I know we've all talked about last name changing a bazillion times on here, and I'm not looking to start a discussion about who did or didn't or why or why not, but I do have a question.
DH has a friend, Adam, who is getting married to his HS sweetheart, Eve, next month. Adam and Eve dated all through HS, then broke up toward the end of HS. They both went on to marry other people, and both of those marriages ended in divorce (and one of the ex-spouses landed in jail, but that's another story.)
Eve took her ex-H's last name when they got married. They had two sons, both of whom have the ex-H's (their bio-dad's) last name.
Eve and Adam apparently had a fight this weekend over name-changing. Eve is on the fence about changing her last name to Adam's last name because of her sons. They're already not really keen on the marriage (it's not that they don't like Adam, it's just that they miss their dad and I think they feel like their mom getting married will mean they see their dad even less than they already do, but that's because their father is stationed in JAPAN (by his choice; he asked to be sent there) and only comes home once a year), and she's afraid that her changing her name will set them off.
Adam said, 'You loved your ex enough to take his name, why don't you love me enough to take my name?'
Eve said, 'It's not about not loving you, it's about loving my sons, too.'
Adam texted his side of the story to DH, and Eve texted her side to me, so between the two stories we were able to kind of figure out what happened.
DH is of the opinion Adam is being an idiot about this and that it's just a name. But he doesn't want to tell Adam that because (a) he doesn't think Adam will take it well and (b) he doesn't think it's his place (a position I endorse.)
So, Knotties with kids, what did you decide to do about this, and how did your kids handle it?
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'