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  • twitterbirdtwitterbird member
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    I met with the priest doing our service yesterday. He told us that he tells guests (other than the photographer) not to take photos at the ceremony because he feels its disrepectful in Church.
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    Stop micromanaging your guests.


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    PrettyGirlLost said:
    kitty8403 said:
    I've shot weddings. I worked around the amateurs. A good photographer will. that doesn't mean you need to be rude and block shots on purpose. if you aren't the pro, please respect that these people are there to work, not playing. It matters if their images turn out. I get mega social discomfort when ninety gazillion people, most of whom are lousy togs, are waving cameras in my face. It's the kind of thing that will bring out my inner psycho bitch. I HATE being photographed at the best of times, and being obnoxious and waving your damn phone in my face (it's NOT a frigging quality camera, so knock it off) isn't helpful. I think it's rude to play with your phone during the ceremony. People will do it, sure, but I find it extremely distracting and disrespectful. Just wait 10 minutes and get your snaps in after the announcement.
    Pro photographers with expensive DSLRs should be able to take 8+ frames a second, so the chance that every single shot will be ruined by someone else trying to take a pic at the same time is pretty slim.

    Most people do not intentionally try to block the professional photographers while they are working- if it happens, it is usually an accident.

    Smartphones have 13+ MP cameras- a number of  new smartphones have 20+MP cameras it seems- and a decent flash, and are very much capable of taking very good, high quality photos.  It is also entirely possible to take really shitty pictures using a fancy DSLR as well.  It all has to do with how good the photographer is.
    For the record, a point-and-shoot, camera-phone, and even the pop-up flash on a DSLR only works about 6 feet in front of you. It's probably not doing anything for you during a ceremony except lighting up the head of the person in front of you. All those flashes going off in the stands at a stadium - they're doing absolutely nothing.

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    ashleyep said:
    PrettyGirlLost said:
    kitty8403 said:
    I've shot weddings. I worked around the amateurs. A good photographer will. that doesn't mean you need to be rude and block shots on purpose. if you aren't the pro, please respect that these people are there to work, not playing. It matters if their images turn out. I get mega social discomfort when ninety gazillion people, most of whom are lousy togs, are waving cameras in my face. It's the kind of thing that will bring out my inner psycho bitch. I HATE being photographed at the best of times, and being obnoxious and waving your damn phone in my face (it's NOT a frigging quality camera, so knock it off) isn't helpful. I think it's rude to play with your phone during the ceremony. People will do it, sure, but I find it extremely distracting and disrespectful. Just wait 10 minutes and get your snaps in after the announcement.
    Pro photographers with expensive DSLRs should be able to take 8+ frames a second, so the chance that every single shot will be ruined by someone else trying to take a pic at the same time is pretty slim.

    Most people do not intentionally try to block the professional photographers while they are working- if it happens, it is usually an accident.

    Smartphones have 13+ MP cameras- a number of  new smartphones have 20+MP cameras it seems- and a decent flash, and are very much capable of taking very good, high quality photos.  It is also entirely possible to take really shitty pictures using a fancy DSLR as well.  It all has to do with how good the photographer is.
    For the record, a point-and-shoot, camera-phone, and even the pop-up flash on a DSLR only works about 6 feet in front of you. It's probably not doing anything for you during a ceremony except lighting up the head of the person in front of you. All those flashes going off in the stands at a stadium - they're doing absolutely nothing.

    The more you know!
    That's if you even need to use the flash.  Last 3 weddings I went to, there was ample lighting in the church, so none of the guests taking pictures seemed to be using their flash. . . and some of the guest pics I saw were really nice.

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    PrettyGirlLost said:
    ashleyep said:
    PrettyGirlLost said:
    kitty8403 said:
    I've shot weddings. I worked around the amateurs. A good photographer will. that doesn't mean you need to be rude and block shots on purpose. if you aren't the pro, please respect that these people are there to work, not playing. It matters if their images turn out. I get mega social discomfort when ninety gazillion people, most of whom are lousy togs, are waving cameras in my face. It's the kind of thing that will bring out my inner psycho bitch. I HATE being photographed at the best of times, and being obnoxious and waving your damn phone in my face (it's NOT a frigging quality camera, so knock it off) isn't helpful. I think it's rude to play with your phone during the ceremony. People will do it, sure, but I find it extremely distracting and disrespectful. Just wait 10 minutes and get your snaps in after the announcement.
    Pro photographers with expensive DSLRs should be able to take 8+ frames a second, so the chance that every single shot will be ruined by someone else trying to take a pic at the same time is pretty slim.

    Most people do not intentionally try to block the professional photographers while they are working- if it happens, it is usually an accident.

    Smartphones have 13+ MP cameras- a number of  new smartphones have 20+MP cameras it seems- and a decent flash, and are very much capable of taking very good, high quality photos.  It is also entirely possible to take really shitty pictures using a fancy DSLR as well.  It all has to do with how good the photographer is.
    For the record, a point-and-shoot, camera-phone, and even the pop-up flash on a DSLR only works about 6 feet in front of you. It's probably not doing anything for you during a ceremony except lighting up the head of the person in front of you. All those flashes going off in the stands at a stadium - they're doing absolutely nothing.

    The more you know!
    That's if you even need to use the flash.  Last 3 weddings I went to, there was ample lighting in the church, so none of the guests taking pictures seemed to be using their flash. . . and some of the guest pics I saw were really nice.
    Oh agreed. When I go to weddings I bring my prime lens which has a wide aperture so I can avoid using a flash. I just mentioned it as an aside. Please refrain from flash photography during the ceremony!
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  • jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    I hope people take picture during my ceremony. I have a lot pros coming and I think their work will be a lot better than the person we hired.
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    I do wedding photography and have run into issues with guests who feel their role as the "photographer" was more important than my own.  I once missed a first kiss shot because someone, at the last second, felt the need to step out right in front of me to get a shot (that didn't even turn out).  The B&G were rightfully pissed.
    I disagree with telling people to put it away because they definitely can get some great shots too.  I do, however, agree with people having some common sense and realizing when their photos are interfering with the ability of the photographer to get the shots they need to get. 
     
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    PrettyGirlLost said:


    kitty8403 said:

    And yes, that probably sounds angrier than it should. I am DREADING having to deal with this. I had people doing this a few weeks ago (cameras every time I turned around) and they laughed when I repeatedly asked to be left alone and told me I'd better get used to it.
    Fuck. Off. If they were not very special, very close individuals, that would warrant a disinvite.


    kitty8403 said:

    Wegl13 said:

    Thank you kitty8403. I was beginning to think that we and ours were alone in feeling like this. Luckily as I said, the important people in our life- the ones important enough to invite to our wedding- are great, respectful people. Without a reminder they might get overexcited in the moment and try and whip our their phone at an inappropriate time, but with an officiant saying "yeah folks, we'd appreciate no pictures during the ceremony".... They are all respectful enough to comply. Also thanks to our location, they've probably figured out by the time the ceremony starts that they won't be updating Facebook anytime soon- there's no reception within about 3 miles of our venue!



    ---just to be clear, I think the general issue you're running into here in the forum is that what you are asking sounds a little controlling. TK regs are not fans of anything that comes off like trying to control or micromanage guests.

    I'm not looking to control anybody or obsessing over perfect pictures. I'm just extremely uncomfortable when people literally start stalking me and shoving lenses in my face. Who needs that kind of stress? I'm relatively resigned that this will happen during the reception, but is it really too much to ask for 10-15 minutes of camera and phone downtime while we're trying to concentrate on getting through our vows? Sorry to say, but yes.  Your guests are not taking photos of you bc they are trying to annoy you.  They are taking photos of you because they love you, they are excited for you, excited to be at your wedding, and they want to have a record (picture) of this event for themselves.  They are not going to buy prints from your photographer. 

    Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable this makes you, try to focus on how cool it is that you are important enough to these ppl that they want to take a picture.  I don't take pictures of shit I don't like or care about    . 

    Not only that, but for the most part you will not be looking directly out at your guests during the ceremony- your back will be to them or they will be off to your right.  If you start to get nervous and anxious, focus on looking directly at your FI and only him, and block everyone else out.  I don't see why that's unreasonable.



    And slightly different point, but I really would like to know what makes random people (who haven't been asked or hired to do so) think they have the right to follow and photograph the bride doing EVERYTHING on her wedding day--and laugh about it if she objects? No one has the right to laugh at you, but your wedding guests are not random people- they are your closest family and friends, right?  So they want to take a picture of you on your wedding day or with you because they love you.  That's why they are photographing you, not because they think they have a right.  It's bc they care about you and they are excited.  Again, people don't typically waste time taking photos of random shit they don't care about.  The frick. Can't you annoy the parents? Or the groom? Or the wedding party? Or just hold off for a few minutes? Why is that such a bridezilla move, to ask for a little airspace?  They can and will take photos of/with those people, but honestly, aside from the groom, no one is as important to guests at a wedding than the bride and groom.

    It sounds to me more like your issue is that you don't like being
    photographed and are already feeling anxious about being photographed on
    your wedding day by your pro's and your wedding guests.

    Is that correct?

    Look,
    it's shitty if ppl laugh at you and ignore you if you kindly ask them
    to stop doing something- such as please don't take my picture atm.  I'm
    sorry your friends/relatives did this to you.

    However, you are
    going to be the center of attention on your wedding day, and people are
    going to be taking pictures of you.  There is no way around this other
    than actually eloping. 

    If you think having multiple people take your
    picture all day is really going to make you anxious and miserable,
    perhaps see your PCP about getting a prescription for something mild,
    just to take the edge off?



    ---
    :-) yeah, you got it hon. Major stressor for me. Not trying to threadjack, just saying I wish people in general would be more thoughtful/ less pushy about photos. Pay attention to whether or not you're blocking a shot or being too invasive. (And for the love of God, if you're asked to back off, please just back off.) All the posters saying "let it go," people will do what they do--great in theory but it doesn't reduce the stress load on the other end one tiny bit. It comes off sounding more like "shut up and take it." :-/

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    chelseamb11 said:
    http://coreyann.com/blog/corey-talks/corey-talks-why-you-should-have-an-unplugged-wedding
    (Another photographer perspective of the benefits of unplugging)


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    HeatherKat said:


    chelseamb11 said:

    http://coreyann.com/blog/corey-talks/corey-talks-why-you-should-have-an-unplugged-wedding
    (Another photographer perspective of the benefits of unplugging)


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  • moresmoresmoresmores member
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    I'm sorry but I just don't get what the fuss is in asking people to put there phones away like I'm spending a shit ton of money for these people to be here at my wedding so I think the least you could do is pay attention to what I've done for you!!!!!! Weddings aren't cheap my friends and if I'm going to pay a thousands of dollars on someone to take pictures of my on my freaking wedding day I don't want any damn iPhones with your bright ass phone covers distracting from my moment!
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    moresmores said:
    I'm sorry but I just don't get what the fuss is in asking people to put there phones away like I'm spending a shit ton of money for these people to be here at my wedding so I think the least you could do is pay attention to what I've done for you!!!!!! Weddings aren't cheap my friends and if I'm going to pay a thousands of dollars on someone to take pictures of my on my freaking wedding day I don't want any damn iPhones with your bright ass phone covers distracting from my moment!

    There is so much wrong with this I don't know where to start so I'll just say NO!
    That's what I'm saying it's like "no!" Just put your damn camera down and trust the photographer
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  • moresmoresmoresmores member
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    moresmores said:
    I'm sorry but I just don't get what the fuss is in asking people to put there phones away like I'm spending a shit ton of money for these people to be here at my wedding so I think the least you could do is pay attention to what I've done for you!!!!!! Weddings aren't cheap my friends and if I'm going to pay a thousands of dollars on someone to take pictures of my on my freaking wedding day I don't want any damn iPhones with your bright ass phone covers distracting from my moment!

    You aren't doing anything for anyone. Your guests are spending their time to attend your wedding. You aren't doing them any favors.

    I'm paying for there meal aren't i?! Guests come to honor us and we give them a meal and a party just to show up I don't think it's asking too much of them to just relax and enjoy the party instead of pretending their some kind of professional picture taker
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    moresmores said:
    I'm sorry but I just don't get what the fuss is in asking people to put there phones away like I'm spending a shit ton of money for these people to be here at my wedding so I think the least you could do is pay attention to what I've done for you!!!!!! Weddings aren't cheap my friends and if I'm going to pay a thousands of dollars on someone to take pictures of my on my freaking wedding day I don't want any damn iPhones with your bright ass phone covers distracting from my moment!
    Your idea of what weddings are for is so off base that I strongly suggest you postpone yours and go back to playing dress up until you mature and figure it out.

    You are not throwing them a party that they should be eternally thankful for and grovel at your feet until the end of time for. You are throwing them a party as a thank you for taking the time and money necessary to attend and witness your ceremony. Yours is one of dozens of weddings that any given person will attend, so no no matter how SPESHUL you and your wedding is, it's really just another one to them. So treat them with gratitude to coming to yours. Attending weddings can cost thousands, my friends- there is gas or plane tickets, there's hotel rooms and gifts and time off work and missed opportunities to do something other than be treated like children by children. 

    If you don't like spending all that money on your guests, or if you are so worried that your guests will ruin YOUR moment (pro tip: it is also your groom's moment, and your families', and your guests'), then don't have any. It's that simple. 
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    kitty8403 said: 
    :-) yeah, you got it hon. Major stressor for me. Not trying to threadjack, just saying I wish people in general would be more thoughtful/ less pushy about photos. Pay attention to whether or not you're blocking a shot or being too invasive. (And for the love of God, if you're asked to back off, please just back off.) All the posters saying "let it go," people will do what they do--great in theory but it doesn't reduce the stress load on the other end one tiny bit. It comes off sounding more like "shut up and take it." :-/ Can I write myself a prescription for wine? Lots and lots of wine?

    I have this issue too. I have a relative who needs to document every single dinner we have together every damn time and I have asked her repeatedly over the years to NOT point her camera at me and she just won't listen. It is probably a social anxiety thing, but for those of you who don't get this whole 'having my picture taken is stressful' thing, it is kind of like if someone holds their palm up about an inch away from your face and refusing to put it down. It's that kind of uncomfortable. You just want to pull away and they won't let you because "It's just a picture!!" I don't understand it either but it is how I am. Yes I know the wedding day is going to be all pictures all the time and people touching me and hugging me which is worse. I am sort of planning to have someone carry a flask for me. I don't really drink, but it might help take the edge off.

    I don't care if they take pictures otherwise, except that I think it's sad and tacky to stand around constantly pointing your phone at supposedly meaningful moments instead of experiencing them. I know I won't notice on the day and I'll be glad to have the pictures blah blah but sad and tacky.
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    I rarely take photos at a wedding.  I've tired, but with all those people it rarely turned out well.

    That said, I'm a mind wanderer.   Especially if I'm a church.  I get irrationally irritated sitting in a church.  To calm myself down I start looking at what people are wearing, wondering how someone is connected to the couple.  I spend a lot of time looking at the architecture.   I love looking at the beams, stain glass, etc.

    So I guess my point it, sadly with or without a camera I doubt I'm giving you as much attention as you would want me to.   So please stop with the put down your camera so you can be in the moment crap.  Taking a picture does not mean you are not in the moment anymore than not taking a picture means you are.     








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    lyndausvi said: I rarely take photos at a wedding.  I've tired, but with all those people it rarely turned out well.
    That said, I'm a mind wanderer.   Especially if I'm a church.  I get irrationally irritated sitting in a church.  To calm myself down I start looking at what people are wearing, wondering how someone is connected to the couple.  I spend a lot of time looking at the architecture.   I love looking at the beams, stain glass, etc.
    So I guess my point it, sadly with or without a camera I doubt I'm giving you as much attention as you would want me to.   So please stop with the put down your camera so you can be in the moment crap.  Taking a picture does not mean you are not in the moment anymore than not taking a picture means you are.     

    ----------------------- I'd honestly prefer a ringtone to go off or for people to be obviously texting or playing candy crush or daydreaming through the ceremony than needing to see the thing they     are paying attention to through a phone. I just think it's weird. I think it's weird when I do it "oh this thing is so great I should be taking a picture of it instead of paying attention!" It's not about me needing attention; it's about me being a 90 year old in a 20 something body who thinks "kids these days and their nintendos! :shakes fist:"

    I'm not going to give anyone shit about it. I just think it's sad. Now if you'll excuse me, I need to put my dentures in because it's almost 11am and I need to get to bickford's for the early bird special.
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    moresmores said:
    I'm sorry but I just don't get what the fuss is in asking people to put there phones away like I'm spending a shit ton of money for these people to be here at my wedding so I think the least you could do is pay attention to what I've done for you!!!!!! Weddings aren't cheap my friends and if I'm going to pay a thousands of dollars on someone to take pictures of my on my freaking wedding day I don't want any damn iPhones with your bright ass phone covers distracting from my moment!
    Bless your heart.
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    moresmores said:
    jdluvr06 said:
    moresmores said:
    I'm sorry but I just don't get what the fuss is in asking people to put there phones away like I'm spending a shit ton of money for these people to be here at my wedding so I think the least you could do is pay attention to what I've done for you!!!!!! Weddings aren't cheap my friends and if I'm going to pay a thousands of dollars on someone to take pictures of my on my freaking wedding day I don't want any damn iPhones with your bright ass phone covers distracting from my moment!

    There is so much wrong with this I don't know where to start so I'll just say NO!
    That's what I'm saying it's like "no!" Just put your damn camera down and trust the photographer
    As a guest I trust yur photographer. . . to get really killer shots for you, the bride and groom, which they are then going to sell to you at a premium.  Your pro photographer will also happily sell me, your guest, those photos too.

    But guess what?  I don't want to pay all that money for a few pictures of your wedding!  Not when I am more than capable of taking the pictures that I want on my own.

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    My photographer had a similar clause in her contract and when I asked it turned out to be a CYA thing, and she didn't really care what people did, other than letting her generally be in charge. Just so I don't try to sue her if someone lunges if front of her during a particular shot.

    I see the value of putting your phone down for a minute and just experiencing something, but I'd be a little sad if told not to take pics during a wedding.
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    My XH's friend had this GINORMOUS camera with an even bigger flash on it and he even tried to butt in while my photographer was taking the pro-shots.

    Guess what?  She was so good at what she does (because she is a professional), that he is only in like 2 shots with his bigass camera.  

    Professionals should be able to work around people.

    And there is also this thing called photoshop.  It's magical.
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    tortoisebride said:
    lyndausvi said:
    I rarely take photos at a wedding.  I've tired, but with all those people it rarely turned out well.

    That said, I'm a mind wanderer.   Especially if I'm a church.  I get irrationally irritated sitting in a church.  To calm myself down I start looking at what people are wearing, wondering how someone is connected to the couple.  I spend a lot of time looking at the architecture.   I love looking at the beams, stain glass, etc.

    So I guess my point it, sadly with or without a camera I doubt I'm giving you as much attention as you would want me to.   So please stop with the put down your camera so you can be in the moment crap.  Taking a picture does not mean you are not in the moment anymore than not taking a picture means you are.     


    ----------------------- I'd honestly prefer a ringtone to go off or for people to be obviously texting or playing candy crush or daydreaming through the ceremony than needing to see the thing they are paying attention to through a phone. I just think it's weird. I think it's weird when I do it "oh this thing is so great I should be taking a picture of it instead of paying attention!" It's not about me needing attention; it's about me being a 90 year old in a 20 something body who thinks "kids these days and their nintendos! :shakes fist:"

    I'm not going to give anyone shit about it. I just think it's sad. Now if you'll excuse me, I need to put my dentures in because it's almost 11am and I need to get to bickford's for the early bird special.
    I take pictures at weddings (not a lot but some) because 1) the couple getting married are typically friends and as a friend to them I want to capture the moment so I can look back on my photos and smile at the memories that they bring back, 2) typically this is a time where we get to see friends and acquaintances that we may not see often because of everyone's busy lives so it is a nice opportunity to take pictures and capture that moment in time and 3) H and I rarely get dressed up so it is a nice time to get a good picture of us not in our sweats.

    I just find that when I am at an event or whatever and I am having a great time and loving what I am seeing I tend to want to take a picture or two so that I have that memory captured forever.  I love looking back at all the pictures that my parents have of when they were younger and were on vacations or at weddings or at backyard BBQs.  I couldn't imagine not having those pictures and not getting a little peek into what they were like when they were my age.

    Pictures are important.  Do I think people should be climbing over each other and jumping out into the aisle?  No.  But when people say that they want their guests to "be in the moment" or "pay attention to what is going on and not through a camera" don't they realize that their guests are paying attention when they take pictures and most likely are enjoying what they are seeing enough to want to capture it and have that moment forever?

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    I had a cellphone video of my processional up on Facebook before the cocktail hour was over with.  If I hadn't been tagged in it, I might never have noticed.

    If your ceremony officiant makes a small, polite and to the point announcement before everything starts, I can deal with that.  Especially if they do it as a church policy (no flash photography/nobody is allowed up on the altar to take photos).

    I just think if these guests you're worried about are the type to jump in front of a professional photographer, nothing short of not inviting them to the wedding is going to keep them from doing something rude and in the way the day of the wedding.  Just like putting up a dress code on your invites isn't going to stop the people who were going to wear inappropriately short cut offs and a midriff-baring top.  Most likely, the best thing to do would be to tell the photographer anyone who is likely to cause problems so they, as your professional vendor, can deal with/work around a possible problem.
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    If the photographer knows what he is doing this shouldn't be an issue. You can't really tell people they can't take pictures. I don't really see a polite way of doing this unfortunately. I would also think the bride was being a 'zilla if I heard a request like that.
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