My fiance and I have discussed this, and we've decided that we'd rather not have a first dance, or any of the other 'ceremonial' dances that usually happen at the reception. Neither of us enjoy dancing, and he in particular feels like it would be embarrasing for him.
I have a few questions about this, though.
Firstly, is this considered rude? I know people generally expect a first dance, so I'm not sure if it would be against etiquette to deviate from that.
Assuming we're in the clear etiquette-wise, we will be having a DJ, with the option for guests to dance. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to indicate to guests that they can dance, even though there hasn't been a first dance? And would we go straight to speeches?
Thanks!