My sister who is hosting my bridal shower has run across some definitely unforeseen and devastating money issues. SHe planned such a beautiful party for me, and the whole time I told her certain things weren't necessary. I hate themes, and I don't like things to be too themey... it raises the cost of decorations and makes items harder to find. I don't really care about decorations at all, really and I would be just as happy without decorations.
We decided to go with a spring theme by just keeping the colors pink and green and putting tulips on the table. It is now, no longer in her budget to have decorations. Which I don't even care about. SHe has had to take back my gift, at my total understanding and request. (I told her to not even get me a gift in the first place, because the shower was gift enough). SHe is devastated that she can't throw me the shower she wants. Should I help out with the decorations? It seems like not having decorations is so upsetting to her, even though she knows I don't care. To her, it seems like I never wanted the original party she had planned, in the first place.
She is under a lot of stress and I just want to make it easier on her. To be accepting of no decorations, is upsetting to her, but to buy the decorations also seems like the party she is able to throw is not good enough for me. I understand she is devastated, but I want to do my best to help her . I know it is improper etiquette to host the shower, myself, the food she would be providing. Except for the bloody mary's which I will be providing (she is seven months pregnant, and does not want to be the taste tester, obviously.) I just want to do right be her, she needs so much support, right now, and I feel like I am failing her, at every turn.
I would offer to not have the shower at all, but the invites have all ready gone out, and it would seem to make her feel more guilt about the shower. Would you chip in for the decorations (tissue pompom package set, 1 sheet of cardstock, bakers twine, and two tulip bouquets, and paper plates?) It all comes to $28 at Oriental trading company. Or would you keep saying decorations aren't necessary?