I want to start off by saying that I have been so excited about the entire planning process, I have been open minded and just excited! We recently sent out our invites back at the end of February and our response cards have been rolling in and BOY is this frustrating. Almost everyone is RSVP-ing extra guests and one person even RSVP'd for 6 extra guests. SIX!!! This is the only thing that has really got me heated. Are any of my fellow May brides having issues with this?
Re: RSVP aggravation
I haven't had this problem-yet. I only had an outer envelope, so I wrote out the names of everyone invited, including children. If they were truly single, I wrote a small note on the RSVP card "you are invited to bring a guest"; so far, none of the singles has taken that option, and some of the "extended" invites (SOs FI & I don't know well, children and step-children) are being declined, which I did not expect.
A short phone call to the offending parties: "I'm sorry, the invitations were only to those addressed by name. I hope you can still attend."
Yes..... I feel your pain.
Our RSVP's are flowing in and I even put the number down for the amount og ppl invited on each card. All they had to do was simply write in their names and check yes coming or decline.
I have gotten cards back where ppl have crossed out my number and placed their own. I kindly am going to call these ppl and let them know unless they want to pay the extra amount for their extra guests I will look forward to seeing just them.
1. my cousin's mom called to tell my mom that if my cousin comes to the wedding, he intends to bring his gf. she wasn't invited. today we see she's booked a room at the hotel already (we haven't seen the rsvp). we are just biting our tongues since they are flying cross country.
2. my fiance's friend rsvp'd with his gf's food selections. she wasn't invited. he did add a note "hey not sure if you meant for +1s" but the thing is, people who have never planned a wedding may not know wedding etiquette! so we told him that we need to see how our rsvp list goes and she may be invited.
They are both men, so that's why I'm going to guess they don't know any better. If I have any sons, I'm going to force them to read etiquette books, because in my experience so many men are so clueless about this kind of thing...my fiance included, who was invited to a wedding (when we had been together over 2 years) as His Name and Guest and put "His Name and Guest" on the RSVP...um, thanks honey...
My deadline is tomorrow and I am still missing 80 rsvps. Holy cow.