just get them DONE, fast. Know what you want ahead of time so you don't waste time thinking of shots. Just do a few and go, a dozen maybe rather than a hundred. Just enough so you know you were there. Then get to your reception as fast as possible, by 5 at the latest. If you want more pictures, see if you can take them after the reception.
Am I missing that there is a reason your restaurant reservation is at 5? Why can't you have your 3 PM ceremony and family photos. Go right to the restaurant, have dinner, then go take pics at this bridge with just you and FI. Just move up your dinner reservation, to 3:45, so people can go right there if not required for family photos. Have some apps for them. Then you arrive at 4, start dinner immdiately. If your reception is just a dinner, you should be at the bridge by 7 and still have an hourish of light.
My dad worked for the railroad for 30 years until he retired. My aunt also worked for the railroad until she retired. I am just not understanding this obesession. I was taught to be respectful of trains. Standing too close to a fast moving train can can get you sucked into it. That if you can see the train, you shouldn't cross the tracks because its going much faster than it looks. And that it takes most trains a mile in distant to come to a full stop. My dad would have been pissed at me for my decision to have pictures taken on train tracks. But go ahead and have your pictures on the tracks, even with that permit.
Does anyone else feel that if this were a mining family, they would also be taking pictures at a mine?
This. You won't believe the number of cases we get where Plaintiffs claim the train "should have stopped." WHAT?! That's like trying to stop an apartment building. You can't do it in 2 seconds.
@OliveOilsMom @TheGrimReaper clearly you don't know what a TOP is...and again ladies, I'm not justifying myself to a bunch of internet strangers.
@OliveOilsMom @TheGrimReaper clearly you don't know what a TOP is...and again ladies, I'm not justifying myself to a bunch of internet strangers.
I quite like this idea and it may work! I will discuss it with FI
~ Push your ceremony start time back to 3:30pm, eliminate or limit the pictures after your ceremony, go to the bridge right after the ceremony and take those pictures, head to reception venue by 5pm and take additional family photos.
~Have ceremony as planned but move reception start time up, take pictures after ceremony, then head directly to reception and do the bridge pics after the reception.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."