How can I request that my guests don't wear white? Wedding in 8weeks
I absolutely DO NOT want my guests to wear white! I don't mean they can't have on a white shirt or white in their outfit. I just don't want to see anyone in completely white attire. I think its totally disrespectful to wear all white to a wedding unless it is requested by the couple. My flowergirls won't even be in white. Please give me some suggestions on how to further convey this to my guests (politely). Note: I've told family on both sides many times that I think its tacky to wear white to weddings. The only reason I'm even concerned with it now is that my FMIL told me her daughter (30+ yrs old) was planning on wearing white. Thank goodness my FMIL told her not to but I'd like to make it clear to all guests that Wearing White to Our Wedding is a BIG NO NO!
I don't know why this posted to the NYE board.. my wedding is in 8 weeks
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mbross3 member
This is a strange first post, but I will say this: don't worry about it.1) You won't notice if anyone wears white. You will be focused on marrying your FI and you won't notice or care what other people are wearing (and if you do I would question your priorities).2) If a guest wears white, that will reflect poorly on them, not on you. Most adults know not to do this.3) Regardless of what anyone wears, everyone KNOWS who the bride is! There is no danger of anyone confusing someone else in white for you, the bride! -
Re: How can I request that my guests don't wear white? Wedding in 8weeks
my MIL wore a champagne beaded long dress to my wedding. my dress was champagne and beaded. everyone knew I was still the bride and everyone looked at her like she was crazy (because she is). I lived and no one remembers but me (and probably my mom, but only because I complained about it).
moral of the story: people will wear what they want.
also, why is this even posted on the NEY board?
Is it wrong for me to refuse to take pictures with those who still wear white?
That was a suggestion a family member gave me.
it's NOT that big of a deal. seriously. scale of one to ten, it's like a 3. it'll be annoying, for sure, but you can gripe about it later to your new H or your mom or girlfriend or something.
In a word...yes.
It sounds like you are really caught up in the aesthetics and appearance of your wedding, more so than who will actually be there. If it's someone you barely know, an acquaintance your parents or in-laws wanted invited, probably you wouldn't have a whole lot of pictures with them anyway. But what if it's a closer friend or family member? Are you REALLY going to look at them and say, "Sorry, you wore white, so I don't want any pictures with you today"? It just creates needless drama and tension where it doesn't need to be.
Do what you like, but telling people what (not) to wear and/or refusing pictures with people who wear a certain color makes you look extremely petty. If you keep your mouth shut on this issue and try to be graceful and welcoming to everyone, regardless of whether they're wearing white or not, YOU will have a better time at your wedding, and you won't alienate anybody over a relatively minor issue. Like all PP's said, anyone who wears all white to your wedding will look like an ass, not you - unless you overstep your bounds like the above examples.
Really? Why is this even an issue/concern???
my first thought was April Fools...
You cannot tell anybody what to wear. It will reflect poorly on a person for wearing white to a wedding. If you don't take pictures with a person in white, that now turns the tables and it reflects poorly on you.
Is the person who was planning on wearing white looking at wearing a wedding gown or more of an evening gown (or sundress)?
Still here and still fabulous!
Trust me, there are bigger fish to fry in this wedding planning thing. And you should probably start by loving your guests for who they are and not what they're wearing.
Yes, it is kinda rude for people to do that.. But no, it shouldn't be a major concern of yours. Another person wearing white would not detract from your attention. Everyone at your wedding knows who is getting married.
When my boyfriend's sister got married, I was concerned when I wore a white shrug over a black sundress. No one made a comment.. In fact, another guest showed up in a white homecoming style dress, with a black shrug, and no one seemed to care that she was wearing an entirely white dress.
Bottom line, I think you're the only person who cares about this so deeply, and with no good reason. It really won't detract from you at all.
Plus, you seem to only have evidence that one person was planning to wear all white, and they have since been told it is rude and not to do it. So, I think it is completely unnecessary to tell all your guests. You will just come off like a control freak. Which you might be, I'm not sure, but that is not what you want people thinking about your wedding.