Anyone bored?

grumbledore · March 2014

lightningsnow · March 2014

Thank you! Totally needed something good to read!

crackktheskyy · March 2014

.....I really just don't get the head table thing. At all.

AlexisA01 · March 2014

Thank you....it's a boring day

lightningsnow · March 2014

crackktheskyy said:

.....I really just don't get the head table thing. At all.

Neither do I. Both weddings I have been had head tables. First one I was 11-12 so it didn't really matter to me and the second I was the MOH and 19. I had a bit of a fling going on but nothing serious. So no date there either.

I was terrified when my BF's brother was getting married that they were going to have a head table. His SIL doesn't like me and I was sure she would do it just to be spiteful to me. Luckily when I got to the reception I saw that my BF was sitting with me.

crackktheskyy · March 2014

lightningsnow said:

crackktheskyy said:

.....I really just don't get the head table thing. At all.

Neither do I. Both weddings I have been had head tables. First one I was 11-12 so it didn't really matter to me and the second I was the MOH and 19. I had a bit of a fling going on but nothing serious. So no date there either.

I was terrified when my BF's brother was getting married that they were going to have a head table. His SIL doesn't like me and I was sure she would do it just to be spiteful to me. Luckily when I got to the reception I saw that my BF was sitting with me.

Good thing your SIL didn't do anything spiteful!

I don't understand the appeal of head tables. The last time I was at a head table, I was separated from my FI, and he sat on the complete opposite side of the room at a table with people he didn't even know! While we all said we didn't mind the head table, we would have enjoyed sitting with our dates! (Alert to all of those brides out there with BPs who "don't mind" head tables: we do mind, we're just too polite to say otherwise.)

Even in principle, I don't understand the head table. I mean, I've only ever been able to talk to the people sitting directly next to me when at a head table. You can't even TALK to the bride or the groom, let alone the rest of the bridal party, if you aren't sitting directly next to them.

My parents are fairly traditional and our wedding will be very formal and traditional. Even so, when I told my parents I planned on getting rid of the head table and seating our BP with their guests, my parents LOVED the idea. They wondered why no one had done it years ago.

... I'll step off my soap box now.

happywiggle · March 2014

Yay! I was getting bored!

photokitty · March 2014

Is it just me, or is there a direct correlation between your ability to practice proper etiquette and grammar?

The rest are single with no date and they don't have no intentions on having one by that date.

I had to read that sentence 3 times before I could wrap my head around it AND…

lightningsnow · March 2014

crackktheskyy said:

lightningsnow said:

crackktheskyy said:

.....I really just don't get the head table thing. At all.

Neither do I. Both weddings I have been had head tables. First one I was 11-12 so it didn't really matter to me and the second I was the MOH and 19. I had a bit of a fling going on but nothing serious. So no date there either.

I was terrified when my BF's brother was getting married that they were going to have a head table. His SIL doesn't like me and I was sure she would do it just to be spiteful to me. Luckily when I got to the reception I saw that my BF was sitting with me.

Good thing your SIL didn't do anything spiteful!

I don't understand the appeal of head tables. The last time I was at a head table, I was separated from my FI, and he sat on the complete opposite side of the room at a table with people he didn't even know! While we all said we didn't mind the head table, we would have enjoyed sitting with our dates! (Alert to all of those brides out there with BPs who "don't mind" head tables: we do mind, we're just too polite to say otherwise.)

Even in principle, I don't understand the head table. I mean, I've only ever been able to talk to the people sitting directly next to me when at a head table. You can't even TALK to the bride or the groom, let alone the rest of the bridal party, if you aren't sitting directly next to them.

My parents are fairly traditional and our wedding will be very formal and traditional. Even so, when I told my parents I planned on getting rid of the head table and seating our BP with their guests, my parents LOVED the idea. They wondered why no one had done it years ago.

... I'll step off my soap box now.

My BF and I have been discussing getting married and what will happen at our wedding for about 2 years now. We've already discussed having a sweetheart table, even though majority of who will most likely be in our BP will be couples. We've even thrown back and forth the ideas of how we are going to classify each table and possibly incorporate our comic book geekiness into it.

JellyBean52513 · March 2014

I always figured that I'd sit with my H at a regular table with our parents and maybe our MOH/BM and their SOs. The rest of the BP could sit at any other table(s) with their SOs, wherever they'd be most comfortable. If they want to sit with us, then we'll try to make it work!

A head table is weird to me because, like crackk said, you can't even talk to anyone and you're practically on display. A sweetheart table is even worse of a "display" to me, and it seems a little impractical; the bride and groom are the guests of honor yet they want to sit away from everybody and have dinner with just each other. There's plenty of time to have dinner with just each other for the rest of our lives

Aray82 · March 2014

@photokitty, I think there might be some kind of correlation! I teach writing to college freshmen and one of the things we talk about is why a basic sense of grammar matters for the message you send as a writer. It's not just about following some rules; it's about having a level of care for your words and presenting yourself as someone who takes the time to care about seemingly small issues. Perhaps someone who thinks "grammar doesn't matter on an Internet forum" might also be more likely to say "oh, it doesn't matter if my WP is apart from their dates just for one dinner."

I will also say that at the only two weddings I've attended with head tables, there were other etiquette issues happening (a cash registry, bar only hosted for the first hour, and registry info included with the invitation).

grumbledore · March 2014

That head table thread is about to make my head explode.

lightningsnow · March 2014

grumbledore said:

That head table thread is about to make my head explode.

I love how people are like, "It's only for an hour". No not really because if you both don't care to be dancing all night, you're going to want to sit down with each other. Listen, I understand the whole head table thing. It's something that happens at majority of my family's weddings. But it's still stupid.

emmaaa · March 2014

Oh good, I needed something to keep me alert.

grumbledore · March 2014

Did you guys know I'm a super meanie and I need to get a life?

It's a slow day at work.

Chipmunk415 · March 2014

I will confess....we sorta have a head table, FI, myself, and our three flower girls are sitting together.

Before you start pelting me with stuff, if I didn't seperate us out from the others, my Dad would be demanding to know why we aren't sitting with him (because we know you have to be the center of attention Dad, and I'm not dealing with you pouting on my wedding day because I need to circulate and talk to my other guests besides you).

grumbledore · March 2014

Musikalbunni said:

God forbid you treat your guests and wedding party with respect.

It's only a freaking hour @grumbledore, how dare you impose your outdated ideas on these offbeat girls?

People are only there for pictures, you should know that! They should be the honored ones, not us.

How could I have been so silly? Apparently we have a reputation for being "overbearing" - gosh I had no idea that being a good host and a generally thoughtful, nice person was the same as being overbearing. Silly me. Somebody went ballistic and flagged all of my posts so that was cute.

winnipegwriter · March 2014

I said something similar on WW, but I've been to more than 20 weddings in my life and only one has NOT had a head table. I've also been in four wedding parties so far, and I can honestly say I didn't care that I was separated from my SO during dinner. Seriously. He's had to sit with strangers; I've had to sit with strangers. Not a big deal for an hour. I didn't feel disrespected by the bride and groom. I didn't feel slighted. I just had fun getting served first and then met up with my FH after dinner. To each their own

grumbledore · March 2014

winnipegwriter said:

I said something similar on WW, but I've been to more than 20 weddings in my life and only one has NOT had a head table. I've also been in four wedding parties so far, and I can honestly say I didn't care that I was separated from my SO during dinner. Seriously. He's had to sit with strangers; I've had to sit with strangers. Not a big deal for an hour. I didn't feel disrespected by the bride and groom. I didn't feel slighted. I just had fun getting served first and then met up with my FH after dinner. To each their own

The fact that it didn't bother you doesn't make it correct. The correct thing to do, etiquette-wise, is to seat couples together, just like you must invite them together. Separating social units for anything other than wedding party photos and the ceremony (by necessity of course) is unacceptable.

winnipegwriter · March 2014

grumbledore said:

winnipegwriter said:

I said something similar on WW, but I've been to more than 20 weddings in my life and only one has NOT had a head table. I've also been in four wedding parties so far, and I can honestly say I didn't care that I was separated from my SO during dinner. Seriously. He's had to sit with strangers; I've had to sit with strangers. Not a big deal for an hour. I didn't feel disrespected by the bride and groom. I didn't feel slighted. I just had fun getting served first and then met up with my FH after dinner. To each their own

The fact that it didn't bother you doesn't make it correct. The correct thing to do, etiquette-wise, is to seat couples together, just like you must invite them together. Separating social units for anything other than wedding party photos and the ceremony (by necessity of course) is unacceptable.

That may be true, and I agree to a certain extent. But I'm sure every bride on here -- whether TK or WW -- has done SOMETHING that goes against etiquette, no matter how good their intentions. I've seen bad etiquette on WW and I've seen bad etiquette on TK.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: "Why can't we be friends, why can't weeee be friends?"

grumbledore · March 2014

winnipegwriter said:

grumbledore said:

winnipegwriter said:

I said something similar on WW, but I've been to more than 20 weddings in my life and only one has NOT had a head table. I've also been in four wedding parties so far, and I can honestly say I didn't care that I was separated from my SO during dinner. Seriously. He's had to sit with strangers; I've had to sit with strangers. Not a big deal for an hour. I didn't feel disrespected by the bride and groom. I didn't feel slighted. I just had fun getting served first and then met up with my FH after dinner. To each their own

The fact that it didn't bother you doesn't make it correct. The correct thing to do, etiquette-wise, is to seat couples together, just like you must invite them together. Separating social units for anything other than wedding party photos and the ceremony (by necessity of course) is unacceptable.

That may be true, and I agree to a certain extent. But I'm sure every bride on here -- whether TK or WW -- has done SOMETHING that goes against etiquette, no matter how good their intentions. I've seen bad etiquette on WW and I've seen bad etiquette on TK.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: "Why can't we be friends, why can't weeee be friends?"

Sure, people make mistakes, life goes on. But when given the opportunity, I prefer to avoid the mistake. Thus far I can tell you I have not made any decisions about my wedding that break any etiquette rules. Might be still f up at some point? It's possible but unlikely considering that I do my homework before making decisions to make sure that I am doing the best thing I can for my guests.

grumbledore · March 2014

And we should be able to be friends

Some people just get super combative in defense of their bad ideas. Made a mistake or a deliberately rude choice? Ok. Own it and move on, don't defend it to the death and claim it was ok.

JellyBean52513 · March 2014

The thing that irks me to the millionth degree is when people say "It's just xx amount of time. THEY'LL SURVIVE" or "If you can't SURVIVE a dinner without your SO there's something wrong with you!"

Comments like this scream IMMATURITY to me. Too immature to consider anyone else's feelings, too immature to preserve their relationships with their loved ones, too immature to see outside of themselves. Obviously we can all survive without our partners during dinner. Why would we WANT to do that, though? Oh, we don't, it's the immature brides and grooms that put their wants over their guests' wants, because after all it is their special day and everybody else's feelings cease to exist or be of any importance on that special day.

pinkshorts27 · March 2014

winnipegwriter said:

grumbledore said:

winnipegwriter said:

I said something similar on WW, but I've been to more than 20 weddings in my life and only one has NOT had a head table. I've also been in four wedding parties so far, and I can honestly say I didn't care that I was separated from my SO during dinner. Seriously. He's had to sit with strangers; I've had to sit with strangers. Not a big deal for an hour. I didn't feel disrespected by the bride and groom. I didn't feel slighted. I just had fun getting served first and then met up with my FH after dinner. To each their own

The fact that it didn't bother you doesn't make it correct. The correct thing to do, etiquette-wise, is to seat couples together, just like you must invite them together. Separating social units for anything other than wedding party photos and the ceremony (by necessity of course) is unacceptable.

That may be true, and I agree to a certain extent. But I'm sure every bride on here -- whether TK or WW -- has done SOMETHING that goes against etiquette, no matter how good their intentions. I've seen bad etiquette on WW and I've seen bad etiquette on TK.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: "Why can't we be friends, why can't weeee be friends?"

Although it may not bother you, my FI would be horrified and hate it. He has social anxiety majorly. At most of my friends weddings, he wouldn't know anyone. If he had to sit with strangers after being alone most of the day he would be miserable. Not because he wants to be next to me, but because he hates talking to people he doesn't know. He actually gets so nervous he gets physically ill sometimes (though not as much lately). Now I would be bothered because I know it is rude, but I would survive and have an okay time because I tend to be okay in social situations. But to just assume they can "deal with it" is presumptuous and rude.

I wouldn't sit my parents or cousins with their SO at different tables, because that would be awkward and rude. Why would I do that to the people that I love so much that I asked to stand up with me? Of course I want to include their SO's. My respect for them extends to respecting and including those that they consider nearest and dearest. My MOH is long distance with a guy that I have only met twice. But I adore him because he treats her well and makes her happy and she chooses to be with him, so why would I not let them sit together? Especially since he is flying in town. But even if all of the above wasn't true. Even if I was irritated by the sight of him, I love my MOH enough to respect her decision and allow her to sit next to the person she holds dear enough to consider a BF/FI/SO/whatever.

mollyringwald15 · March 2014

Thank you for bringing some entertainment to my lunch break. We should all strive to get kicked off WW.

jenna8984 · March 2014

So I am very disappointed that by the time I got to these (only 2 hours after your post) all of your comments were blocked and I couldn't see them! WTF is that about?! There a few other people who said the same thing as you so why were their comments not blocked? But yea, wow, I'm glad I started on this site and never went on there because I'd rather have my kick ass etiquette- friendly party rather than a bunch of people with terrible grammar tell me to "do whatever I want!!"

photokitty · March 2014

I think if you decide to go play on WW you need to pick a different screen name bc they seem to be on to the fact that you are from the big bad meanie site…they even posted a link to this thread. Everyone wave hi to the girls who don't care if they don't get to eat with their SOs…

maybe we should just have all wedding guests sit a random table with random people - BC nobody they know thinks it is rude and everyone can eat without their SOs for an hour. SMH

jessiray · March 2014

@Grumbledore, thank you so much for posting this thread!! When we talked to our venue in January, I asked about having SOs at the head table, and not only did the venue coordinator lady give me a funny look, so did my FI. They argued with me so I gave up. I just didn't want the SOs to feel awkward; I had no idea it was such an etiquette mistake because every wedding that I've gone to has had a head table w/out SOs, or the SOs were separated from one another. I personally was not a fan, but I thought that maybe it was a wedding thing or something? I'm definitely putting my foot down, now!!!!

jenna8984 · March 2014

jessiray said:

@Grumbledore, thank you so much for posting this thread!! When we talked to our venue in January, I asked about having SOs at the head table, and not only did the venue coordinator lady give me a funny look, so did my FI. They argued with me so I gave up. I just didn't want the SOs to feel awkward; I had no idea it was such an etiquette mistake because every wedding that I've gone to has had a head table w/out SOs, or the SOs were separated from one another. I personally was not a fan, but I thought that maybe it was a wedding thing or something? I'm definitely putting my foot down, now!!!!

Yup the first 3 weddings I had ever been to in life I was 20-23 years old and I was a wedding party date who didn't know anyone and had to sit away from my date (ex boyfriend). It was super awkward for me and being my first wedding experiences I thought "weddings suck, why do people call these fun?!" lol

Ashleyz0814 · March 2014

What is your point regarding someone posting a link to this thread on WW? There are multiple users who are members on both sites.

HaileyDancingbear · March 2014

Funny, overbearing is a word I'd use to describe a site that bans users for having different opinions rather than actual personal attacks, or is filled with users that flag stuff just because they don't agree. Of course making someone else stop talking is a lot easier than putting together a valid argument, isn't it? Flagging a user (With the exception of wanting them removed due to personal attacks) is pretty much a white flag saying "Stop making me try to think of arguments, it's hurting my brain"

HI WW PEOPLE!!!!!! Come to see the big bad meanies of TK, or are you escaping the migraine (Granted an entertaining one) that is that thread?

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