I have a friend who I was unable to include in my bridal party (our numbers aren't even & adding more on my side would've made it even more off-balance). She's upset because I didn't include her for my shower & bachelorette but I only left out-of-state guests off the list because they already have to fly in for my wedding, I didn't want them to feel obligated to come to my shower & bachelorette too. Was I wrong? How can I smooth this over? I'd hate to lose a friend over this.