2nd baby shower?

shaylagirl · March 2014

That might be why most of the people I know, do showers well after the danger of miscarriage has gone down (24 weeks is the first week the baby is viable according to my OB).

The last baby shower I attended was a work one, where the mommy-to-be was going on maternity leave at the end of the week (she was having twins, and was having a C-section to deliver a month early, per her doctor).

Although, the superstition of not buying the baby anything is EXACTLY why I haven't PURCHASED a single thing yet for ours. We have had people dropping off a swing, stroller, car seat, etc...but I REFUSE to even go shop for the receiving blanket or "homecoming" outfit until after our child would be able to live outside of my body.

It's also why I'm holding off on picking names. I'm just nervous about it.

laceybird · March 2014

hikebikebemerry said:

shaylagirl said:

Work plans on throwing me a baby shower, as does his work, and I suspect friends and family are going to throw me one. Although, we're inheriting lots of awesome baby stuff from my best friend (the big ticket items like crib/changing table, etc). But, I'm not turning down a baby shower because...CAKE!!!

My son's 16 (I didn't have a baby shower for him), and his son's 12, so...what I've been told is that's not worthy of a side-eye. Although, like a PP said; I don't view it as gift-grabby, per se, babies need clothes and diapers and wipes, and I don't mind giving to an infant.

I'm sorry, I totally read this as your SON had a 12-year-old. Then again, my brain is running extra slowly today!

I did, too, it's okay, lol!

Unfortunately, I can't really comment either on the etiquette side or the experience side. We've had no babies in my family since me, so I've never been to one.

mysticl · March 2014

ckel24 said:

My bff had a second shower thrown for her by work friends when she had her second child (different gender). Her son was 4 1/2 when the baby was born. She still had the travel system, the pack n play, everything really but clothes (they had always planned on having at least one more child) yet she did a full on registry because she wanted "pink, girly" things since she was having a girl the second time around. So she registered for a new baby carrier, stroller, everything from bed linens to decorative items, the whole shebang. Needless to say myself and some of her other close friends bitched up a storm amongst ourselves over her ridiculous registry and they only bought her clothes and a few toys. I love her dearly but I was so very much against her entitled attitude about the registry and shower that I didn't attend and feigned illness.

At that point the carseat and base that went with the travel system may have been expired or close to it making those necessary purchases. She may or may not have been able to find a carseat that was compatible with the stroller, so she may have needed a new stroller too. I'm not saying she should have expected others to buy it for her but just that a new carseat was not a frivolous purchase.

As for registering for second (or 3rd) babies some people do it for their own convenience. They use it as a shopping list so they can purchase items slowly over time and so they can get the completion discount at the end. Some people also do it because they get hounded by family and friends about it.

AddieCake · March 2014

I'm in the minority, but I really don't care if someone has 2 baby showers.

grumbledore · March 2014

AddieL73 said:

I'm in the minority, but I really don't care if someone has 2 baby showers.

I really don't either. In the event that an individual instance of second-shower-ing was really annoying, I just wouldn't go.

mysticl · March 2014

grumbledore said:

AddieL73 said:

I'm in the minority, but I really don't care if someone has 2 baby showers.

I really don't either. In the event that an individual instance of second-shower-ing was really annoying, I just wouldn't go.

Me either. I'm not a huge fan of showers period. So if it's for someone I like well enough to go to a shower for it's someone I would get a gift for without a shower invite.

jenajjthr · March 2014

I've had 3 kids, 7 years apart for the first 2, both boys. 3 years apart from middle to youngest, but I had a girl. I know that the only thing that lasted from the first to the second was the crib and dresser. Even though I was having another boy, I didn't have many clothes left over. I would have loved a small shower for my second and third. Not for the presents, but for the celebration of the new baby. I used to think the same, that 2nd or more showers were very tacky. But after getting pregnant the second time, it would have been nice to celebrate his upcoming arrival as well.

I understand the "ick" factor if the mom is going overboard with what she is expecting. But I wouldn't have a problem with it if it was a shower to get diapers, bottles, clothes, etc.

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