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Wedding Etiquette Forum
lvgirl1000
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What say you?
I no longer have the ability to make any judgments regarding anything wedding-related without the express written consent of the ladies of TK. So what do we think about this?
FI & I are going to FI's co-worker's wedding tomorrow. FI told me about a month ago that the ceremony was this Thursday @ 3:00 p.m. Was a little peeved about having to take time off work to go but that's between me & FI.
Wedding starts @ 3 p.m. @ Catholic church with reception @ 6:30 p.m. Okay, Catholic weddings can run long?
Last week I asked FI to ask groom about gift registery. Groom told FI they did not have registery, guests can give cash gifts. Can, not must. Okay.
Yesterday FI asked what he should wear to the wedding. I told him business casual-ish would probably work but I should look at the invitation to see what it looked like, info on it, etc. FI said invite was by e-mail
& it was in Spanish.
I asked why they would send an invitation to their wedding in Spanish. FI said he guessed most of the guests were Mexican. I said, you're not. & What about Tom, Dick & Harry (other co-workers)? They are also not Mexican. FI said he didn't believe Tom Dick & Harry were invited.
Bad form? or just cultural differences?
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Re: What say you?
The Thursday 3pm ceremony is annoying, I guess it's up to guests to accept or decline depending on whether or not it's convenient. The gap is horribly rude, Catholic ceremonies do not go that long.
Most people with internet access are able to find registries online- if an individual is unable to do this, and they ask a couple what to give, they should be ready for an answer like the one you received. That's just me though. The invite in Spanish and long gap would bother me too.
They've committed a few etiquette wrongs. The gap is one. The ceremony, if a full mass, should be 60-90 minutes. At minimum you'll be left with a 1.5 hour gap, unless the actual cocktail hour starts before 6 though I find that unlikely. So prepare for that. Second, it wasn't rude of them not to register but telling you flat out that cash was acceptable was rude. Everyone knows cash is always an option.
as for the invitation language! I don't think it was very considerate of them but I don't know if it was against etiquette. They could have easily printed a handful of English invites or had the invites contain both languages. The email invite also wasn't the best choice but what are you gonna do, you know?
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The no registry thing is fine, he asked, and was told there wasn't a registry. I probably woudn't have put it as bluntly as to say 'gimme money', but apparently they're saving for something or want to see what kind of honeymoon they can afford to plan with the cash gifts. No biggie.
The gap, especially if you have to miss work for the ceremony...bad form. If I went at all, it would be just to the reception. I'd only miss work for someone really special.
And Google translate doesn't work very well.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
While writing an English invitation was very considerate of them, it wasn't that helpful, as it led me to believe the ceremony would be in English as well. It seems like the ceremony you're attending will be in Spanish as well. It might be helpful to look up the format and schedule of a Catholic wedding so that you know what's going on.
Usually when people refer to themselves as Catholic they mean Roman Catholic. Typically the Orthodox Catholics refer to themselves as X Orthodox.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."