My cousin is getting married and my aunt is throwing him and his fiancé a wedding shower. I am NOT invited to the wedding, but my aunt invited me to the shower. I'm sure she didn't mean for it to be bad etiquette, since we all no that no wedding invite means no shower invite, she just wanted me to come because I'm family. I don't necessarily have a problem going or even getting them a gift, but I don't want to show up and have THEM feel obligated to extend a wedding invitation to me. I'm not sure what to do. Do I go? Do I not go? Do I just send a gift??