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NWR: Baby's Sex?
I've noticed "Gender Reveal" parties being brought up a couple of time recently and while I enjoy them and think they're cute, I don't know if I would want to know the sex of my baby before he/she is born (not pregnant, just thinking).
My reasons are: 1. Why would it matter? I'll love them the same. 2. I could reuse more of the clothes/toys/accessories for a second child if they were a different sex. i'll already have gender neutral things. 3. The excitement leading up to it would make it that much better.
My hesitation? I am extremely impatient and hate surprises. So, I'm not sure if the whole not knowing thing would work for me.
What did/would you and you H/FI/BF do and why? Thoughts?
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Re: NWR: Baby's Sex?
H and I found out. For me, its the power of information. I want to know as much about this lil human as possible before he is born so that I can best prepare. It never occured to me to think about circumcision until I found out it was a boy. Now, I have educated myself and H and I made a decision.
I wanted to know more this time because DH wants a boy and I wanted the mental preparation of knowing whether or not we may try for a third. I loved both.
When FI and I have kids, we're going to find out. I'm impatient first and foremost.
Also,this is going to be an unpopular opinion around here, but I can't wait to have a girl and buy every pink/polka dot/lace thing I can find. And if it's a boy, I'll probably go the blue route. I honestly don't think that by putting your small children into gender specific clothing that it's going to harm them or put them in a box later on in life. For instance, FI has an older sister. When she was a baby & toddler, FMIL put her in dresses and bought the pink clothes and little dolls. But as soon as FSIL gained a little independence/got a little older (like 5 and 6), she refused all dresses and wanted to be just like the boys. FMIL let her make her own decisions and FSIL chose boy clothes and went the more masculine route. She's still a girl and being dressed in pink dresses and given dolls as a young one didn't make her think she always had to play that role. Granted if my future inlaws hadn't been as accepting or tried to force it on her as she got older, that would be different and might've harmed her becoming who she is.
Long story short - I'm going to embrace buying all of the girliest things I can find if/when I have a girl because I love all of it. If she doesn't want it as she gets older, then that's fine and she can wear whatever she wants and make the decision on her own.
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