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ninewest86
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Question/Rant about other person's wedding
We're attending a wedding in June that has the most obscure dress code. On their website under guest information it says that recommended attire is "evening/summer/semi formal/cocktail." Am I crazy for not knowing what that's supposed to mean? I would think summer is a sun dress but evening means gowns. The ceremony is a church in the city (parking is not provided) that requires a total of walking 6 blocks from the garage to the church then to the docks where we will get on a boat that will cruise for 3.5 hours until 10:30 at night, so there's no option of leaving before then. I'd rather not go at all for these and other reasons but my FI insists since the groom is a friend of his. No one is really a fan of the bride, sad to say. I'm inclined to wear a sun dress and flip flops given the walk and the assumption that it's going to be hot.
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Re: Question/Rant about other person's wedding
If it's a church wedding, I'd dress like I would for church in the summer -- a cute sundress and cute sandals.
I would not wear flip flops to a wedding unless it was a beach wedding because IMHO, flip flops are too casual for weddings, but that is not an opinion shared by everyone.
You're an adult, wear whatever you feel is appropriate.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
In your place I would wear a nicer (slightly heavier material, darker jewel-tone print) sundress I own with a wrap over it and black flats. It's a little ambiguous from the invites how formal they want to go and their "dress code" doesn't make any sense at all. A traditional sundress would be a little too casual from what you've said of the couple though it would match the invites. An evening boat cruise could be very fancy (on a yacht) or very casual (smaller vessel). Of course for church there is a wide range of appropriate dress (within certain modesty limits) but you also wouldn't want to be too hot for the weather likely occurring in June. I wish you luck in either convincing your FI to go alone or finding a perfectly ambiguous outfit so you at least don't stand out too much one way or the other.
On the dress code topic...one thing I do love is when a bride weighs in on shoes. It's always helpful to know if you're going to be on grass...pebbles...sand etc, so you know to wear flats, wedges or stilettos. That is all though! Let me know if it's formal....The rest...adults know how to dress themselves for a wedding.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I agree that evening weddings tend to be more formal events, but that doesn't necessarily mean floor length gowns. Cocktail dresses are typically fine for formal, evening weddings.
If the reception is on the Titanic I'd suggest wearing a life jacket ;-)
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Who flipping cares what other people wear?! Seriously, people, I don't get it. A woman in a sundress isn't going to ruin the dinner cruise for everyone else just by virtue of the fact that she is wearing a sundress.
You want to play Fashion Police with your SO or BFFs and silently side eye and judge people, have at it. But what other people are wearing honestly doesn't matter or affect anyone else. If a person shows up to an event under-dressed chances are they A. don't give a shit about what they are wearing nor how other ppl judge them or B. they will feel under dressed an embarrassed.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I mean any sort of boat large enough to fit 100 people on it. Yacht, ferry, steamboat etc. If the boat were a small sailing vessel, I'd expect to have seen boat shoes required.
I just find it shocking people would wear flip flops and a sundress to an evening wedding. Flip flops are for the beach. Sundresses are daytime clothes. I might bring flip flops for the walk, but Im a grown up and I wear big girl shoes to weddings.
I personally don't give a crap what other people choose to wear. . . as long as they are wearing clothes ;-)
ETA: I once wore a floor length sun dress to an evening summer wedding *gasp* because I was out of college and didn't have a ton of money at the time to go buy a cocktail dress that I was only going to wear to this one event. If anyone was side eye-ing me, I didn't notice and I sure didn't care. The Bride didn't care, we are still friends, and she's in my wedding this fall.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."