My mom is making me feel super guilty for having a destination wedding. She's convinced that no one is going to come, that it'll cost too much for them, etc. I'm not even 100% sure that it is a destination wedding. My fiance and I really don't have roots planted anywhere. My parents live in Ohio, a good chunk of our friends live in Savannah, I have family in NYC and Long Island, other guests scattered throughout the country, and my fiance and I just moved to upstate New York from Georgia. We are a same sex couple and are getting married in Toronto, a decision we made before it was legal here. We fell in love with the city and decided that would be it. It's a couple hours away, easily driveable, so we're up there regularly doing all the planning.
My issue is, as a same sex couple, having a wedding in Georgia is kind of risky, and I really don't want drama or intolerance around our wedding or in the planning. If we did upstate New York, all of our guests would be traveling anyway. If we did NYC, the wedding we are having would cost at least twice as much, and most of our guests would still have to travel. Based on what I described, am I even having a destination wedding? My mom keeps saying it is but I never thought of it that way, because in any of the circumstances, most of the guests would be traveling, unless we had the wedding in Savannah, which would be super inconvenient for us, and also not the most tolerant place towards same sex couples.
And how should I approach my mom when she throws the guilt trip on me? It makes me really uncomfortable and I've tried explaining it to her logically.
I hope this post makes sense! I've tried looking the answers up myself but usually end up with webpages trying to help me plan a destination wedding! Thanks for the feedback!