Elopement étiquette

LDay2014 · May 2014

Knottie94763765 said:
HisGirlFriday13 I do not think her husband knows that she posted the photos on Facebook.

Then that's between them. If she wants you to throw a party (and you agree to it) then fine, what she discusses with her husband is not your concern. Let her be an adult and deal with the consequences if he didn't...it's not your business

CMGragain · May 2014

A marriage announcement is a simple note that formally tells people that the couple is married. Facebook is not formal. The announcement is not combined with an invitation. That should be sent separately, or people will think it is a wanna-be wedding party. There is no such thing as an "elopement announcement", since the marriage announcement does not give any details.

Mr. and Mrs. Bridesparents
announce the marriage of their daughter
Bride's First Middle
to
Mr. John Bridegroom
Date of ceremony
City, State

This is sent to as many people as you wish. It does not mean that these people should send a gift. You might get cards of congratulations.

The party is simply a party. You should be the thrilled and happy hostess, who is so pleased about her daughter's marriage. Unless you want to look like a fool, put on your public smile and tell everyone how romantic elopements are! You should serve food and drink, and your daughter can display photos from her honeymoon. She does not wear a wedding dress.

I was a MOB four years ago. I sympathize with your position, but you need to make the best of this situation. Keep smiling, and don't criticize. You will look like a wonderful lady.

gla2492gg · May 2014

Thank you very much!

gla2492gg · May 2014

Thank you so much! I really appreciate it.

HeatherKat · May 2014

scribe95 said:

And no registering for gifts!

*SITMFB*

You shouldn't register at all? I get that by choosing to elope you can't "expect" gifts (not that you should, but you know what I mean), but I imagine that some people would still want to give the newlyweds something. Is it that wrong to register so you can point people in the right direction, and give out the registry info only if they ask?

Blue_Bird · May 2014

HeatherKat said:

scribe95 said:

And no registering for gifts!

*SITMFB*

You shouldn't register at all? I get that by choosing to elope you can't "expect" gifts (not that you should, but you know what I mean), but I imagine that some people would still want to give the newlyweds something. Is it that wrong to register so you can point people in the right direction, and give out the registry info only if they ask?

You register for wedding gifts. The wedding has come and gone, and they did not invite any guests. To register or expect gifts would be greedy at this point. Any gift they receive (a big IF) should be graciously accepted.

HeatherKat · May 2014

Blue_Bird said:

HeatherKat said:

scribe95 said:

And no registering for gifts!

*SITMFB*

You shouldn't register at all? I get that by choosing to elope you can't "expect" gifts (not that you should, but you know what I mean), but I imagine that some people would still want to give the newlyweds something. Is it that wrong to register so you can point people in the right direction, and give out the registry info only if they ask?

You register for wedding gifts. The wedding has come and gone, and they did not invite any guests. To register or expect gifts would be greedy at this point. Any gift they receive (a big IF) should be graciously accepted.

Fair enough, and good points. As a newly-eloped wife, I wouldn't expect gifts, but as a friend of the newly married couple I'd totally want to get them a gift to celebrate! I get why registering is in poor taste, though.

gothic_fairy60 · May 2014

You really shouldn't delete.Your posts might be able to answer questions that another person has.

chibiyui · May 2014

Everything you said that had any substance to it was quoted. Deleting just makes it look like you threw a hissy fit and left.

huskypuppy14 · May 2014

I think we see why the daughter eloped.

kitsunegari89 · May 2014

is this real life? Who deletes all their posts? The sig just makes it more hysterical. I am dead bye forever.

phira · June 2014

mrshutzler said:

is this real life? Who deletes all their posts? The sig just makes it more hysterical. I am dead bye forever.

YUP.

AlexisA01 · June 2014

Why was the post deleted? All i keep seeing "Mom of daughter that just eloped"

CMGragain · June 2014

I have a feeling that Mom was worried that her daughter might see her posts, some of which were judgmental. Since they were quoted, that could still happen, though.

phira · June 2014

AlexisA01 said:

Why was the post deleted? All i keep seeing "Mom of daughter that just eloped"

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