I have a Masters and I still can't spell "boutanieres" --- holy cow I butchered that one.
Case Proven.
Same here! Why is that word so hard?
Blame the French. We stole the word from them, which is why it has 57 letters and we use half of them.
I have to sound it out to get it right, and even then it's a crap shoot.
Census/consensus always throw me. Why does one have a 'c' and the other an 's'??
I DON'T UNDERSTAND!!
I always want to leave off the second m in accommodate and have to check myself.
I do that too!
It took me longer than I'm proud of to remember how to spell hors d'oeuvres. Damn French.
Accommodate also throws me. There's a list of words I just hate.
And @bouncertony, you're my new favourite person. I'm glad you joined our little group!!
I'm pretty sure the only time DH has EVER commented on my shoes was to say, 'Aren't those the shoes you wore to that other event that gave you blisters and you ended up taking off halfway through the night?'
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
Alright, I'm gonna be an honest guy. Like super honest. I hope no one hates me.
As a single guy, when I go to weddings, I do hope for single bridesmaids. Or really single any women of an age that is not creepy for me to date. It's not so much the whole "women are emotionally vulnerable" like they say on TV. It's more, a social event with women that isn't a bar, and where I've put some effort into my own look, and it's easier to have a conversation with someone.
But when all the bridesmaids are dressed to look exactly the same...uh...I kind of start mixing them up. And I feel bad about it, I'm a feminist I recognize all women are unique individuals but when you dress 3 women of similar age in the same dress with the same shoes and the same hair and the same make up, dude! I'm gonna get confused!
Take some mercy on us guys and let your girls be a little different from each other. Especially if you have one who is married and one who is not and they already look kind of alike...I do not want to hit on someone else's wife. I'm not ok with that.
I'm so glad you joined us. You would have loved our wedding. All the ladies were in different dresses. Two were married, but it was pretty obvious.
Tony, my 2 bridesmaids wore the same dress, had similar shoes (they picked out by themselves), both blonde with the same hairstyle, but they were both single and one of them had a rather large tattoo she was showing off on her leg with the cocktail length dress. Hopefully that helps differentiate them.
I just want to share that I have two associates degrees from community college. So...I'm pretty special.
Also, as a man, I have learned to never tell a woman what shoes she should or should not be wearing. I asked @MagicInk once if she should be wearing 6" heels to work in all day and I'm pretty sure she tried to use her mind to blow up my head. I never made that mistake again.
Total tangent, but now I need to see @MagicInk's shoes. I'm sure that will just be the icing on the cake of my crush on her. Though I think I'm gonna need to get in line.
5. Being a bridesmaid isn't about being fucking honored. It's about sharing a special moment with people who are closest to you. And it used to be about keeping away evil spirits.
So true! In Italian culture they believed that the bridesmaids were decoys to distract the evil spirits from the actual bride.
Kind of wanted to respectfully weigh on this thread that seems to have already been finished.
But, my bridesmaids asked me what dress I was going with. I originally told them you can pick any dress that you like but I'd like it to be this color. One BM said, that was silly and we should all have the same dress. Ok, no problem either way.
We discuss what's a fair price and I show them a $50 and $150 dress. Both styles would be flattering on all three body types. They chose the $150 dress. They ask me about shoes, I say what do you think will look good with that color? They cannot decide (it is kind of a hard color to match) and I give color suggestions but ultimately they need to figure out the shoe situation. I strongly encouraged barefoot for the beach ceremony and w/e for the reception. Shoes are such a minor detail and I trust they know how to coordinate an outfit.
As the kind ladies here suggested to me, let them do what they want with their hair and make-up. Message received. I don't think there is anything wrong with wearing the same dress, especially as I think my BMs wanted to be set apart as the bridal party (although they're going to have small bouquets to hold so that should be enough but again w/e). Its whatever makes everyone feel good.
Besides I think these ladies look pretty:
ETA: Admittedly, it was also kind of fun to go with one of my BMs and try on dresses together. Sure, it was silly for me to try them on too but it was still fun and we had a blast.
@perdonami, those pictures you posted... none of the girls are plus-size. Well, maybe one in the bottom picture but next to a bunch of thin girls she might be like a size 8 or 10 and just look bigger. In any case, the dress is already distinctly less flattering on her.
I had bridesmaids ranging from 6 to, well, I don't really know for sure because I don't know their dress sizes. I had a short girl and an Amazon. My SIL was 6 months pregnant at our wedding. The same dress simply would not have worked for all of them.
While I'm glad it worked out for you and your bridesmaids to pick the same dress, there's a very good reason we tend to advise against doing so.
@lizhurt said: Again everyone is misconstrued and just needs their five minutes to be a know it all.
I'm not sure you're saying what you think you're saying.
Are you trying to say that everyone is misconstruing your words, and everybody needs five minutes to be a know it all?
In which case, you should say something like: My message is being misconstrued, etc.
Not, everyone is misconstrued, etc.
Or are you actually trying to say that every person here is being misconstrued? That would be correct usage, but makes exactly zero sense.
I would expect someone with your English degree to be able to communicate clearly. I also think you were absent the days that the comma was discussed. I would refrain from publicly bragging about my degree, unless I could demonstrate the skills required to obtain it.
@perdonami, those pictures you posted... none of the girls are plus-size. Well, maybe one in the bottom picture but next to a bunch of thin girls she might be like a size 8 or 10 and just look bigger. In any case, the dress is already distinctly less flattering on her.
I had bridesmaids ranging from 6 to, well, I don't really know for sure because I don't know their dress sizes. I had a short girl and an Amazon. My SIL was 6 months pregnant at our wedding. The same dress simply would not have worked for all of them.
While I'm glad it worked out for you and your bridesmaids to pick the same dress, there's a very good reason we tend to advise against doing so.
My only point is that I think whatever feels comfortable should go whether that be the same dress or different dresses. And having a similar or even the same dress won't necessarily look bad. Also, the girls in the second picture all have on different shoes.
Re: Accidental Bridezilla
I do that too!
It took me longer than I'm proud of to remember how to spell hors d'oeuvres. Damn French.
Accommodate also throws me. There's a list of words I just hate.
And @bouncertony, you're my new favourite person. I'm glad you joined our little group!!
I'm pretty sure the only time DH has EVER commented on my shoes was to say, 'Aren't those the shoes you wore to that other event that gave you blisters and you ended up taking off halfway through the night?'