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Shower Gift: WWYD? *update with venting*

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Re: Shower Gift: WWYD? *update with venting*

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    I'd buy a Target gift card so they could put it toward the purchase of the larger items on the registry. Or, I would buy a nice bottle of wine and call it a day.

                       
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    There's a 5th option. Buy something small off registry with a nice card, but then buy them something on their registry that will be shipped later to their house. 

    There is no way in hell I'd give this bride money or contribute to her Honeyfund.
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  • WeeshWeesh member
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    I'd get something and have it shipped.  I had my shower this weekend, and one of my friends ordered my dinnerware online.  The card explained it, and it was really nice.  

    I'd also take any option that didn't include a honeymoon fund!
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  • hikebikebemerryhikebikebemerry member
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    Give her 3 blenders!

    Kidding... I agree with the PP that mentioned calling Anthropologie and putting an item on hold.  However, I do like the idea of putting together stuff for entertaining outdoors.

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  • B0320B0320 member
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    lalalaurita said:
    JCBride2014 said:
    @lalalaurita and @KGold80 Yeah, they have a big backyard, so maybe we could do a basket of outdoor entertaining stuff?  And include a gift receipt from Target, so they can return it if they want.  I just don't know if the bride would be annoyed with that because it's off-registry, but I guess that's the risk you take when you have a 75-person shower with only like 20 registry items.
    That sounds like a lovely idea. Unless the bride is a total gift-grabby SS, she shouldn't be annoyed that it's off-registry.

    +1 A basket with outdoor entertaining things sounds lovely and Target has some super cute patterns for melamine plates and serving dishes
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  • tortoisebridetortoisebride member
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    #2 is the best option. It's also low effort for you, which is a plus!
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    Honestly...I think if they're going to attempt to force me into giving them money (which I don't do), then I'll allow their attempt to fail and be unable to attend the shower. 

    I mean, if you're going to make it borderline impossible for me to give you a gift (honeyfund is not a gift), then you don't need me there. Because I'm being invited to give you a gift.
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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    Update:

    Ugh.  I just texted FMIL (the host of the shower) to explain I was able to get the class I'm teaching delayed, but not canceled.  So I will have to leave a little early.  She texts back, "I wish you could stay the whole time we have lots of fun games to play."

    Seriously, I just inconvenienced a class full of 20 adult students so I can come to the shower.  Your only response should be "Thank you!  See ya tomorrow!"

    /vent

    I have decided I'm just going off-registry and buying something at Target.  I feel like I'll get judged if I only give a card with a picture; don't want to give cash or Honeyfund; and everybody shops at Target, so they can always return the stuff and get something else.

    I think I'm just oversensitive about this because the rest of the wedding is so tacky too, but this is the family I'm marrying into, so I'm bending over backwards to make it work.
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    "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

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  • pinkcow13pinkcow13 member
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    Ugh. How many damn games will there be? That text seems a bit passive aggressive to me. If she added "... but I understand, I'm glad you're able to make it anyways" it would be fine. Hopefully you'll have fun at this shower :/
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  • Aray82Aray82 member
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    This happened to me with the only BBB being 40 minutes away. My printer was on the fritz and I didn't have a fancy camera phone yet so I just had it shipped online and brought a card with a heartfelt message that mentioned she'd be getting the cake pan. I could have planned better and ordered it to get to my house to wrap it, but really, a guest shouldn't have to do that. She was a bit surprised/awkward about but hey, she she could have had more items added to the store that was only 10 minutes away for most of her guests.
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  • SBminiSBmini member
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    I have and idea. Obviously the honeyfund is just a thinly-masked attempt to get cash. Do you know where they are honeymooning? Why not get them a gift certificate for a restaurant where they are honeymooning. Then they would be forced to actually use it during the honeymoon opposed to cashing in for something else.
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