Bahahaha, @Addiecake you are by far my favourite person right now! At this rate, OP will be having a cash bar, dollar dance, big gap, putting registry info in her invites with a full-on honeyfund, and not to mentioning designating duties to all of her "brideslaves" and any other loved ones she can boss around.
OP, I know you think all us ladies here are "big meanies" but if you told a friend to not get a tattoo of hello kitty on her face and then she got all huffy because you are trying to explain to her why it is a bad idea and talk her out of it you would start to get pretty darn annoyed too. So take a deep breath, pull up your big girl panties and listen to what people are saying. We are trying to help you. Oh, and when picking your BM's try to limit it to people you could call up any time of the day/night and rely on to help you out, people you couldn't imagine ever being out of your life. Whether that is 2 or 10, it doesn't matter.
My biggest problem with these threads is that I never know what to post. Do I post my advice to the original post? Do I reply to the OP's additional posts? Do I post GIFs? Do I assume this is another troll who'll come back tomorrow being all SUCKAS I GOT YOU ALL?
hi i posted this on another board and they weerent very nice and told me that i have to pay for hair and makeup. i am copy pasting this and hopefully i can get better answers here.
hello. this is my first post and i am not sure where to put it so i hope this is an ok place to start everything. my fiance and i got engagged a couple of months ago and we are getting married 01/24/15. when should i pick my bridesmades? i am thinking that i want ot ask my sister, his two sisters, my best friend from middle school, my friend from work, my four cousins and then maybe i will ask this girl that i recently met and started hanging out with more. i guyess i am wondering who should be my made of honor and when should i pick out there dresses? is there a creative way that you have seen to ask people to be in your wedding poarty? thanks
I can't tell if she just has really poor grammar, spelling, etc. or if she is maybe 12 years old.
And besides that... she's currently thinking of having 10 bridesmaids. What?
You guys are just SO MEAN!!!!
Meh, I have 10 BMs. It's not really a big deal. . .they are picking their own dresses, shoes, jewelry, and hair styles.
I am just responsible for their gifts and bouquets.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
hi i posted this on another board and they weerent very nice and told me that i have to pay for hair and makeup. i am copy pasting this and hopefully i can get better answers here.
hello. this is my first post and i am not sure where to put it so i hope this is an ok place to start everything. my fiance and i got engagged a couple of months ago and we are getting married 01/24/15. when should i pick my bridesmades? i am thinking that i want ot ask my sister, his two sisters, my best friend from middle school, my friend from work, my four cousins and then maybe i will ask this girl that i recently met and started hanging out with more. i guyess i am wondering who should be my made of honor and when should i pick out there dresses? is there a creative way that you have seen to ask people to be in your wedding poarty? thanks
I can't tell if she just has really poor grammar, spelling, etc. or if she is maybe 12 years old.
And besides that... she's currently thinking of having 10 bridesmaids. What?
You guys are just SO MEAN!!!!
Meh, I have 10 BMs. It's not really a big deal. . .they are picking their own dresses, shoes, jewelry, and hair styles.
I am just responsible for their gifts and bouquets.
Meh, I have 8. Some people just have large families/ lots of friends. I don't judge the number of BMs unless the bride is asking people she isn't really close to just because she wants to have a lot.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
hi i posted this on another board and they weerent very nice and told me that i have to pay for hair and makeup. i am copy pasting this and hopefully i can get better answers here.
hello. this is my first post and i am not sure where to put it so i hope this is an ok place to start everything. my fiance and i got engagged a couple of months ago and we are getting married 01/24/15. when should i pick my bridesmades? i am thinking that i want ot ask my sister, his two sisters, my best friend from middle school, my friend from work, my four cousins and then maybe i will ask this girl that i recently met and started hanging out with more. i guyess i am wondering who should be my made of honor and when should i pick out there dresses? is there a creative way that you have seen to ask people to be in your wedding poarty? thanks
I can't tell if she just has really poor grammar, spelling, etc. or if she is maybe 12 years old.
And besides that... she's currently thinking of having 10 bridesmaids. What?
You guys are just SO MEAN!!!!
Meh, I have 10 BMs. It's not really a big deal. . .they are picking their own dresses, shoes, jewelry, and hair styles.
I am just responsible for their gifts and bouquets.
Meh, I have 8. Some people just have large families/ lots of friends. I don't judge the number of BMs unless the bride is asking people she isn't really close to just because she wants to have a lot.
What them girls said. I only have three people because that's all I wanted to have. But if you want 10 or 20 or 42 then yeah have it. But don't just pick people to have a giant entourage. Pick people you're close to.
What them girls said. I only have three people because that's all I wanted to have. But if you want 10 or 20 or 42 then yeah have it. But don't just pick people to have a giant entourage. Pick people you're close to.
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Absolutely. It's one thing to say, "These are the people I wanted to honor, and I just happen to have 10 people I want to honor." It's another to say, "I want to have 10 bridesmaids, so I need to fill 10 spots."
it is rude to cut someones idea down. i dont see how asking someone to be a backup bridesmade is rude at all.
BRIDESMAID
and sorry but it is not rude to cut someone's idea down, especially when the idea is not a good one. You should be thankful people are honest here and want to help you. So you have two options: 1) have your backup bridesmaids and see how well that goes for you or 2) listen to everyone who is telling you it is not a good idea.
hi i posted this on another board and they weerent very nice and told me that i have to pay for hair and makeup. i am copy pasting this and hopefully i can get better answers here.
hello. this is my first post and i am not sure where to put it so i hope this is an ok place to start everything. my fiance and i got engagged a couple of months ago and we are getting married 01/24/15. when should i pick my bridesmades? i am thinking that i want ot ask my sister, his two sisters, my best friend from middle school, my friend from work, my four cousins and then maybe i will ask this girl that i recently met and started hanging out with more. i guyess i am wondering who should be my made of honor and when should i pick out there dresses? is there a creative way that you have seen to ask people to be in your wedding poarty? thanks
I can't tell if she just has really poor grammar, spelling, etc. or if she is maybe 12 years old.
And besides that... she's currently thinking of having 10 bridesmaids. What?
You guys are just SO MEAN!!!!
Meh, I have 10 BMs. It's not really a big deal. . .they are picking their own dresses, shoes, jewelry, and hair styles.
I am just responsible for their gifts and bouquets.
Meh, I have 8. Some people just have large families/ lots of friends. I don't judge the number of BMs unless the bride is asking people she isn't really close to just because she wants to have a lot.
Poor word choice on my part. I was more startled at her line of thinking with her BMs.
With the wedding being less then a year away, you need to ask ASAP because depending on where they end up getting their dresses from, they may need to be ordered soon. I would just ask each of them individually over coffee or drinks. After you ask each girl, ask them to get back to you in a week with what price range they would be comfortable paying for their dress and then start looking based on the cheapest budget you are given. You are going to have a very large wedding party. Not sure if you have a strict budget you need to stick with but keep this in mind, for every person you have in your wedding party you need to budget for flowers and wedding gift for. Plus that is another person you have to invite (plus SO) to the rehersal dinner. Also if you plan on renting a limo, the more people you have the larger the limo you will need & the higher the price the limo will be. If you have 20 people, you need a limo bus that will hold 30 people else you will all be sitting hip to hip and you don't want to be that close to people in your dress. Also, how well do these individuals get along? Do they get along great or will there be fights amongst the bridal party for control and clashing personality? You may not think that's your problem, but they will all come to you to complain & make your planning a nightmare.
With the wedding being less then a year away, you need to ask ASAP because depending on where they end up getting their dresses from, they may need to be ordered soon. I would just ask each of them individually over coffee or drinks. After you ask each girl, ask them to get back to you in a week with what price range they would be comfortable paying for their dress and then start looking based on the cheapest budget you are given. You are going to have a very large wedding party. Not sure if you have a strict budget you need to stick with but keep this in mind, for every person you have in your wedding party you need to budget for flowers and wedding gift for. Plus that is another person you have to invite (plus SO) to the rehersal dinner. Also if you plan on renting a limo, the more people you have the larger the limo you will need & the higher the price the limo will be. If you have 20 people, you need a limo bus that will hold 30 people else you will all be sitting hip to hip and you don't want to be that close to people in your dress. Also, how well do these individuals get along? Do they get along great or will there be fights amongst the bridal party for control and clashing personality? You may not think that's your problem, but they will all come to you to complain & make your planning a nightmare.
Wait, her wedding is in 2015, I don't think she needs to hurry on that. I can't believe that they would need to order dresses soon. What if sizes change? There are plenty of places that will let you order a lot closer to the wedding. I can't imagine being stressed about that at 7 months out.
What does the bridal party have to fight about? Heck they don't even have to be in the same room until the rehearsal dinner. I picked my nearest and dearest and expect them to act like adults. If they can't do so, I don't want to hear it. I don't care who did what to who, I'm not going to hear petty arguments.
With the wedding being less then a year away, you need to ask ASAP because depending on where they end up getting their dresses from, they may need to be ordered soon. I would just ask each of them individually over coffee or drinks. After you ask each girl, ask them to get back to you in a week with what price range they would be comfortable paying for their dress and then start looking based on the cheapest budget you are given. You are going to have a very large wedding party. Not sure if you have a strict budget you need to stick with but keep this in mind, for every person you have in your wedding party you need to budget for flowers and wedding gift for. Plus that is another person you have to invite (plus SO) to the rehersal dinner. Also if you plan on renting a limo, the more people you have the larger the limo you will need & the higher the price the limo will be. If you have 20 people, you need a limo bus that will hold 30 people else you will all be sitting hip to hip and you don't want to be that close to people in your dress. Also, how well do these individuals get along? Do they get along great or will there be fights amongst the bridal party for control and clashing personality? You may not think that's your problem, but they will all come to you to complain & make your planning a nightmare.
Wait, her wedding is in 2015, I don't think she needs to hurry on that. I can't believe that they would need to order dresses soon. What if sizes change? There are plenty of places that will let you order a lot closer to the wedding. I can't imagine being stressed about that at 7 months out.
What does the bridal party have to fight about? Heck they don't even have to be in the same room until the rehearsal dinner. I picked my nearest and dearest and expect them to act like adults. If they can't do so, I don't want to hear it. I don't care who did what to who, I'm not going to hear petty arguments.
STIB
This is exactly what my FI and I discussed when he was having a hard time choosing between two GMs that had recently had a huge falling out. I told him that he should choose who he wants, and if that is both of them, then he should ask them both. They are adults, and I don't see any reason why they can't get along.
As for you OP, please don't have back-up bridesmaids. And please listen to what these ladies say. They have helped many brides avoid making some pretty embarassing mistakes (even some little ones that I almost made!)
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
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These are forums, that's what happens. You asked us.
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
Composer / musician here! I know those artist feels.
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
I love you artist folk and have complete respect because I could not do what you do, but can someone please tell the teacher in middle school to be nice to art students? We were required to take art and I tried my best, I just had no ability. I have an eye for art and I know what looks wrong, I have no ability to teach it. My art teacher, in 7th grade, told me that I best never try to create anything because I was a terrible artist and I would never make anything worth looking at. I tried so hard, I just sucked at it, but I hated everything to do with art until I went to college and realized that most artists weren't that way.
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
I love you artist folk and have complete respect because I could not do what you do, but can someone please tell the teacher in middle school to be nice to art students? We were required to take art and I tried my best, I just had no ability. I have an eye for art and I know what looks wrong, I have no ability to teach it. My art teacher, in 7th grade, told me that I best never try to create anything because I was a terrible artist and I would never make anything worth looking at. I tried so hard, I just sucked at it, but I hated everything to do with art until I went to college and realized that most artists weren't that way.
I had a terrible art teacher in school too! We were making clay bowls once and my friend made a lopsided one and the teacher said "Have you never seen a bowl? Can you not do something so simple!? I pity you, those who can't create can't see the beauty in the world!", said friend now makes a nice living as an animator. But she still can't make a bowl.
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
Composer / musician here! I know those artist feels.
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Performance art counts! It's got art right in there! I'm a dancer too. I can play piano and guitar, but I have great respect for composers, because I couldn't write a jingle if my life depended on.
Oh no, no it's not rude to tell someone their rude idea is in fact rude. You have been horribly misinformed. I'm an artist. Do you know how many time in my life I have had people tell my idea for an art project is shitty and exactly why it is shitty? I listen to those people because they know more then I do and I make appropriate changes. Learning to accept criticism is part of being a grown up.
SITB:
ME TOO! HI!!
That is all. Not touching the rest of this, entertaining as it is.
Yay two artists! Or maybe more! But for sure, two!!!
Composer / musician here! I know those artist feels.
Re: wedding party
Bahahaha, @Addiecake you are by far my favourite person right now! At this rate, OP will be having a cash bar, dollar dance, big gap, putting registry info in her invites with a full-on honeyfund, and not to mentioning designating duties to all of her "brideslaves" and any other loved ones she can boss around.
OP, I know you think all us ladies here are "big meanies" but if you told a friend to not get a tattoo of hello kitty on her face and then she got all huffy because you are trying to explain to her why it is a bad idea and talk her out of it you would start to get pretty darn annoyed too. So take a deep breath, pull up your big girl panties and listen to what people are saying. We are trying to help you. Oh, and when picking your BM's try to limit it to people you could call up any time of the day/night and rely on to help you out, people you couldn't imagine ever being out of your life. Whether that is 2 or 10, it doesn't matter.
And I just have to use these....
hehehe
Meh, I have 10 BMs. It's not really a big deal. . .they are picking their own dresses, shoes, jewelry, and hair styles.
I am just responsible for their gifts and bouquets.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
and sorry but it is not rude to cut someone's idea down, especially when the idea is not a good one. You should be thankful people are honest here and want to help you. So you have two options: 1) have your backup bridesmaids and see how well that goes for you or 2) listen to everyone who is telling you it is not a good idea.
Poor word choice on my part. I was more startled at her line of thinking with her BMs.
With the wedding being less then a year away, you need to ask ASAP because depending on where they end up getting their dresses from, they may need to be ordered soon. I would just ask each of them individually over coffee or drinks. After you ask each girl, ask them to get back to you in a week with what price range they would be comfortable paying for their dress and then start looking based on the cheapest budget you are given. You are going to have a very large wedding party. Not sure if you have a strict budget you need to stick with but keep this in mind, for every person you have in your wedding party you need to budget for flowers and wedding gift for. Plus that is another person you have to invite (plus SO) to the rehersal dinner. Also if you plan on renting a limo, the more people you have the larger the limo you will need & the higher the price the limo will be. If you have 20 people, you need a limo bus that will hold 30 people else you will all be sitting hip to hip and you don't want to be that close to people in your dress. Also, how well do these individuals get along? Do they get along great or will there be fights amongst the bridal party for control and clashing personality? You may not think that's your problem, but they will all come to you to complain & make your planning a nightmare.
Uh oh, I think you burst her bubble....
are you guys still going on about this? get over yourselves
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These are forums, that's what happens. You asked us.
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I love you artist folk and have complete respect because I could not do what you do, but can someone please tell the teacher in middle school to be nice to art students? We were required to take art and I tried my best, I just had no ability. I have an eye for art and I know what looks wrong, I have no ability to teach it. My art teacher, in 7th grade, told me that I best never try to create anything because I was a terrible artist and I would never make anything worth looking at.
I'm the fuck out.