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Traditional Brides?
Any other traditional brides out there? I'm getting bashed left and right for being one, just kind of want to know that I'm not alone 
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Re: Traditional Brides?
But I suspect I'm not what you would consider a traditional bride! I also wouldn't be shocked if many of the people here are not either.
@shrekspeare I could kiss you right now
Once you sign that piece of paper you are married. So that is the wedding.
So, if you believe what you're saying; that rights aren't given by the government but are intrinsic, why the need for a simple piece of paper with signatures on it? Just live with your partner, say "Fuck it!" to your PPD (you know, save money ALL around) and just keep on keepin' on.
OHHHHH, right, to get a BREAK from the government, which supplies many of those things which you might depend upon in case of an emergency, or just for your day-to-day living.
Look, people can't make weddings for a multitude of reasons. You've discovered one; the cost required to get to it. If you REALLY want his family in attendance, pony up the cash yourself to pay to fly them in to watch you sign your MARRIAGE LICENSE at the courthouse. Go out to dinner afterwards to celebrate, call that your reception and it's one and done.
Look, you're not a 'traditional' bride if you're already married and throwing a "play" where you act out something that didn't happen in the first place (your PPD is your One-Act Play performance). TRADITIONAL means you follow TRADITION. Tradition isn't signing the marriage license THEN walking down an aisle in a fucking white dress. TRADITION dictates that the day you sign your marriage license, in your white dress or in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt is your WEDDING DAY.
FuckDamnShit is this really THAT hard to understand for people?
Here, let's let Miss Manners help you out since you seem to be oblivious:
Dear Miss Manners, My husband and I were married this past June in Las Vegas. It was his desire to wed there and I agreed as this was a second marriage for me, but his first. Our families urged us to have a reception upon our return and we thought that would be a great idea. However, with selling two homes, renovating the one we purchased together and getting my children settled into a new community and schools, we never got around to it. He and I are OK with the fact that we never had a reception but our family and friends, particularly his, are constantly urging us to move forward with reception plans. Well, it is now a new year.... His mother wants us to plan a reception for the spring or early summer. Since he has never been married before, she wants all of the tradition that comes with the celebration of marriage (photos, cake, gifts, etc). She is a wonderful mother-in-law and I would like very much to please her. Has too much time passed for us to get away with having a reception nearly one year after our actual wedding day?
Gentle Reader:
Just enough time for you to throw an anniversary party. Miss Manners
is all for wives pleasing their mothers-in-law, but not to the extent of
coercing innocent people into pretending that they are witnessing a wedding
that took place a year ago without their being invited.
Fortunately, there need not be much of a substantive difference
between a post-wedding reception and an anniversary party. By all means
serve a big white cake and take photographs to please your mother-in-law.
However, some things are out of your or her control. You are already married,
and whether or not your guests bring you presents is entirely up to them.
Let me reiterate what I've bolded:NOT TO THE EXTENT OF COERCING INNOCENT PEOPLE INTO PRETENDING THAT THEY ARE WITNESSING A WEDDING.
Hell, I even found ANOTHER Miss Manners column:
State of slight confusion: My wife's best friend got married nearly a year ago. The bride wore beautiful white wedding dress and carried flowers. A small number of friends were in attendance and a meal followed. Pictures were taken and posted online. The problem? This ceremony took place at a courthouse (there were insurance issues that needed to be addressed ASAP). So, this spring, a bit over a year later, they are holding a "real wedding," complete with another ceremony (and large reception). My wife thinks this is perfectly normal, but it seems odd to me. Is this the new normal? Thanks for your reply.
Miss Manners: It's not a "real wedding," because these people are already married. But there are many who regard weddings as a chance to indulge in ego-fests and want as many as possible (without the trouble of divorce), so they stage re-enactments.