hi i posted this on another board and they weerent very nice and told me that i have to pay for hair and makeup. i am copy pasting this and hopefully i can get better answers here.
hello. this is my first post and i am not sure where to put it so i hope this is an ok place to start everything. my fiance and i got engagged a couple of months ago and we are getting married 01/24/15. when should i pick my bridesmades? i am thinking that i want ot ask my sister, his two sisters, my best friend from middle school, my friend from work, my four cousins and then maybe i will ask this girl that i recently met and started hanging out with more. i guyess i am wondering who should be my made of honor and when should i pick out there dresses? is there a creative way that you have seen to ask people to be in your wedding poarty? thanks
Re: wedding party
I second all the advice you were given.
Are you an A.E., or did you hop over The Wire?
2) Lurk. Lurk lurk lurk lurk lurk. If you lurk, you'll get to know everyone a little better, and you'd know people aren't being rude, they're being honest. There's a huge difference.
3) You aren't the first person to call us rude, nor will you be the last. A lot of us on this site look at all the boards, so making a new discussion in a different board won't likely vary the results you got the first time.
You require hair, shoes, makeup, nails...it's on you to pay for it. Otherwise trust them to handle it themselves.
You ask those whom you'd call at 3am to help you bury a body. If you don't have any friends like that, then you don't have to have a bridal party. Or just have one person.
Treat them with kindness, respect, and consider that these are people that you love.
it is rude to cut someones idea down. i dont see how asking someone to be a backup bridesmade is rude at all.
Asking someone to be your bridesmaid if something happens to another is incredibly rude. Think of it in your own shoes... Your brother is getting married, his FI wants to have you in her bridal party, but wants you to be a back up bridesmaid... how would that make you feel? Would you still want to be a bridesmaid 3-4 months before the wedding when called upon and rush order a dress etc?