You want to hear snarky...? Fiance and I kicked his Best Man

cncanderson2014 · May 2014

out 4 weeks before the wedding. Yup. Best Man's wife had some serious issues with me, because I was against her and him smoking weed around me and my fiancé and did not want them taking it to my wedding. Nor did I want them to take it to fiancé's Bachelor Party, which they didn't listen and caused some issues at our other friends house. His wife ruined a good chunk of my party so I finally had it. Wrote her a letter to either be respectful to my rules or find another destination. Fiance got a text message from the Best Man that he had warned Fiance to control his woman (me).Poor honey looked at me and said, guess I need to find a new Best Man and gave me kisses (so sad how something like that ruins a 15 year friendship). Such a sweet man. We have ZERO tolerance for drugs; even if some states legalize it; I'm not legalizing it in my house. Period. But this whole wedding has definitely made us realize who really is family and friend. So glad we decided to escape and do the wedding in Florida. Still wishing my children were with us, but I also desperately need alone time and a real honeymoon with my sweet man.

mrsmorales2be · May 2014

Some people! Smh Glad FI stood up for you like that.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:
out 4 weeks before the wedding. Yup. Best Man's wife had some serious issues with me, because I was against her and him smoking weed around me and my fiancé and did not want them taking it to my wedding. Nor did I want them to take it to fiancé's Bachelor Party, which they didn't listen and caused some issues at our other friends house. His wife ruined a good chunk of my party so I finally had it. Wrote her a letter to either be respectful to my rules or find another destination. Fiance got a text message from the Best Man that he had warned Fiance to control his woman (me).Poor honey looked at me and said, guess I need to find a new Best Man and gave me kisses (so sad how something like that ruins a 15 year friendship). Such a sweet man. We have ZERO tolerance for drugs; even if some states legalize it; I'm not legalizing it in my house. Period. But this whole wedding has definitely made us realize who really is family and friend. So glad we decided to escape and do the wedding in Florida. Still wishing my children were with us, but I also desperately need alone time and a real honeymoon with my sweet man.

So you attempted to force your views on someone else and it didn't work and you ended your FI's relationship with his friend of 15 years?

Not sure how you let someone ruin your party, but uhmm....yeah.

I got nothin'.

cncanderson2014 · May 2014

They smoked out at a childrens birthday party that my children attended. I told them how I felt, that I did not want them to smoke that stuff near me and they didn't like it. I didn't force anything, I gave them an option. I didn't want them forcing their ILLEGAL habit near my home or my wedding. Not to much to ask. They had a choice; they chose weed over us. That's how Fiance and I see it.

ohannabelle · May 2014

"....so sad that something like that ruins a 15 year friendship."

Yes, it's sad when self righteous judgement ruins things. (I just hate it when I can't control what other people allow in their own homes.)

OnceUponAVine · May 2014

Gotta love the sanctimonious judgement. I'm not getting into the pot debate - but it sounds like everyone in that "friendship" has some issues.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:
They smoked out at a childrens birthday party that my children attended. I told them how I felt, that I did not want them to smoke that stuff near me and they didn't like it. I didn't force anything, I gave them an option. I didn't want them forcing their ILLEGAL habit near my home or my wedding. Not to much to ask. They had a choice; they chose weed over us. That's how Fiance and I see it.

Then you should have removed your children, not been sanctimoniously uptight about someone else's habit.

You very nicely gave them the option of removing themselves from your life, for which probably they are very thankful.

Presumably they chose a non-judgemental habit over judgemental friends.

Can't say as I blame them.

cncanderson2014 · May 2014

I think everyone is missing the point. My wedding; my rules. What you do in your own home with your kids is none of my business. Putting myself and my children at risk WITHOUT my knowledge is not. Give me the respect to make my own choice to stay or leave. You can't leave the pot alone at MY EVENTS; you can stay home. If its so important to have it that you can't attend a wedding without it that you choose your friendship over it: I say good riddance. I stick to someone else's rules with their family and respect the boundaries, respect mine. So if someone does a little meth and coke or drinks and drives with your children present, I'm sure it wouldn't be ok. But I guess weed is acceptable? Don't think so...lol! Loving these comical responses.

beethery · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:

I think everyone is missing the point. My wedding; my rules. What you do in your own home with your kids is none of my business. Putting myself and my children at risk WITHOUT my knowledge is not. Give me the respect to make my own choice to stay or leave. You can't leave the pot alone at MY EVENTS; you can stay home. If its so important to have it that you can't attend a wedding without it that you choose your friendship over it: I say good riddance. I stick to someone else's rules with their family and respect the boundaries, respect mine. So if someone does a little meth and coke or drinks and drives with your children present, I'm sure it wouldn't be ok. But I guess weed is acceptable? Don't think so...lol! Loving these comical responses.

Also, unless they were hotboxing the kids and trying to make them eat hash brownies, you need to hit the chill button. Be excited that you guys aren't friends with them anymore and moooooooove the fuck on.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:
I think everyone is missing the point. My wedding; my rules. What you do in your own home with your kids is none of my business. Putting myself and my children at risk WITHOUT my knowledge is not. Give me the respect to make my own choice to stay or leave. You can't leave the pot alone at MY EVENTS; you can stay home. If its so important to have it that you can't attend a wedding without it that you choose your friendship over it: I say good riddance. I stick to someone else's rules with their family and respect the boundaries, respect mine. So if someone does a little meth and coke or drinks and drives with your children present, I'm sure it wouldn't be ok. But I guess weed is acceptable? Don't think so...lol! Loving these comical responses.

No, we got the point. You tried to enforce your wedding rules on someone else at an event that you weren't hosting and you got pissy when you couldn't.

You may certainly bar drugs or drug users at your wedding (DH and I did; his sister wasn't invited.) But you can't get sanctimonious about what they do in their own home or at parties which you aren't hosting.

sweetwisconsin · May 2014

Did you not know before you asked him to be in the wedding that he smoked pot? It sounds like you did if they were smoking at a birthday. I am not sure why you are surprised that this would be any different for your wedding day.

cncanderson2014 · May 2014

Ha-ha! Ok.. I said it after the event. I never said in my thread that i said it at that Party. but to clarify I did Not at that party because I was not aware until we were about to leave and they came out of the garage with a cloud of smoke and I smelled it. Nor was it the time and place and not how I deal with an issue. We left and were leaving anyway, but yes, I mentioned it afterwards that it was not welcome in my home or at any of my events that they chose to ignore at our bachelor parties. So after I verbally asked them politely to keep it away from my home and my bachelor events, and they didn't, I stated written again that if they couldn't leave it home then they needed to rethink their plans. We have 14 other people that are also strongly against it with their careers and lifestyles (military for instance). Plus its the houses I'm renting with my money., my security deposit. I'm not a drama queen. Just asked them to be respectful of us and our friends. I had no clue they even smoked and I have friends that do, but they know that it doesn't come into my home. Or they warn me in their home when they will light up. Certainly don't do it when anyones children are present. Either way, I'm saddened that they couldn't leave it at home for 4 days, let alone a couple of hours. Glad Fiancé has his old High School buddy flying in to fill the space. He was going to be there anyway. But he's getting into the role and making what was a stressful situation into a smooth transition

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:
Ha-ha! Ok.. I said it after the event. I never said in my thread that i said it at that Party. but to clarify I did Not at that party because I was not aware until we were about to leave and they came out of the garage with a cloud of smoke and I smelled it. Nor was it the time and place and not how I deal with an issue. We left and were leaving anyway, but yes, I mentioned it afterwards that it was not welcome in my home or at any of my events that they chose to ignore at our bachelor parties. So after I verbally asked them politely to keep it away from my home and my bachelor events, and they didn't, I stated written again that if they couldn't leave it home then they needed to rethink their plans. We have 14 other people that are also strongly against it with their careers and lifestyles (military for instance). Plus its the houses I'm renting with my money., my security deposit. I'm not a drama queen. Just asked them to be respectful of us and our friends. I had no clue they even smoked and I have friends that do, but they know that it doesn't come into my home. Or they warn me in their home when they will light up. Certainly don't do it when anyones children are present. Either way, I'm saddened that they couldn't leave it at home for 4 days, let alone a couple of hours. Glad Fiancé has his old High School buddy flying in to fill the space. He was going to be there anyway. But he's getting into the role and making what was a stressful situation into a smooth transition

Based on the evidence you've presented here, I beg to differ.

cncanderson2014 · May 2014

I'm not against anyone smoking as long as it does not implicate me. Texas doesn't mess around. I can't afford to lose a job, custody or otherwise if someone chooses to randomly light up. I had no clue until the party and Fiancé told me afterwards, but even he was surprised they would do it at a child's birthday party. But he didn't even realize that his friend has started to smoke it so much in recent months that he takes it everywhere. If someone smokes cigarettes, I'm not going to tell them they can't come. I simply tell them please do not smoke in the house. Weed is still illegal and taking it outside and risking someone to smell it, (intolerant neighbors) is too risky for me and not worth potential drama or issues at my wedding. I'm stressed out enough to not deal with that hassle.

sweetwisconsin · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:

Ha-ha! Ok.. I said it after the event. I never said in my thread that i said it at that Party. but to clarify I did Not at that party because I was not aware until we were about to leave and they came out of the garage with a cloud of smoke and I smelled it. Nor was it the time and place and not how I deal with an issue. We left and were leaving anyway, but yes, I mentioned it afterwards that it was not welcome in my home or at any of my events that they chose to ignore at our bachelor parties. So after I verbally asked them politely to keep it away from my home and my bachelor events, and they didn't, I stated written again that if they couldn't leave it home then they needed to rethink their plans. We have 14 other people that are also strongly against it with their careers and lifestyles (military for instance). Plus its the houses I'm renting with my money., my security deposit. I'm not a drama queen. Just asked them to be respectful of us and our friends. I had no clue they even smoked and I have friends that do, but they know that it doesn't come into my home. Or they warn me in their home when they will light up. Certainly don't do it when anyones children are present. Either way, I'm saddened that they couldn't leave it at home for 4 days, let alone a couple of hours. Glad Fiancé has his old High School buddy flying in to fill the space. He was going to be there anyway. But he's getting into the role and making what was a stressful situation into a smooth transition

Stuck in Box. To the bolded. You do realize that you basically just B listed someone into the wedding party. I get that the smoking pot is probably not a good thing at your wedding. But asking someone second hand to be a "filler" is extremely rude. It is like saying, "Well you weren't good enough to be the Best Man as my first choice, but now since I have a vacancy I guess you can have it."

ohannabelle · May 2014

Dear Washington State:

Thank you for the common sense demonstrated by your voters.

I love you, and will never leave you.

Sincerely.

AlexisA01 · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:

out 4 weeks before the wedding. Yup. Best Man's wife had some serious issues with me, because I was against her and him smoking weed around me and my fiancé and did not want them taking it to my wedding. Nor did I want them to take it to fiancé's Bachelor Party, which they didn't listen and caused some issues at our other friends house. His wife ruined a good chunk of my party so I finally had it. Wrote her a letter to either be respectful to my rules or find another destination. Fiance got a text message from the Best Man that he had warned Fiance to control his woman (me).Poor honey looked at me and said, guess I need to find a new Best Man and gave me kisses (so sad how something like that ruins a 15 year friendship). Such a sweet man. We have ZERO tolerance for drugs; even if some states legalize it; I'm not legalizing it in my house. Period. But this whole wedding has definitely made us realize who really is family and friend. So glad we decided to escape and do the wedding in Florida. Still wishing my children were with us, but I also desperately need alone time and a real honeymoon with my sweet man.

Are you kidding me? To the bold...like the other PPs you sound very judgmental and caused and created an end to the friendship due to enforcing your rules at an event that isn't yours.

cncanderson2014 · May 2014

LOL Oh my goodness. I'm just glad that I was warned about ya'll. Too funny.

beethery · May 2014

THEN WHY FUCKING BOTHER? Please seek validation elsewhere.

AlexisA01 · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:

LOL Oh my goodness. I'm just glad that I was warned about ya'll. Too funny.

Warned about what exactly? You do not see that you did something wrong?

sophhabobopha · May 2014

grumbledore · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:
I think everyone is missing the point. My wedding; my rules. What you do in your own home with your kids is none of my business. Putting myself and my children at risk WITHOUT my knowledge is not. Give me the respect to make my own choice to stay or leave. You can't leave the pot alone at MY EVENTS; you can stay home. If its so important to have it that you can't attend a wedding without it that you choose your friendship over it: I say good riddance. I stick to someone else's rules with their family and respect the boundaries, respect mine. So if someone does a little meth and coke or drinks and drives with your children present, I'm sure it wouldn't be ok. But I guess weed is acceptable? Don't think so...lol! Loving these comical responses.

Blah blah blah. Get over yourself.

grumbledore · May 2014

sophhabobopha said:

Great gif, great avatar. I like you.

cncanderson2014 · May 2014

I'm not sure where I'm wrong anywhere in this thread. I told them to NOT bring it to MY EVENTS OR MY WEDDING. That's it. They did it anyway - to MY event. So I'm not sure if ya'll are messing with me or what everyone is reading wrong. I didn't appreciate the heads up at the other birthday party, so I could have had the choice to leave. I'm just glad I was out the door. But I let them know AFTER not to bring it to any event of mine. And now ya'lk are making me look bad because they decide to bring it to my event anyway? What am I not getting here?

sophhabobopha · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:

I'm not sure where I'm wrong anywhere in this thread. I told them to NOT bring it to MY EVENTS OR MY WEDDING. That's it. They did it anyway - to MY event. So I'm not sure if ya'll are messing with me or what everyone is reading wrong. I didn't appreciate the heads up at the other birthday party, so I could have had the choice to leave. I'm just glad I was out the door. But I let them know AFTER not to bring it to any event of mine. And now ya'lk are making me look bad because they decide to bring it to my event anyway? What am I not getting here?

All I'm seeing is MEMEMEME

sophhabobopha · May 2014

grumbledore said:

Great gif, great avatar. I like you.

DaisyMaeMommy · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:

I'm not sure where I'm wrong anywhere in this thread. I told them to NOT bring it to MY EVENTS OR MY WEDDING. That's it. They did it anyway - to MY event. So I'm not sure if ya'll are messing with me or what everyone is reading wrong. I didn't appreciate the heads up at the other birthday party, so I could have had the choice to leave. I'm just glad I was out the door. But I let them know AFTER not to bring it to any event of mine. And now ya'lk are making me look bad because they decide to bring it to my event anyway? What am I not getting here?

No no, we are reading it perfectly clear. You sound like a hypocritical bitch.

What they do in their home, others homes, and in PUBLIC places is none of your business. The ONLY say you have is in your own home, that's it. Sounds like you expressed your opinion about their habits and when they told you off, you threw a bitch fit and made your FH toss his Best Man aside.

Kudos to you for being a cow. Now...

beethery · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:
I'm not sure where I'm wrong anywhere in this thread. I told them to NOT bring it to MY EVENTS OR MY WEDDING. That's it. They did it anyway - to MY event. So I'm not sure if ya'll are messing with me or what everyone is reading wrong. I didn't appreciate the heads up at the other birthday party, so I could have had the choice to leave. I'm just glad I was out the door. But I let them know AFTER not to bring it to any event of mine. And now ya'lk are making me look bad because they decide to bring it to my event anyway? What am I not getting here?

No no no. You did this to yourself. Mission accomplished. Good day to you sir.

Simply Fated · May 2014

cncanderson2014 said:

out 4 weeks before the wedding. Yup. Best Man's wife had some serious issues with me, because I was against her and him smoking weed around me and my fiancé and did not want them taking it to my wedding. Nor did I want them to take it to fiancé's Bachelor Party, which they didn't listen and caused some issues at our other friends house. His wife ruined a good chunk of my party so I finally had it. Wrote her a letter to either be respectful to my rules or find another destination. Fiance got a text message from the Best Man that he had warned Fiance to control his woman (me).Poor honey looked at me and said, guess I need to find a new Best Man and gave me kisses (so sad how something like that ruins a 15 year friendship). Such a sweet man. We have ZERO tolerance for drugs; even if some states legalize it; I'm not legalizing it in my house. Period. But this whole wedding has definitely made us realize who really is family and friend. So glad we decided to escape and do the wedding in Florida. Still wishing my children were with us, but I also desperately need alone time and a real honeymoon with my sweet man.

I'm still trying to make sense of what it is that happened...
Was the bachelor party at your house?

yogablossom · May 2014

I get what you're saying. People seem to be a bit blinded by the whole weed thing since apparently getting it legalized is wicked important right now *eye roll*. Based on my experience with people who smoke weed all the time (IE my best friend), they get wicked defensive about it when approached about it. It's really not worth battling with people who are high all the time. They will usually get defensive and make you into some kind of a "judgemental a-hole". Take all of this with a grain of salt.

Blergbot · May 2014

It's one thing if people are shooting up heroin in the bathroom, but you are out of your mind if you think you're going to get arrested because someone in your vicinity is high on pot or that CPS is going to come take away your children. Again, not sure why your FI would end a 15 year friendship over this...

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