Sooooo FI's cousin is getting married in late June... aaaand we just got the invitation. I actually was excited, I thought it would be a thank you card for the gift that we sent them a little while back, and I was excited to see that they had definitely got it.
RSVP by May 1. Fine, I already had to request time off from work anyway. Bonus: We weren't B listed?
There is a 3 hour gap. My FI's response: "AWESOME I'M SO EXCITED TO DO SOME BIKING IN THE AREA!" (Lurkers: If "taking a bike tour of the area" can be listed under "things to do between the ceremony and reception", you might have a gap.)
I was told that it was going to be "super fancy". It starts at 4:30 and the invites aren't making ME think it's super fancy. They have dainty flowers, and somewhat plain paper. I'm thinking cocktail dress for me and tan suit for FI- but I feel we'll get side-eyed for it. Maybe I'm just being oversensitive about that. Plus, it was just to "hikebikebemerry and hikebikebemerry's FI"; no Mr./Ms... this IMHO also makes the event seem less formal. However, it's held at a fairly fancy pants place.
Request on the wedding website that no ladies wear white, as it is reserved for the bride.
The misspelled my last name on the invitation. (Whatev. Shit happens, but seriously... FI and I are both on FB, it wouldn't hurt to check.)
On top of all of this, this part of FI's family can be really obnoxious to my FMIL, who is AWESOME.
This is one of those weddings where I wish that there was a box for "resentfully attend". Or is that my PMS talking?
Re: Am I just being a B?
(Actually, I'm PMSing, too, so maybe I'm not the right person to weigh in.)
That whole thing sounds like a damn shit show. All of it. I am so sorry for you.
It will likely be lovely time. If it's not, I am going to come here and snark on it.. so win-win?
I like people in general, so it makes me feel guilty that pretty much before meeting the bride-to-be (FI is baffled by some of this, apparently Cousin is the chillest one of that family) I am assuming that she's self-centered with a case of too-much-money-itis*.
*I don't care if you're a millionaire or broke.. don't hang it over other people. Your money is your business, not mine.
ETA: I don't want to say that I don't believe my FI, but "chill" is *really* relative for this family. They seem to think that the world revolves around them. Like, other cousin was AN HOUR LATE for her ceremony world revolves around them.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
Just a thought that the bride really may not have intended to B-list you. She might just be running behind schedule.
As for the rest of it--yup. Sounds like a mess.
OP, from what you described, it sounds like they are just trying to make sure everyone dresses up so that their "pictures aren't ruined." Does your family normally throw true black tie weddings? Because that is the only time I'd wear a floor length gown to a formal or fancy pants, as you said ;-) wedding.
If I were you, OP, I would roll my eyes hard at everything so far, wear a cocktail dress I already own or use this as an excuse to rent one from Rent the Runway.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Clearly I'm going to go and not be a bitch about it. I'm sure that I will have a lovely time.
He suggested wearing our biking clothes UNDER what we are wearing to the ceremony, so we can maximize biking time. (Perhaps he can get a tuxedo biking shirt to wear to the ceremony?)
I suggested finding somewhere for cocktails.
You needed the Knot to tell you you should spell your guests' names correctly on your invitations?
If your wedding is a backyard BBQ, go for something bright, simple and address less formally. ("Sue and JoJo Smithers")
If your wedding is a black tie affair, you need something more formal, less whimsical details, engraving and formal addressing. ("Mr. and Mrs. Johnathan Smithers")
ETA: From there, the guests can decide what they should wear. Either a cotton sundress for the backyard BBQ or a floor length gown for the black tie affair to match the formality of the event.
@starmoon...Im with you on the whole tan suit thing! But..did you know there are tan tuxedos? *gasp!