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• Knottie1450123632 member

  

  March 2014

  if you go to the local boards for las vegas, the ladies there will be willing to assist. congrats

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• LadyBirdSikx member

  

  March 2014

  Thank you southerncutie! Didn't even realize the local boards existed until just now. I asked them so hopefully they can help me think of something.

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• grumbledore member

  

  March 2014

  You can't have a wedding reception where your guests have to pay for their own dinner.  How about saving the travel money you are using to get to Vegas and hosting a simple reception (cake/punch?) at home?

  
  

  If you want to invite people to your ceremony, you have to do something for them after - even if it's just a slice of cake and a cup of coffee, which virtually anyone can afford.

  
  

  

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• vsgal member

  

  March 2014

  If you can't pay for people's dinner, then don't invite them.  It is incredibly rude to expect people to pay for your party.  Seriously?  These people are paying for a plane ticket, hotel for a couple of days, possible new clothing, a gift and meals.  They are spending upwards of thousands of dollars to see you get married and you can't shell out some cash for a buffet for them.  Figure out how to pay for their meals or truly elope with no one present.

  
  

  ROCK IS KING!!

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• zitiqueen member

  

  March 2014

  LadyBirdSikx said:

  We are eloping to Vegas for our wedding and are not holding a traditional ceremony. The only people who are invited are immediate family members and a few very close friends (who are also basically family). Due to budget, we are also not able to hold any sort of reception, although since family is flying out from all over to watch us get married, I feel we should at least have a celebratory dinner with them post ceremony (they will be paying for their own dinner). My question is; does anyone know any restaurants that will accept large reservations (there will be 12-15 there at most), without having to rent a private room? I was also hoping to have a cake delivered there for an informal cake cutting. Ideally I would love to pay for everyone's dinner, but it's just not possible.

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  March 2014

  How do you think it is okay to invite people to your wedding where they will have to travel a long distance to only go out to dinner and then expect them to pay for their own meal?  I mean, come on. If you can't afford it then don't invite people to your wedding.

  
  

  What the hell is up with people lately?

  
  

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• jenna8984 member

  

  March 2014

  Yea, sorry to be harsh but you posted a picture of your dress earlier and it didn't look very cheap. Yet you can't scrounge up $300 for people who are FLYING there to see you?! $20 a plate plus $5 tax and tip times 12 people is $300. That's really f-ed up. If you were having a wedding at home wearing a sundress I would give you "we're poor" sympathy but clearly you have the money and just chose to spend it on yourself instead.

                                                                   

  
  

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• LadyBirdSikx member

  

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  While I appreciate your sentiment, I am not FORCING the attendants to come to my wedding. In fact, I would prefer it if it were just my fiance and I, but our families would like to be present. That is their prerogative and decision, and they were not invited but rather chose to come on their own. I also think it's incredibly rude to assume you know the dynamics of someone else's personal situation. The attendants are well aware of the circumstances regarding our situation, so I feel no need to explain here. To those that have done nothing but assume, I wish you the best, and to those that have actually contributed to my question; thank you!

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• jenna8984 member

  

  March 2014

  LadyBirdSikx said:

  While I appreciate your sentiment, I am not FORCING the attendants to come to my wedding. In fact, I would prefer it if it were just my fiance and I, but our families would like to be present. That is their prerogative and decision, and they were not invited but rather chose to come on their own. I also think it's incredibly rude to assume you know the dynamics of someone else's personal situation. The attendants are well aware of the circumstances regarding our situation, so I feel no need to explain here. To those that have done nothing but assume, I wish you the best, and to those that have actually contributed to my question; thank you!

  So tell them no. My brother wanted to get married alone in the Caribbean. My parents and I offered to pay for ourselves to go and he said flat out, no we don't want you or anyone there. We were not mad or offended and we followed his wishes.
  

                                                                   

  
  

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• Cookie Pusher member

  

  March 2014

  Deleting after your posts have been quoted is kind of pointless. And changing the thread title just serves to make people open the thread.

  
  

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• Emmy1493 member

  

  March 2014

  If I had a nickel for every time someone called us "Rude,"......

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• grumbledore member

  

  March 2014

  LadyBirdSikx said:

  Removed due to incredibly rude and assumptive responses. No need to worry myself with these types!

  Oh please.  Good luck.  

  
  

  

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• QueerFemme member

  

  March 2014

  Her response should be "removed, because I can't stand people telling me that my totally rude plans are are totally fucking rude"

  

  Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

  http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
  

  http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
  

  http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  LadyBirdSikx said:

  While I appreciate your sentiment, I am not FORCING the attendants to come to my wedding. In fact, I would prefer it if it were just my fiance and I, but our families would like to be present. That is their prerogative and decision, and they were not invited but rather chose to come on their own. I also think it's incredibly rude to assume you know the dynamics of someone else's personal situation. The attendants are well aware of the circumstances regarding our situation, so I feel no need to explain here. To those that have done nothing but assume, I wish you the best, and to those that have actually contributed to my question; thank you!

  They are coming because you made the decision to invite them-regardless if you want them there or not.  That obligates you to host them appropriately.  It is incredibly rude to dismiss this as "their prerogative and decision" and fail to host them properly because no, it is YOUR "prerogative and decision" to have them there at all, and deleting your OP did nothing whatsoever to help your case.
  

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• chibiyui member

  

  March 2014

  I probably wouldn't have read this if you hadn't deleted.
  
  Like dude. Either grow a pair and actually elope, or figure out a way to get your guests some food that doesn't involve them paying for it!

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• MadHops21 member

  

  March 2014

  Jumped on board because I saw the DD. Lovin' it. 

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• AddieCake member

  

  March 2014

  Yeah, don't worry yourself with the types who would properly host their guests. Rock on with your rude plans! It's YOUR DAY!

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• CMGragain member

  

  March 2014

  This has to be one of the most clueless brides who ever posted!  LOL!  Now that she has DDd. everybody will read this mess she has planned.
  

  

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  March 2014

  LadyBirdSikx said:

  Removed due to incredibly rude and assumptive responses. No need to worry myself with these types!

  Really?  You do know you've been quoted, right?  All you are doing is drawing more attention to the post.  

  
  

  The only person here that is rude is YOU.  You can't even buy your friends and family who are traveling hours to see you marry a simple meal??   Klassy.

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• hyechica81 member

  

  March 2014

  if i was invited to a wedding out of state which vegas would be other side of the usa i live in new england area. id have to shell out a ton of money airfair is not cheep and where i live in ct we have a farily big airport but flights to vegas are always cheeper out of boston so that means train ride to boston round trip, round trip to vegas hotel new outfit etc plus airfair for my fi train and new outfit. i scrounge up the money to get to vegas i have some money but i want to enjoy what little time i have there so im using that for some entertainment but now you want me to pay for my meal no way i would deline and i hope everyone else does 2
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  March 2014

  Someone who would expect guests to pay to attend her reception has the audacity to call other people rude?  Seriously?

  
  

  Honey, you need to grow up before you even think about getting married.  If this tantrum is how you react to non-rude constructive criticism on the internet, how do you ever expect to make it through adult life?  

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